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    He's generally really polite and might just be being nice since i'm dating his close mate and have done for a while, but sometimes I'm not sure if it's more, and I feel a bit uncomfortable about it.

    Apparently when we started dating he was asking my boyfriend stuff about my body and my 'private areas', what they were like :s

    He has a girlfriend, and I was supposed to go round there for something, and he made a joke to my boyfriend about 'hoping to be alone with the 2 of us'

    He's started teasing me quite often and sometimes it seems kind of flirty

    He commented on when i'd had my hair done

    I was at their place for a party and I suppose I was quite done-up with my clothes and make-up. When he walked in he couldn't even look me in the eye which was odd.

    At the party, I passed him something and when he took it from my hand he did it so that he touched my hand. Even my boyfriend noticed this.

    Then there was a joke that i'd had enough to drink and should go back home. He made a joke about taking me home himself. His girlfriend was right there and I just felt awkward really.
    He's said stuff to my boyfriend in the past like I'm cute (as in sweet), really nice, cool, slim etc. but to be honest I just thought this was him being nice.

    There is other stuff like this. Does it sound as if he's attracted? My boyfriend has never mentioned this, and I dunno if he's just having a bit of banter and whatnot, but I'm just scared that his girlfriend will start thinking something and I would never want her to feel like that. What should I do? Thanks
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    You have a boyfriend and you dated a guy who has a girlfriend? It's only gonna end in one word

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    Sorry If I wasn't clear but I haven't dated him ever, it's just a friend of his.
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    Tease or not, that guy doesn't seem to have the right attitude towards women. Did you read his girlfriend's body language when he made those comments regarding you?
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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    Tease or not, that guy doesn't seem to have the right attitude towards women. Did you read his girlfriend's body language when he made those comments regarding you?
    If it works for him its the right attitude.
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    It was my boyfriend and his mate alone when they spoke about this kind of stuff, and I don't think she knows that he would have said stuff like that. She is apparently very jealous etc. which is why I feel bad for her if this is the case.
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    You should get your boyfriend to talk to him, tell him how uncomfortable it makes you or just ask him to stop. At the very least he's not being a good friend to your boyfriend.
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    Yeah I could do that, thanks. Do you think there is a genuine attraction or that he's just like that? The latter would bother me less.
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    When I said the thing about the taking me home joke it was in the sense of accompanying me back to mine
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    He probably finds you attractive but the important question is would he ever act on it?
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    Hopefully not, I've never heard of him cheating from my boyfriend,who would probably know, and he's been with his girl for a few years. Probably best to just ignore it and not think about it if he does make future comments. Thanks
 
 
 
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