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    A recent article, 10 Women Christian Men Should Not Marry, has had women getting hysterical - with many thinking that men should not judge women. Of course, the equivalent article about having standards in men received no outrage.

    The list of women Christian men should not marry is in the spoiler, but check the link for lots of hysterical comments from women.

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    1. The Unbeliever. Scripture is replete with exhortations against such marriages (in both the Old and New Testaments). Contrary to popular misconception, God’s prohibition against marriages to foreign women in the Old Testament was not due to racism. Instead, God was simply preventing the spread of idolatry. Israel, God’s chosen people in the Old Testament, represented what Christians would later represent in the New Testament. Hence, God’s prohibition against marrying an unbelieving woman in the New Testament (2 Cor 6:14) is simply the extension of God prohibiting a Hebrew man from from marrying a Canaanite woman in the Old Testament (Deut 7:3-4). “Do not intermarry with them. Do not give your daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons, for they will turn your children away from following me to serve other gods, and the LORD’s anger will burn against you and will quickly destroy you” (Deut 7:3-4).What then, is a believer? A Christian essentially is someone who believes in the gospel of Jesus Christ. What then, is the gospel? The gospel is: 1. God is holy, loving, and just. He therefore, must condemn all sinners to punishment in the flames of eternal hell; 2. You and I are all sinners who deserve nothing but God’s wrath in hell after our deaths; 3. God loved humanity so much that He sent His only Son, Jesus (who was fully God and fully man), to die on the cross for your sins. Jesus paid the debt for your sins and absorbed God’s wrath on your behalf; 4. If you repent (turn from) all your sins and personally put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord, God and Savior, then you will have eternal life. (For more information on the saving message of the gospel, click here.)


    2. The Divorcee. Jesus clearly taught that unless the first marriage ended due to a partner’s sexual infidelity, a second marriage is to be considered invalid and adulterous. A divorced woman, therefore, is off limits for a Christian man–unrepentant adultery being a sin that prevents one from obtaining eternal life (1 Cor 6:9). “If she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery” (Mark 10:12). “And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery” (Matthew 19:9).


    3. The Older Woman. Not a sin, but certainly not God’s ideal. God expects men to be the spiritual leaders of the home (Eph 5:25) and it certainly requires an extra measure of grace to lead a woman who’s older than you. Again, if you’re a man and you’re already in such a marriage, then honor it till the day you die–it’s still a valid marriage and divorce is not an option! However, if you’re not yet married but thinking about an older woman I want to remind you that God intentionally (with good reason!) created Adam before Eve in the First Marriage. Scripture informs us that God created man first chronologically for the sake of authority! Listen: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve” (1 Timothy 2:12-13).
    Apparently, even secular researchers are now beginning to discover results that back up biblical claims: “If you’re a woman two or more years older than your husband, your marriage is 53 percent more likely to end in divorce than if he was one year younger to three years older.” (Source: Rebecca Kippen, Bruce Chapman and Peng Yu, “What’s Love Got to Do With It? Homogamy and Dyadic Approaches to Understanding Marital Instability,” Melbourne Institute of Applied Economic and Social Research, 2009.)


    4. The Feminist. There’s no room within Christendom for the “Christian feminist.” Though women and men have equal value in the eyes of God (Gal 3:28), they certainly have different God-given roles. Any woman who tries to usurp her husband’s authority or even claims to be a co-leader with her man is gravely dishonoring the God who created her to be subject and obedient to her husband (Eph 5:22, Col 3:18, 1 Pet 3:1). Eve was distinctly created “for” man, a point that the apostle Paul makes abundantly clear in 1 Corinthians 11 when he writes, “For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.” (1 Corinthians 11:8-9). Men, your wife is to be your “helper” (Gen 2:18)–not your leader and certainly not your equal in terms of authority. Look for a woman who agrees with you in this very vital God-ordained relational dynamic.


    5. The Immodest-Dresser. Sexy might inadvertently catch your eyeballs, but it shouldn’t catch your heart. The way that a woman is willing to expose herself says much about her heart: “And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart” (Proverbs 7:10). The text in Proverbs explains that a woman will dress in a certain way to catch a certain type of man. Don’t be that man. Don’t be the fool who’s led by his hormones instead of the Holy Spirit. Remember: you want godly, not gaudy.


    6. The Gossiper/Slanderer. Women may love to talk, but there’s wisdom in looking for a woman who speaks with wisdom. Gossip and slander are not good things to have in your marriage. Desperate housewives make for desperate husbands. “Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.” (1 Timothy 5:13).


    7. The Childbirth Avoider. Do not marry a woman who is not willing to have children of her own. In the Christian worldview, there is absolutely no room for two married, biologically capable, human beings to remain intentionally child-less. If you are adverse towards having children, then there’s a simple remedy for that: single-hood. However, if God has called you to marriage, then He actually expectschildren. Both the New and Old Testaments are very clear on this teaching: “Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring” (Malachi 2:15). “Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control” (1 Timothy 2:15).


    8. The Wander-Luster. There’s nothing wrong with the occasional family vacation. There is something very wrong with a girl who regularly needs to be “out of the home.” The constant desire for new experiences, new places, new faces, and new forms of entertainment only serves to clearly manifest the fact that the woman has not found her rest in God. Believe it or not, Scripture speaks repeatedly about such women: “She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home” (Proverbs 7:11); “Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to” (1 Timothy 5:13).


    9. The Career-first Woman. Now, I want to clarify something here. There is nothing wrong with a woman who works (Acts 16:14), what’s wrong is a woman who puts her career ahead of her family. Modern American society might hate to hear this, but God made men to be the providers and women to be the nurturers of the home (in most instances). It’s okay for a woman to be a doctor, attorney, or any other professional. However, if her career is coming at the expense of her home, then something is wrong. If day-care is raising her young children while she’s working, then something is wrong. I understand that there might be a season of life where the wife might have to be the main bread-winner due to her husband’s unemployment, but it should not be the desired norm. The woman ought to be willing (and even desirous–to some extent) to give up her job for the sake of raising her kids in the Lord. “So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander” (1 Tim 5:14).


    10. The Devotion-less Woman. Is the woman having a regular, daily devotional time with her God? If she doesn’t love the Lord now, chances are, she won’t love the Lord after marriage. (Don’t delude yourself–you’re not going to change her.) You want to marry a girl who has an intimate relationship with Jesus. Jesus (not you) has to be the first man in her life. Here are some good questions to ask: Does she have an active prayer life? Does she have a heart for evangelism? Is she hungry for God’s Word? What does her pastor think about her?


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    What do you think? Should men be allowed to judge women? Are men allowed to have standards and expectations of women in the 21st century, or is it "sexist" when men have standards (despite the fact that women have standards and judge men)?
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    yes, i judge everyone
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    (Original post by MarriageSucks)
    A recent article, 10 Women Christian Men Should Not Marry, has had women getting hysterical - with many thinking that men should not judge women. Of course, the equivalent article about having standards in men received no outrage.

    The list of women Christian men should not marry is in the spoiler, but check the link for lots of hysterical comments from women.

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    More importantly:

    What do you think? Should men be allowed to judge women? Are men allowed to have standards and expectations of women in the 21st century, or is it "sexist" when men have standards (despite the fact that women have standards and judge men)?

    I voted that men shouldn't judge women (as a female) but I'm having second thoughts sort of. I think when it comes to dating, "standards" can often be pretty petty. Not dating someone because they're a feminist or dress a certain way seems to much. Of course you're going to have certain preferences, but having a checklist of sorts, of things you don't want seems a bit much.
    But I think it does depend on the situation, in my opinion women get judged for things that really shouldn't matter, like being a feminist (lots of hate there, heaven forbid someone want equal rights for themselves), dressing plainly/more revealing (men want you to look sexy which equals tight fitting, low cut), wear or don't wear make up, etc. But women also have similar standards, I used to have a friend who was pretty overweight, dare I say obese who wanted a guy with abs so bad....despite not working out. At all.
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    Yes because equally a majority of women do the same.
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    Yes and same for women but this is you OP isnt it?

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    Men shouldn't judge women, women shouldn't judge men.
    Shouldn't be judged on anything but I can see why any religious people would want to 'avoid' people who aren't religious.


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    Women judge men all the time but hate when men judge them in return
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    (Original post by D_ecrivaine)
    I voted that men shouldn't judge women (as a female) but I'm having second thoughts sort of. I think when it comes to dating, "standards" can often be pretty petty. Not dating someone because they're a feminist or dress a certain way seems to much. Of course you're going to have certain preferences, but having a checklist of sorts, of things you don't want seems a bit much.
    But I think it does depend on the situation, in my opinion women get judged for things that really shouldn't matter, like being a feminist (lots of hate there, heaven forbid someone want equal rights for themselves), dressing plainly/more revealing (men want you to look sexy which equals tight fitting, low cut), wear or don't wear make up, etc. But women also have similar standards, I used to have a friend who was pretty overweight, dare I say obese who wanted a guy with abs so bad....despite not working out. At all.
    Bit it's ok for women to.want a guy with abs and be obese? Jjst not the other way around.
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    Hahaha I love the 'Yes'es from men and 'No's from the females
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    Either no-one judges anyone.or we all judge everyone.

    That article is disturbing though. Looks like it's been transported here from 1300.

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    Of course we should, how else will we assess their suitability as a mate.

    Humans are a judgy species.
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    I do not judge anyone
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    Lol, so basically marry a young, modest, sub-servient, child-bearing, home-body Christian girl.

    How dull.
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    You have to judge people, otherwise you'll have no standards. I don't associate with trash.
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    Everyone judges other people. That's how the human mind works.
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    This is utterly stupid. Yes, everyone everywhere judges everybody else they ever meet. Regardless of gender, and doubly so if you're interested in them romantically.

    You're offended? Whatever, you don't have a right not to be, and reality isn't going to change because you are.
    You're being judged? Damn right you are, that's a fact of life and it's one of the most primitive bases for human social interaction.
    You think it's unfair? Too bad, suck it up. Life isn't fair, it can't be fair, and it won't be fair.
    You don't like someone for judging a gender in a specific way? Fine, don't be friends with them.

    And good news. Once you do all that, then you're an adult, and not a child any more.
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    Hahahahahahahahah

    Pretty much all of those would make me go for the woman

    Christians are freaks.
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    Sigh, everybody judges. I judge, you judge, they judge, rabbits judge. I hate feeling judged but then I judge people as well, so :lol: Live and let live, I think.
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    (Original post by Maid Marian)
    Sigh, everybody judges. I judge, you judge, they judge, rabbits judge. I hate feeling judged but then I judge people as well, so :lol: Live and let live, I think.
    You haven't posted in ages :erm:


    What a stupid thread everyone has the right to judge anyone
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    (Original post by Smash Bandicoot)
    Bit it's ok for women to.want a guy with abs and be obese? Jjst not the other way around.
    No, did you read what I said? About my friend. I always thought her standards were so ridiculous. I just think people should be realistic about how they look, how they are as a person, but also work to improve themselves, not just physically. I think it would be reasonable for a guy to want a girl who's fit, say if he enjoys working out and vice versa.
    However, biologically the sign of femininity is having curves, it signals a woman is of reproductive age and could successfully bear an offspring. And a man who was physically fit and stronger could protect her and had good genes and such..
    Just saying.
 
 
 
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