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    My boyfriend keeps saying that when I stop for the evening that he always wants me to stay the night as he misses me and all that. I don't think he likes me stopping till 11pm and then going home. I have stopped with him some nights but I can never get to sleep so when I have studying/work to do I prefere to get a good nights rest at home to study the next day. I do have feelings for him and enjoy his company but I like my own company at the same time I've been single for years lol and am used to being on my own, so I'm trying to balance my life with seeing him. Is it unreasonable of me to avoid sleeping over some weeks because I'm busy or just don't feel like it though? I think that he thinks I'm making excuses but I do like him and want to be with him but I want to focus on my life too. I think because we live in the same town though he doesn't see why I can't sleep over every week In relationships do people tend to make the person they are seeing more of a priority... Am I being selfish?
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    You're not being selfish. You don't want to stay with him or spend any more time with him than you have to, you'd rather be by yourself at night than with your boyfriend, that's perfectly okay. That's really healthy in a relationship, when the two people don't sleep together at night. It's good for you to prefer being alone and away from your boyfriend, he's a lucky guy to have such an amazing girlfriend.

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    You're not being selfish. You don't want to stay with him or spend any more time with him than you have to, you'd rather be by yourself at night than with your boyfriend, that's perfectly okay. That's really healthy in a relationship, when the two people don't sleep together at night. It's good for you to prefer being alone and away from your boyfriend, he's a lucky guy to have such an amazing girlfriend.

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    I think having time alone is healthy, rather than being together all the time. I like a mixture and I'm trying to balance my studying/life with seeing him. I just think that if I put him first and don't get the grades then that will effect my whole life/career, plus he could dump me anytime and then I will lose both him and the career. I like to see him when I can because I want to not because I have to.
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    I have light sleep and have historically often struggled with bed sharing vs. replenishing sleep. You just have to be firm. Do you sleep poorly if he sleeps over at yours too?
 
 
 
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