Did you want to be independant?

I've wanted to be independent since I was 10.

It's called maturity.

I can't stand people telling me what to do. Just not like that, however i'm quite different to many of my friends who are more than happy to sit at home, working on £6/hour and getting meals cooked by their mum.

Still love them though. Their choice.

don't worry, some people just mature at different times to others. Plus loud people often feel the same and just act like they don't.

My parents gave me quite a free reign, so when it came to underage drinking, smoking or whatever, I wasn't really that interested as I knew my parents would let me drink so long as I did it safe and responsibly and at home (not smoke but I have asthma so it wasn't as option). My other friends however, especially those on a tight leash, were sooo excited about the first piece of freedom they got. They were all woo lets go out and get **** faced! whereas I was more like what's the point?

I often feel as though other people are more comfortable with freedom. i didn't apply to university this year unlike all my friends, because I didn't feel ready. I often feel like I'm 15 (perhaps because people think I am due to my height and youn-looking face) but I don't really want to 'grow up' either. I love dressing up and watching kids TV - but what's wrong with that?

Does going out and getting ****-faced make you grown up? owning a car and working in a job you hate to buy things you need to impress people you don't like, as the saying goes? that just seems so silly to me.

Just be happy with who you are. **** everyone else. - you spend your childhood wishing you were a grown-up and your adulthood wishing you were a child - so forget what other people are doing and do what you feel comfortable with.

I've wanted to be independent since I was 10.

It's called maturity.

I can't stand people telling me what to do. Just not like that, however i'm quite different to many of my friends who are more than happy to sit at home, working on £6/hour and getting meals cooked by their mum.

Still love them though. Their choice.

I've wanted to be independent since I was 10.

It's called maturity.

I can't stand people telling me what to do.

um, yeah . . .maybe we're not so alike. lol just kidding, I do spend time with my parents listening to music or watching films and things, they treat me like an adult which is a nice change to some 'friends' who seem to think it's acceptable to yell at me in the pub. ah well.

Don't worry, sometimes I take a couple of days off school just to chill out and spend a few days in bed. no biggie. makes you refreshed and more focused at school I think. Stuff your parents, no matter how you mess up your life, hey should never call you names. They ought to treat you with respect, everybody deserves that (bar murderes rapists and kiddie-fiddlers). especially if you're in a lull.
If anxiety's your problem I suggest getting it sorted asap - you don't want to send the rest of your life inside do you? often I find pretending you don't care helps you actuall feel that way. start small and reward yourself for every anxiety-inducing thing you do. One small thing a day and soon you'll be back on track.everybody needs rewards. especially if you've had a really ****ty day.

Not being able to stand being told what to do isn't what I'd call mature really. You're going to have to do what people tell you your whole life, it doesn't just stop when you move out of your parents house.

I don't particularly feel the need to be independent at this point in my life. My parents were never really restrictive. They allowed me to go out and drink as long as I didn't cause too much hassle for them (making noise, getting so drunk they have to come help me, etc.). So I guess for me going to uni wasn't that big a change since I was always able to go out as much as I do here. Unlike some people who just went crazy in their first few weeks because they suddenly had this new freedom. And it's not like I'm independent in any way just because I'm not living with my parents right now. I'm still very much dependent on them financially.

I'll probably like the feeling of becoming independent when I've finished uni and started working, but for now I might as well enjoy my childhood while I still can (ok legally I'm not a child, but I wouldn't class myself as an adult right now either).