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    I'm not referring to overweight, balding neckbeards who sit in their basement playing video games all day, by the way. I'm talking about men who are accomplished in their careers, who take good care of their appearance and physical health and who have extensive hobbies, interests and pursuits outside of their work.

    Do you think there is anything particularly wrong with men who choose to live this "bachelor" lifestyle until the day they die rather than conforming to the norm and getting married/having kids? I'm not saying they are celibate or anything; most of them still socialise with women, have short term relationships, long-term relationships and one-night stands... they just don't like the idea of settling down and being tied with *one* person.

    Do you think it's an immature decision to live this sort of lifestyle as a man? Or perhaps even a selfish decision; to devote one's entire life to furthering himself financially/physically/emotionally/spirituality/you-get-the-idea-ly?

    I'm just not a particularly family-orientated person so I genuinely don't think settling down with a wife and kids is for me; in fact, I think it would detract from my ability to reach my full potential in life. I also can't fathom the idea of spending the rest of my life with *one* female... I like variety.
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    Like Cliff Richard?
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    I don't really think anything about them, so long as they're content and not causing anyone any harm I have no reason to judge or think they should change.
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    Perfectly understandable, not everyone wants to be tied down to one place/person or even career. I don't see the attraction personally, but that's just personal preference - you're free to do whatever you want in life.
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    (Original post by VladThe1mpaler)
    Like Cliff Richard?
    I don't really know much about him so it would be wrong of me to use him as an example.

    The types of men I had in mind were George Clooney and Leonardo DiCaprio (although I think Clooney recently got married).
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    I think they're fully grown men and can choose which lifestyle they want to live.

    Variety is the spice of life.

    In fact, with world population approaching crisis point, so long as they use protection in the bedroom, these men are doing the world a favour by not settling down and having kids.

    Why would it be construed as immature?
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    (Original post by frankieboy)
    I think they're fully grown men and can choose which lifestyle they want to live.

    Variety is the spice of life.

    In fact, with world population approaching crisis point, so long as they use protection in the bedroom, these men are doing the world a favour by not settling down and having kids.

    Why would it be construed as immature?
    I've heard a lot of people tacitly criticise men who live like this by making them out to be "big kids" who "only care about having fun" and "can't leave the college days behind them". They make them out to be men who are trapped in their past and can't deal with the responsibility of having a family/wife when the reality is that they just don't *want* a family or a wife.

    I think that for people who's primary goals in life is to have a happy, loving family... the idea of living a very individual-based life is hard to comprehend.
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    (Original post by ddhurst)
    I've heard a lot of people tacitly criticise men who live like this by making them out to be "big kids" who "only care about having fun" and "can't leave the college days behind them". They make them out to be men who are trapped in their past and can't deal with the responsibility of having a family/wife when the reality is that they just don't *want* a family or a wife.

    I think that for people who's primary goals in life is to have a happy, loving family... the idea of living a very individual-based life is hard to comprehend.
    It's just that old chestnut of people wanting everyone else to do the same as them for validation and to appease their insecurity. A lot of political and religious people are like that.

    Nothing wrong with bachelors at all. I admire them actually for being true to themselves. Sometimes I think people settle down just because it's the ''done thing'' - this can often lead to a most distressing relationship, then the kids are born and they are raised in a household full of bickering and arguments.
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    No...because nobody needs to have kids....and perhaps they don't like kids, they cannot have them, or for whatever reason.... A lot of bachelors contribute a lot more than those with kids, so I don't get who are the losers here? Is a council estate chav family with 6 kids more successful than a bachelor who owns a business employing 300 people?
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    They got game. Persisting until you die isn't terribly normal/sensible, however :beard:
 
 
 
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