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Hi, I find it perfectly easy to start conversations with anyone, but I find that after about 10 or so minutes it just dries up and I can't think of anything to say and there's that awkward silence which i hate! I end up making stupid statements about how cold I am or something and I just get a response like yeah... and I'm back to square one. It makes me feel really awkward..

Any tips on how to keep it flowing, or good things to say? I'm meeting up with one of my old friends next week and I'm worried we wont find anything to talk about and she will find me boring!

Reply 1

Profesh

20

It sounds to me as though you may have been cursed with conversationally-inept friends.

Reply 2

egg_soup

9

talk about things u used to do together maybe?

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

talk about something linked to what you were talking about before :smile:

not previous conversation, the previous thing the other person said! hope i make sense :biggrin:

Reply 4

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

...... So...... um, how about those [insert local sports team]?

Reply 5

crazygirl4521

14

That doesn't really happen when I chat to my mates, it only really happens if i am chatting online to someone i don't know well, or i may be speaking to someone i like or something. Anyone has tips on how to keep it flowing.

Reply 6

generalebriety

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Anonymous

Hi, I find it perfectly easy to start conversations with anyone, but I find that after about 10 or so minutes it just dries up and I can't think of anything to say and there's that awkward silence which i hate! I end up making stupid statements about how cold I am or something and I just get a response like yeah... and I'm back to square one. It makes me feel really awkward..

Any tips on how to keep it flowing, or good things to say? I'm meeting up with one of my old friends next week and I'm worried we wont find anything to talk about and she will find me boring!

You'll find loads to talk about. It's not easy when you're in school or on msn or whatever because nothing unusual is happening, but if you're meeting an old friend, you have a chance to pull out a few anecdotes, tell them a few interesting things that have happened, comment on them and how you haven't seen them for ages and ask about their life, and generally converse. Especially if you're out - presumably you haven't seen them for ages because one of you lives in a different place to where you're meeting up, so that might well be a talking point too. Ask about where they live (if it's them) or tell them about where you live (if it's you). Trust me, you won't run out of conversation if you try as much as you seem to.

Reply 7

stoney

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maze.e

That doesn't really happen when I chat to my mates, it only really happens if i am chatting online to someone i don't know well, or i may be speaking to someone i like or something. Anyone has tips on how to keep it flowing.

There doesnt have to be constant conversation but maybe you could try talking about something random. I hate this too and thats what I tend to do in that sort of situation

Reply 8

Dude

14

If this was about a girl you liked, I could understand where you are coming from.

But how can you have this problem with old friends? There is loads to talk about with friends. You can talk about stuff you did, old things that made you laugh etc.

Reply 9

romeorocker

My friend, let me share my thoughts. There are all sorts of things you can talk about, let me suggest a few things:-

1) Small talk - what you've been up to today etc
2) Passions/hobbies/interests.
3) Tell stories about all the interesting things that have happened to you today or in the past
4) Ask open ended questions, ie questions that cannot be answered with just 'yes' or 'no'.
5) If talking to a member of the opposite sex, flirt!

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks for all the tips. It's just because I'll be with them for like six hours that I'm worried we will just suddenly stop talking and I'll feel so uncomfortable! But I'm probably worrying for no reason

Reply 11

dazmanultra

1

The more interesting life you lead, the more you have to talk about! If you find yourself consistently having nothing to say... perhaps you need to get out more and get some new hobbies...?

Something a friend does really well is when he meets people, he doesn't do the whole interview thing as such... "where are you from? what do you do?" etc, he pretends that he is in the same kind of situation as Jonathan Ross or another funny chat show host, so he'll be finding things out about the other person, but in a non conventional, non boring way.

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