Approaching time for you mister.

I like this lad, he's shy and I've managed to intitate conversations a lot so he probably knows I like him as a friend, however, I want to ask him out but how can i bring it into a conversation? And what do lads think of girls approaching them who they don't know much about.

What would you suggest? :smile:

Thanks

Reply 1

WorkHouse

12

I want to know the answer to this too! in a similar situation...

Reply 2

Reue

20

I have no prob with girls approaching guys, infact..should happen more often!!

Reply 3

kam

10

Have a few good nights out/in and show that you like their company.
Then afterwards just tell them that you like them.
Guys shouldn't have a problem being approached by girls, they should welcome it!

Reply 4

~*Sunlight_ Beaming*~

OP

Reue

I have no prob with girls approaching guys, infact..should happen more often!!

Well were not exactly close friends, though I talk lots to him in class. I feel that if I ask him out ... he might get a shock and erm... die since we don't hang around together. I find it hard to get his number/email addy without looking desperate.

Any more advices/suggestions?

Reply 5

Chewwy

17

just ask him. he probably won't say no.

Reply 6

WorkHouse

12

chewwy

just ask him. he probably won't say no.

Um, all well and good just sayng that but, how? how do you approach the subject?

Reply 7

Sezkin

11

Physiogal

Well were not exactly close friends, though I talk lots to him in class. I feel that if I ask him out ... he might get a shock and erm... die since we don't hang around together. I find it hard to get his number/email addy without looking desperate.

Any more advices/suggestions?

I'm in a similar situation myself, all I can say is get to know him more and take a risk of asking him out...

Examples of conversations you could use:

*If he's free on weekend and likes fire works* ' So would you like to come to bonfire night on Sunday? It'll be fun and plus you're great company!'

*If he's free on weekend* ' I havn't been to the cinema for ages... do you want to see a film this Saturday? etc'

Be creative in what you say.

Hope that helped! haha.. I'm sure you can be more creative than me. Good Luck.

Reply 8

Martyn1989

I would be honoured if a girl asked me out. Makes for a nice change, go for it :smile:

!

Reply 9

blackcurrant

Physiogal

he might get a shock and erm... die

I'm fairly sure he won't die.

Go on! What's the worst that could possibly happen?

Reply 10

~*Sunlight_ Beaming*~

OP

blackcurrant

I'm fairly sure he won't die.

Go on! What's the worst that could possibly happen?

Hmm I guess so, I'll go for it. I know it'll be so random like oh ' would you like to go out sometimes? :p:

'. I don't want to appear too forward and plus I have no idea where we can go...

I feel really stupid trying to find a way to ask him out when it could be so simple... It's fear of rejection I guess.. and embaressment. :redface:

Reply 11

Sezkin

11

Physiogal

Hmm I guess so, I'll go for it. I know it'll be so random like oh ' would you like to go out sometimes? :p:

'. I don't want to appear too forward and plus I have no idea where we can go...

I feel really stupid trying to find a way to ask him out when it could be so simple... It's fear of rejection I guess.. and embaressment. :redface:

Yeah I know what you mean ... I don't think there is an answer to this situation. You'll have to figure it out yourself and go with the flow. See his body language, follow his conversation then maybe at the end of it pop in ' I'm going to (insert place) with some friends, would you like to come?'. Be subtle if you don't want to be forward :wink:

. Be yourself.

Reply 12

~*Sunlight_ Beaming*~

OP

Thanks everyone espec Sezkin for the advices.

Any more good advices?

Reply 13

username47781

20

Perhaps go out somewhere with him, even if it's just down town and get to know him more, let's just hope he don't use you like the last one did.

Reply 14

ledge

blimey find some common ground get chatting then get him down the pub and get some beer down him as soon as possible. that'l loosen him up

Reply 15

~*Sunlight_ Beaming*~

OP

Carl1982

Perhaps go out somewhere with him, even if it's just down town and get to know him more, let's just hope he don't use you like the last one did.

Yeah, I've left my ex now, he messed me big time. So now...I'm picking myself up again and trying get to know this lad I recently like. I hope he'll like me for me though... I'm not sure whether to ask him out. Should I ask him as in ' would you like to go out sometimes?' Grr I dunno what to say exactly as I'm not close friends with him....he's probably get freaked out. haha

Reply 16

username47781

20

Physiogal

Yeah, I've left my ex now, he messed me big time. So now...I'm picking myself up again and trying get to know this lad I recently like. I hope he'll like me for me though... I'm not sure whether to ask him out. Should I ask him as in ' would you like to go out sometimes?' Grr I dunno what to say exactly as I'm not close friends with him....he's probably get freaked out. haha

I don't blame you for leaving him, he sounds like a right ass, ask him just casually if he wants to go out somewhere not meaning as in going out, and perhaps if you have a good time out maybe ask him then if he does want to go out.

Reply 17

~*Sunlight_ Beaming*~

OP

So should I go ' so would you like to come down town with me sometimes? You seem a great person to hang around with! What do you think?'

I dunno how he would respond, but what do you think of this question if you hardly know the girl.

Thanks for being helpful Carl. :smile:

Reply 18

username47781

20

Physiogal

So should I go ' so would you like to come down town with me sometimes? You seem a great person to hang around with! What do you think?'

I dunno how he would respond, but what do you think of this question if you hardly know the girl.

Thanks for being helpful Carl. :smile:

No worries :biggrin:

Reply 19

mr_person

1

I think you should try to work into the conversation fairly subtly so he doesn't feel all awkward. He sounds pretty shy and meagre and you don't want to scare him off by being too forward.

Approaching time for you mister.

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