I wrote a poem about the death of a good friend's parent. The friend isn't a poet, and doesn't know I wrote this poem. A magazine wants to publish the poem, but there is a small chance my friend will see the poem and recognise the situation/my name.
Should I retract the poem? Should I tell my friend? Should I do nothing and hope my friend never hears of the poem? Would the friend be flattered and touched or hurt and betrayed?
Any moral guidance much appreciated!
What should I do?