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    My family is cancer. Alcoholic parents and domineering sisters.

    I'm the youngest by many years (sisters are 10+ years older), and according to everyone, that means I should just be quiet when someone is being unfair to me. I hate it. I want some acknowledgement. I want to be treated nicely.

    Another problem is that I cannot control my emotions, especially when arguments happen between me and my family. I get extremely angry, then break down and start crying. With every argument, I have to be the one who apologises. I have to be scolded and shown my place. How do I get a hold of myself? My family is not inherently bad but some things that happen just aren't fair. How do I keep my cool? I want to be the person who has no emotional response to anything my family does. I love them, and they love me, but things often get ugly when we fight. I've tried talking and communication but it gets me nowhere. I'm a 19 year old male who cries like a girl when a family member yells at me.

    I'm just waiting to get into med school (I have interviews which I need to do well on and get an offer) so I can start my own life away from everyone. Does that make me a horrible person?

    Sometimes I feel that I will always be miserable and depressed no matter what happens. I don't feel happy and I don't know what I can do. How do I get stronger?
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    Get into med school. Pass exams. Get a degree. That's what you want right? If so, make sure nothing stops you
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    (Original post by jerome_bartlett)
    My family is cancer. Alcoholic parents and domineering sisters.

    I'm the youngest by many years (sisters are 10+ years older), and according to everyone, that means I should just be quiet when someone is being unfair to me. I hate it. I want some acknowledgement. I want to be treated nicely.

    Another problem is that I cannot control my emotions, especially when arguments happen between me and my family. I get extremely angry, then break down and start crying. With every argument, I have to be the one who apologises. I have to be scolded and shown my place. How do I get a hold of myself? My family is not inherently bad but some things that happen just aren't fair. How do I keep my cool? I want to be the person who has no emotional response to anything my family does. I love them, and they love me, but things often get ugly when we fight. I've tried talking and communication but it gets me nowhere. I'm a 19 year old male who cries like a girl when a family member yells at me.

    I'm just waiting to get into med school (I have interviews which I need to do well on and get an offer) so I can start my own life away from everyone. Does that make me a horrible person?

    Sometimes I feel that I will always be miserable and depressed no matter what happens. I don't feel happy and I don't know what I can do. How do I get stronger?
    Firstly cut the 'cry like a girl' crap you have every right to cry as a boy and man. You're living in difficult circumstances so it's not surprising. However you need to try your best to keep your distance from these family arguments literally leave the room, fingers in ears go to your room lock your door. Spend as much time with people outside of the house, friends or people who share your interests and as little time as possible at home in this toxic environment.

    I've been there and if you spend too much time involved in these useless exchanges, you will literally drain all the energy you have and there'll be nothing left to put into your future and career.

    You have to be selfish and you have to put yourself first. Whether you choose to do medicine or anything else.
 
 
 
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