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    I know i was only young when i had my first boyfriend, i was 15. He abused me for many reason, physically and mentally. Now I'm 18 and find it hard to talk to any boys because I'm too scared if i fall for someone and might get abused again. Or am i just being silly? :confused:
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    It must be tough for you, however just because something happened before, doesn't mean it will happen again. Do you want a relationship? If you are happy being single, that is fine, however if you would like a relationship, you need to put yourself out there.
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    It's not silly at all! Mental and/or physical abuse are a big deal, it's completely normal to feel subversive to going back into a relationship. Do you have someone to talk to? Professional or just an understanding friend? Sharing your concerns can really help and you get someone else's perspective. You never need to feel like you should have to do something though, if you don't feel ready to date someone that's fine Also, if you do find someone, it would probably be best to open with them from the start, that way they know and can respect any boundaries
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    Sounds perfectly understandable. Don't rush into anything, take your time to figure out want you want. If you find a great guy, it will be worth the wait.
 
 
 
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