When girls prefer to make you happy in the bedroom

But that just wouldn't be true

I'm fairly dominant. Never had any complaints. Isn't it boring af to be with someone really tame all the time?

Tame is not the word i'd use. In my experience it's the shy, submissive types who are more open to kinky stuff.

I know, I know. But that just feels so cliche and overdone. I mean, the best sex I've ever had was with a guy who could be submissive as hell. The surprising-ness of it made it so much hotter somehow.

Sorry, I'm rambling now. It's just that the 'fortunately most girls are still submissive' thing you said got me thinking.

guess for me. my biggest concern with partner is loyalty.


I've noticed that girls who like to please tend to like. want to please a lot of people. they tend to cheat more.

"people pleasers" as a wider character type ted to appear emotionally unstable because after they run out of energy to keep up the "happy mask" they switch on you or just avoid being around you because they think you require a performance. Not only this but the pressure of trying to please everyone can be a lot and they can turn to self medication.
Go to an AA meeting see the people you'll see what I'm talking about.

Also due to being a people pleaser they can tend to also lie and keep the truth from you because they want you to think "everything's ok"

Could be her way of avoiding having to engage in activities which have proved a disappointment in the past?

Or, may suggest a lack of confidence in a man 's ability to please her? Perhaps she's had frustrating experiences she doesn't want to repeat?

Do you mean when they let you watch Match of the Day, rather than whining that they'd really like to watch EastEnders?

HOW DO YOU KNOW ALL THIS?



no because he asks if I am happy too.

When I do this it's basically because I know I won't be able to finish, so I may as well make the other person finish. Because I've had guys get very frustrated and even angry (?) at me for, well, not coming before. So I kinda side-step that whole issue altogether by doing this.

I may have missed the point reading all this but pleasing a woman should not be a chore. I'm not a massive fan of going down on a girl or doing the slow, gentle, go forever type sex (I never thought I'd say it but I actually get bored during that type of sex) so I do something I enjoy (handwork) to bring the girl to orgasm before I go for it at relatively quick pace. Unless your with a dominant girl then most won't demand that you please her in a certain way.

Fortunately a lot of girls are still relatively submissive in the bedroom.

I'm fairly dominant. Never had any complaints. Isn't it boring af to be with someone really tame all the time?

I dont find it a chore..ive never tried! so im open.

but some girls have a tendency to be givers is all.I wonder why they choose to be like this

Perhaps it might be an idea to let said wenches decide these things for themselves? If they're happy giving then who are we to intervene?

True of feminist/promiscuous chicks, for sure (although this has never happened to me) Women leaving for better sex.

Surely you don't think good ordinary women don't like / need sex???? It'll be a pretty poor set up if you're 'on your own' in the act you know. No normal woman will put up with that for long.

Again, can't say I've ever experienced this ( faking it)

Hmm the point of the fake is to pull the wool over the man's eyes so not easy to find out.

They have my respect, but it doesn't increase their chances of improving things, the only things that do are the tightness of our relationship and how much energy I have/how pooped I am

Ah the innocence ! Communication is the essence of good sex. An energetic chap is not necessarily / likely to be the best lover. Pace the 18 year olds. It's all in the technique not the pace.

No sex? Huh?
I should have said no orgasm then. No 'o', no satisfaction, no long term relationship.

May be an element of that in some cases e.g. the relatively inexperienced/immature

One of the reasons,* for sure

isnt there something we as men can do to help you finish?

what am I saying..this is too personal to be asking such questions off you

cheers for your input

huh? so you want a crazy lad?

I guess the snag is that if their 'giving or submissiveness' for want of a better word means that they are not getting much out of the set up, the chances are they'll be looking elsewhere very soon and once they've found 'it' you won't see them for dust.

Some unsatisfied women decide they'll be 'giving', some that they'll do the 'faking' thing,( a ploy to get the inexperienced man off you - it'll surely not work with the knowledgeable), others that they can't be blowed with pretence at all. The best chance of improving things.

I don't believe for a moment that they are all that happy with no sex. They just don't know how to broach the topic of poor performance with a man who may well not respond positively. They probably need communication lessons. So many arguments between the sexes are a roundabout way of women voicing such problems

Young men are not famous for their sex knowledge after all. This is the real reason why some women prefer older men - they don't have to do so much education.
Also explains why some men are totally perplexed when their gf does a runner?

I dunno, maybe I'm just fickle. I've fully come with a guy literally only once. Came close a few more. Although by myself I have no trouble at all... if you get my drift. Oh well, live and let live.



No no, my point was that a lot of guys on TSR seem to be very into sexually submissive women. I'm the exact opposite and I've never had any complaints, so it was surprising to see that comment about "fortunately lots of girls are submissive".

I may have missed the point reading all this but pleasing a woman should not be a chore. I'm not a massive fan of going down on a girl or doing the slow, gentle, go forever type sex (I never thought I'd say it but I actually get bored during that type of sex) so I do something I enjoy (handwork) to bring the girl to orgasm before I go for it at relatively quick pace. Unless your with a dominant girl then most won't demand that you please her in a certain way.

Fortunately a lot of girls are still relatively submissive in the bedroom.

What do you mean by still lol. You say that as if more will become dominant?

The feminist movement has created less feminine women, certainly outside the bedroom.

what do you suggest then:?

how do you even improve on this sorta thing? first is to try..and communicate..then what?
hmmm whys that lack of effort on their part...poor technique...lack of communication...whats the difference between you alone and together..perhaps the time period?

hmm to be fair lads are happy with anyone thats into sex generally submissive or otherwise