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Best way to tell someone you're not interested?

Hi gang,

I frequent Durham wetherspoons and have recently befriended one of the bar staff. It started off friendly, he would sit and chat to me whilst I worked on some law cases. Then it turned flirty. So far no probs. But tonight he asked if I wanted to go for a drink with him and asked for my number. Normally I'm strait forward in these types of situations but this guy is very friendly and kind. So when he asked, I said 'excuse me I have to take this call. I think it may be an emergency' and I legged it. (immature I know).

So what is the kindest way to let someone down? Id quite like to maintain my friendship with this guy.

Reply 1

username47781

20

No easy way of doing it, best to be honest.

Reply 2

Overmars

17

"I'm gay"? works for me :biggrin:

Reply 3

andy_cole2

14

you could go along with it just make it amazingly clear that you only want to be friends.

Reply 4

Princess_Peach

OP

Carl1982

No easy way of doing it, best to be honest.

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, what is the least hurtful form of rejection one can dish out?

Reply 5

Overmars

17

Princess_Peach

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, what is the least hurtful form of rejection one can dish out?

there are different forms of rejection?

Reply 6

username47781

20

Princess_Peach

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, what is the least hurtful form of rejection one can dish out?

Well just be polite but tell him you only want to be friends.

Reply 7

andy_cole2

14

yeah you could lie, as in i have a bf i'm not after a bf at the moment there's someone i like or maybe one of them is the truth, you could do the rather just be friends or you could meet him platonically...is that the right word?

Reply 8

username47781

20

I suppose a protective fib sometimes works.

Reply 9

mr_person

1

"I'd love to but i'm meeting my bf tonight. Maybe some other time."

Reply 10

SuperDaz

13

You could tell him you have a boyfriend? Or that you want to concentrate on university for a few months!

Or failing that, you could say you're moving to Yemen and just avoid Wetherspoons in future :smile:

Reply 11

Princess_Peach

OP

But I really love Durham 'Spoons ^_^

mr_person

"I'd love to but i'm meeting my bf tonight. Maybe some other time."

Nice one!

Reply 12

Overmars

17

Deoh

Or failing that, you could say you're moving to Yemen

Yeah, worked with Chandler, didn't it? :biggrin:

Reply 13

andy_cole2

14

although the 'emergency' must have worked a treat :p:

he probs guessed from that i would expect....

Reply 14

ledge

Princess_Peach

Hi gang,

I frequent Durham wetherspoons and have recently befriended one of the bar staff. It started off friendly, he would sit and chat to me whilst I worked on some law cases. Then it turned flirty. So far no probs. But tonight he asked if I wanted to go for a drink with him and asked for my number. Normally I'm strait forward in these types of situations but this guy is very friendly and kind. So when he asked, I said 'excuse me I have to take this call. I think it may be an emergency' and I legged it. (immature I know).

So what is the kindest way to let someone down? Id quite like to maintain my friendship with this guy.

If you want to put someone off, just talk to them? :smile:

Reply 15

person 34

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mr_person

"I'd love to but i'm meeting my bf tonight. Maybe some other time."

Oh God, I used that once (I did actually have a bf) but it wasn't very good, I literally saw his face drop and it got all awkward, and he didn't really talk to me much afterwards. To be honest, he was probably a sad ass, but i still felt bad.

Reply 16

mr_person

1

34 person

Oh God, I used that once (I did actually have a bf) but it wasn't very good, I literally saw his face drop and it got all awkward, and he didn't really talk to me much afterwards. To be honest, he was probably a sad ass, but i still felt bad.