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    Hiya. I'm a Foundation Illustration student living at home. (18, female) I'm well into my first year, but I feel alienated from all of the people on my course, and I think it has something to do with me being fairly introverted (I'm fine once i get to know people), and most of them living with each other. They seemed to already have their little groups on the very first day. During the induction week I was determined to get to know people, and was doing alright. Then I went to a halls party (Invited by one person on my course) but, as I often find with parties, the music is so frigging loud that you can't hear what anyone is saying, and they can't hear you, and I just don't have the patience for this. As they were all from the halls, already knew each other well and didn't recognise me, I got THE SAME QUESTIONS OVER AND OVER. "What course are you on?" "What's illustration?" "Where do you live?" "Currock? Where's that?" "Still don't know where that is." "What's you name?" "Sorry what?" "I can;'t hear you" The one person who did talk to me about something else for a while ended it with a personal question out of the blue that was a bit funny to ask someone you've only known for 5 mins. Then someone else tried it on with me and I was in no mood for that. I was so uncomfortable after that I mainly wandered about downing WKD and trying to look busy. It put me off a bit, to be honest, so I haven't been to any more halls parties.
    The illustration lot are pretty tight-nit, so I was a bit worried that the odd few people who have been a bit... funny with me on Facebook (I added most people from my course) yet still invite me to events that are going on, will be hostile when I meet them in person as well.

    On a more positive note, I met one person at a damn rubbish film society who is on a different (But still local) campus and in the 2nd year of their studies who I've met up with twice and met his friends (But music was loud, again, so not much chance for talking there either.) Most of my talking to people happens on Facebook, and I've joined all the nightclub/event pages, but half the people that say they're going to an event aren't there when i go, so I'm around more strangers asking me where I'm from or not really paying attention to me, because who pays attention to someone who's arrived at a party alone? Anyway, it's all a right ****ing fuss and I'm hoping someone will actually at least read this. Happy days.
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    Maybe clubs aren't for you then? Find a better society to join cause surely the "damn rubbish" one isn't the only one
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    There actually are not many societies done by my Student Union. The film society I mentioned had a poor turn out every time (Which wasn't the creator's fault by the way) and the other ones are mainly sports based, which is a big no for unphysical me. I would have joined many if there were ones that interested me on offer. Everyone who's started one mentions there being a lack of members. It's a small Uni
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    "Big no for unphysical you"? Well you've already tried (night) clubs and haven't had the best of luck, either you continue with (night) clubs and hope for the best, or get out of your comfort zone and take up a sport you're interested in. I'm sure the "sportier" people will understand that you're new to the sport
 
 
 
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