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    I'm a girl, 22, I ended up losing my virginity at long-last to a guy I met through friends of friends last weekend. The reason it hadn't happened before is I spent most of my teenage years ill and in and out of hospital, so could never form a social circle, never mind meet a boyfriend. I'd rather it have been with a boyfriend I suppose, but it not being with one didn't bother me much. Between the ages of 11-19 I rarely left the house due to illness, but have come on leaps and bounds since and am going to my dream university in September. Considering my background, I'm also pretty sociable and confident -- I've had plenty of guys approach me, but some seemed like complete players and I at least wanted to be treated decently.

    I decided to lose my virginity only partially because of social stigma, to be perfectly honest I just wanted sex. In a sense, I barely felt like a virgin - I've masturbated since my early teens, know how to please myself thoroughly and used things like dildos so there was zero pain. Whilst first-time sex wasn't mind-blowing it was actually a really enjoyable experience. He did treat me nicely as well - he didn't pressurise me remotely, said we could just cuddle, but by the time we got in his bed I'd decided to go through with it. We cuddled when we went to sleep, held hands etc. The thing is due to going away soon (and I'm doing A-Levels later than planned/work part-time) I really don't have much time on my hands and I don't want a boyfriend or a relationship. I'm meeting the guy again this weekend and I reckon we'll end up in bed again. He's decent looking and certainly turns me on, but he's not what I would choose as boyfriend material. When we meet I'm thinking of telling him that I'm not after a relationship but am happy to continue with the sex...basically I want a FWB situation. I've not got the time for a relationship, but I want to be sexually fulfilled w/o having one-night stands. He's 7 years older than me and has told me he's not normally a one-night stand person. I don't want to freak him out by saying I just want sex with him, but I know FWB situations aren't terribly uncommon, especially among people of my age.

    Should I tell him when I meet him or give it some time? I feel like we could be friends at best, but we're too different for a relationship, even if I was looking for one.
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    I'm a girl, 22, I ended up losing my virginity at long-last to a guy I met through friends of friends last weekend. The reason it hadn't happened before is I spent most of my teenage years ill and in and out of hospital, so could never form a social circle, never mind meet a boyfriend. I'd rather it have been with a boyfriend I suppose, but it not being with one didn't bother me much. Between the ages of 11-19 I rarely left the house due to illness, but have come on leaps and bounds since and am going to my dream university in September. Considering my background, I'm also pretty sociable and confident -- I've had plenty of guys approach me, but some seemed like complete players and I at least wanted to be treated decently.

    I decided to lose my virginity only partially because of social stigma, to be perfectly honest I just wanted sex. In a sense, I barely felt like a virgin - I've masturbated since my early teens, know how to please myself thoroughly and used things like dildos so there was zero pain. Whilst first-time sex wasn't mind-blowing it was actually a really enjoyable experience. He did treat me nicely as well - he didn't pressurise me remotely, said we could just cuddle, but by the time we got in his bed I'd decided to go through with it. We cuddled when we went to sleep, held hands etc. The thing is due to going away soon (and I'm doing A-Levels later than planned/work part-time) I really don't have much time on my hands and I don't want a boyfriend or a relationship. I'm meeting the guy again this weekend and I reckon we'll end up in bed again. He's decent looking and certainly turns me on, but he's not what I would choose as boyfriend material. When we meet I'm thinking of telling him that I'm not after a relationship but am happy to continue with the sex...basically I want a FWB situation. I've not got the time for a relationship, but I want to be sexually fulfilled w/o having one-night stands. He's 7 years older than me and has told me he's not normally a one-night stand person. I don't want to freak him out by saying I just want sex with him, but I know FWB situations aren't terribly uncommon, especially among people of my age.

    Should I tell him when I meet him or give it some time? I feel like we could be friends at best, but we're too different for a relationship, even if I was looking for one.
    Seems like honesty is the best policy in this situation. The longer you leave it the more hurt he might feel when you do eventually tell him.
 
 
 
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