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You can still be with her, without sex. 4 years is not a huge age gap but you should wait until you are both fully adults and gone through the stages of self realisation.

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Teenie

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are you sure that it isnt just a school girl crush? I agree with Mme Charlotte, becareful as she isn't 16, thats always going to be dodgy territory

Reply 4

15 soon, meaning she is still 14..

Just remember, it is illegal to do a lot of things with her.

Plus, your friends and peers might not agree with your choices here...

Also think of the mindset of a 14 year old girl... do you think this is what she really wants? Is she mature enough to be able to consent 100% whilst knowing what she is getting in to?

Reply 5

sr4470

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Dont see why not, just be careful what you do with her...

I'm in a relationship with a slightly bigger age gap than that, and I manage fine (nothing gets in the way of love :p:

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Reply 6

Omega3Addict

You can still be with her, without sex. 4 years is not a huge age gap but you should wait until you are both fully adults and gone through the stages of self realisation.

bloody hell! i can't believe you didn't mention psychiatric therapy there!! :redface:

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Anonymous #1

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daytona0

15 soon, meaning she is still 14..

Just remember, it is illegal to do a lot of things with her.

Plus, your friends and peers might not agree with your choices here...

Also think of the mindset of a 14 year old girl... do you think this is what she really wants? Is she mature enough to be able to consent 100% whilst knowing what she is getting in to?

Well she is rather mature for her age, i mean she isn't a virgin or anything and lost her cherry when she was 13, so she knows all about consent and stuff and the law, she aims to be a lawyer.

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Eternity Forever

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Anonymous

Well she is rather mature for her age, i mean she isn't a virgin or anything and lost her cherry when she was 13, so she knows all about consent and stuff and the law, she aims to be a lawyer.

She might be physically ready for whatever, but do you think that she is mentally ready? Some people know what they want to be at that age hence find out about their desired profession as she might have done, but that does not make her an expert on what she is heading for. Fair enough she might be a bit mature for her age, but if anything was to go wrong, i.e if you two slept together and she decided to turn it against you, then whatever the case, you would be in the wrong because firstly, she is not yet sixteen years of age and secondly you are older than her. Imagine it was you little sister, would you approve of her going out with an 18 year old?

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sr4470

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Madémoisélle Charlotté

Fair enough she might be a bit mature for her age, but if anything was to go wrong, i.e if you two slept together and she decided to turn it against you, then whatever the case, you would be in the wrong because firstly, she is not yet sixteen years of age and secondly you are older than her.

This is why trust is important, and not jumping into things...

Reply 10

daytona0

bloody hell! i can't believe you didn't mention psychiatric therapy there!! :redface:

I didn't mention psychiatric therapy. I said self realisation. It's when you have developed your personality fully and know what you want.

Reply 11

Omega3Addict

I didn't mention psychiatric therapy. I said self realisation. It's when you have developed your personality fully and know what you want.

errr, you do realise i'm a psychology student at university right? :redface:

Reply 12

Did you realise not everything is related to psychology? A same word/phrase can be used in several different context and mean different things.

And I also realise you're from ex-polytech Keele University as well as only getting a C for psychology! Ha!

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Anonymous #2

Anonymous

Well she is rather mature for her age, i mean she isn't a virgin or anything and lost her cherry when she was 13, so she knows all about consent and stuff and the law, she aims to be a lawyer.

The fact that she isn't a virgin and is mature for her age means nothing, having sex with her would be illegal and as you are a lot older you could get in some trouble.

Just steer clear and forget about her. Plenty more fish in the sea, especially when you're 18.

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She lost her virginity already and wants to be a lawyer? Dream on. I wouldn't call someone below the age of 18 and not a virgin already to be mature.

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sr4470

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Omega3Addict

She lost her virginity already and wants to be a lawyer? Dream on. I wouldn't call someone below the age of 18 and not a virgin already to be mature.

We know virtually nothing about her relationship history, so I wouldnt be too quick to judge...

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Eternity Forever

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Anonymous

The fact that she isn't a virgin and is mature for her age means nothing, having sex with her would be illegal and as you are a lot older you could get in some trouble.

Just steer clear and forget about her. Plenty more fish in the sea, especially when you're 18.

That's what I thought too! Especially if he is or will be at university next year. He'll meet other people his age that might interest him more.

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Anonymous #1

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daytona0

errr, you do realise i'm a psychology student at university right? :redface:

a first year i imagine..psychology for the win!!!

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

oh and no I've just started a two year course at my locate college, alevels :-D all boys on my course..great

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