This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- How do I tell my mum she needs therapy
- How to respond to insensitive parent
- Is this right? My man bought me flowers
- am I overreacting?
- Why do I feel very disrespected by everyone?
- My mum can be very manipulative
- Moving away from home
- Why does everyone else still have their parents but I don't?
- Am I mean to my mum?
- my mum being weird
- school wont let me do the gcses i wanted
- my mum's "weird" boyfriend.
- College open day - I’m so anxious :(
- My ex ended things but won't leave me alone?
- Sad
- Constant fight with mother
- Do I have the right to be upset
- Long Covid And University.
- Am i being ungrateful or do i have reason to be upset
- General rant
Upset my Mum, again :(
I was having a conversation on the phone and my Mum went crazy. In summer I bought an ice hockey helmet for £50. It seems to fit in terms of my head measurements. However, when I have had it on for 30 minutes my head really, really hurts like something is squeezing on it. I said I was going to sell it for £30 and buy another a different make and shape. My Mum went mental, saying a was a stupid girl. She would not talk to me. I am really shocked by her reaction. She also had a go at me for wanting to go to Tesco to buy some fresh food and milk, instead of eating the stuff she got me (pasta, rice). It was really awful. I have been in tears ever since. How do you deal with it when your parents get angry. I am 24 and a graduate with a living allowance. I cannot see why she went for me.
Reply 1
Seems odd why she reacted so strongly, i mean it is your money afterall, suprised you couldn't just exchange the helmet rather than trying to sell it though.
Reply 2
you're 24, you need to set some boundaries dude
Reply 4
he, he, he lol.
Reply 6
That is what I reckon!!! 
She has to give evidence in a hearing. Could be that.
She has to give evidence in a hearing. Could be that.Reply 9
Carl1982
suprised you couldn't just exchange the helmet rather than trying to sell it though.
.I can't believe you're 24 and upset about such a silly argument. It's your money, why would you mum care what you spent it on? And why on earth would she be bothered about you buying milk and bread? It's totally different than pasta and rice. You can't put pasta in your cup of tea. I'd politely tell her to mind her own business, and then forget about the incident. It's not worth getting upset over at all. I think you're extremely oversensitive TBH. My mum has said much, much worse things than that about more serious topics, and since you asked, I deal with it by not talking for a day or so until we have calmed down, and then apologise and it's usually OK.
Reply 12
LauraWalker
How do you deal with it when your parents get angry. I am 24 and a graduate with a living allowance. I cannot see why she went for me.
I sympathise immensely.
Laura, sometimes parents are f.uc.ed in the head. Mine scr.ewed my life for a long time.
I eventually decided that I could legitimately blame them for the first 20 years of my life, but the rest of my life was of my own making.
I cut them out of my life emotionally, eventually cut all physical ties as well and moved on.
Reply 16
TKR
??? You get an allowance from your parents and you're 24?!
No, I understand that Laura gets a living allowance from her graduate funding agency (Sort of like a scholarship I guess.) and lives in a college in Oxford. So Laura is understandably irritated about her mother questioning her spending 20 pounds in a quest for a well fitting helmet.
Reply 17
Laura, do you live with your mum still? If so, look at moving out, because that will make things easier.
I had some horrible arguments with my mother 12 months ago, but that was because I was out of work, and she had stopped taking her antidepressants, a very bad combination. It resulted in my spending Christmas with my best friend's family, and was a deciding factor in my moving 30 miles away. Having put some space between us (and my mum having gone back on the pills) has made things a hell of a lot easier.
As others have said, I think it was simply a case of you being a convenient person to yell at because of stress. Give your mum the time to calm down, and then do something together, and try to discuss why she reacted the way she did. Hopefully, once she's calmed down, she'll see that she was being a little irrational and apologise for it.
I had some horrible arguments with my mother 12 months ago, but that was because I was out of work, and she had stopped taking her antidepressants, a very bad combination. It resulted in my spending Christmas with my best friend's family, and was a deciding factor in my moving 30 miles away. Having put some space between us (and my mum having gone back on the pills) has made things a hell of a lot easier.
As others have said, I think it was simply a case of you being a convenient person to yell at because of stress. Give your mum the time to calm down, and then do something together, and try to discuss why she reacted the way she did. Hopefully, once she's calmed down, she'll see that she was being a little irrational and apologise for it.
Related discussions
- How do I tell my mum she needs therapy
- How to respond to insensitive parent
- Is this right? My man bought me flowers
- am I overreacting?
- Why do I feel very disrespected by everyone?
- My mum can be very manipulative
- Moving away from home
- Why does everyone else still have their parents but I don't?
- Am I mean to my mum?
- my mum being weird
- school wont let me do the gcses i wanted
- my mum's "weird" boyfriend.
- College open day - I’m so anxious :(
- My ex ended things but won't leave me alone?
- Sad
- Constant fight with mother
- Do I have the right to be upset
- Long Covid And University.
- Am i being ungrateful or do i have reason to be upset
- General rant
Latest
Trending
Last reply 2 months ago
Engineering vs. Medicine: Stuck Between Dreams and ExpectationsLast reply 2 months ago
heyyy , im new heree and im willing to have some friends xxxLast reply 3 months ago
Im 16 and never had a gf and it doesnt feel ok.
