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What is so wrong with being single?

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I was just talking with a friend, and a few people we know seem to have a big problem with being single. They don't seem to care who they're with, they just don't want to be single. Is this quite common? I don't think it's great for the people they're with really, because they're quite blatantly being used, not in all cases but in a lot.

Just interested :smile:

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Reply 1

bedbug

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I've been single pretty much all my life (ie my whole life minus two weeks :p:

) and I'm happy enough - I'm not bothered enough about it to find anyone random to be with just so that I'm not single, but there are times when I would really like a boyfriend. I go through phases of loving being single and phases of wanting to be with someone.. nothing wrong with either really.

Reply 2

ßlαcksωαn

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I love being single it's sometimes better than being in a realtionships, because you can go out and have fun with out having to worry about your bf.

Reply 3

Harv616

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it depends on the person

It's annoying when your single because you dont have anyone to cuddle :frown:

and its just nice to know someone cares and is close to you!

Reply 4

Claire_Elizabeth

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Being single, nobody can hurt you!

Reply 5

Misogynist

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Sometimes you just cant go on by yourself

Reply 6

LadyEnglish

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I have a friend like that and she's generally dependent and needy so maybe your friends are just like that and are not secure and independent enough to enjoy being single. I'm enjoying it :smile:

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Reply 7

*dicie*

I understand what you mean, by people who don't even like each other that much going out just so they're not single... there's so many at college you could trip over them!

I don't really get those "I need a boyfriend!" moments, only when I was younger and everyone else seemed to be getting boyfriends, while I hadn't even kissed a guy properly yet..

But now, I'd prefer to wait aound for someone I'll actually care about. Till then I'm happy being single!!

Reply 8

joker_900

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I find its a case of the grass is always greener on the other side for me. When I'm single, i wish i had a gf, but when i have a gf i find i can;t be assed with the hassle.

Reply 9

DoMakeSayThink

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I'm single at the moment. Have only had the one real relationship, and whilst it lasted it was great.... but after a year of relationship, it's nice to be single for a while. Obviously there are moments when you're going to feel lonely, especially with the winter months rolling in, but hey, it isn't so bad. I'm certainly not going to just go with someone for the sake of being in a relationship.

Reply 10

generalebriety

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sexysax

I was just talking with a friend, and a few people we know seem to have a big problem with being single. They don't seem to care who they're with, they just don't want to be single. Is this quite common? I don't think it's great for the people they're with really, because they're quite blatantly being used, not in all cases but in a lot.

Just interested :smile:

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Well... that depends. I'm single, and I don't want to be, but it's not so much not caring who I'm with... I don't care which particular person it is out of the people I know as long as I have feelings for them and vice-versa. :smile:

All these people saying being in a relationship is better than being single... they clearly didn't think that before their first relationship. :p:

I've never had one. Maybe that explains my predicament, maybe not... but that doesn't make my opinion less valid.

Being in a relationship for me would be having someone who cared for me (or just cared about me) and having someone I could care for, and that's what I want - not some sort of social status or to tick a box in "how far I've got with someone", but because I want that kind of closeness. I've never been close to my family and rarely been close to my friends (and when I have been, they've deserted me because the feeling wasn't mutual), so that could be a reason. I'm more inclined to think it's natural though - that everyone either wants someone to care for, or someone to care for them, at least until they go through a bad experience and decide it's too risky. But, given free choice, I'm sure people would choose being in a relationship, given that they were allowed to set the terms of it and it was with someone they were happy being with - which is what I want. Someone I'd be happy with and someone who wants the same as I do.

However, to clarify: I'd rather be single than with someone I don't like. But that doesn't mean I'm entirely happy being single at all. :p:

Reply 11

sexysax

OP

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Claire_Elizabeth

Being single, nobody can hurt you!

That is very true :smile:

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Reply 12

Zoecb

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What is so wrong with being single?

Not Getting Laid.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

Call me lazy if you will, but I find being in a relationship too much of an effort.

Reply 14

Enchanté

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I hate being single at the moment, but I wouldn't go off with someone for the sake of not being single. I like someone anyway well have done for a while and that's good for me at the moment. :smile:

Reply 15

miss_world

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Well I'm newly single after being in a serious relationship for over a year and I thought it would be really lonely and horrible, but you know what it isn't! I'm meeting up with my friends more often, going out regularly and having fun being free and independant. I'd much rather be like this than be with someone I don't really like just for the hell of it, at least this way I'm available for when someone I DO want to be with comes along :wink:

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Reply 16

username47781

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There really isn't anything wrong with being single or not getting laid, it's only a issue if you make it one.

Reply 17

Zafda

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sexysax

I was just talking with a friend, and a few people we know seem to have a big problem with being single. They don't seem to care who they're with, they just don't want to be single. Is this quite common? I don't think it's great for the people they're with really, because they're quite blatantly being used, not in all cases but in a lot.

Just interested :smile:

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i love being single, when i see how clingy couples are i'm so glad i don't have to do/say things which please one person. i can do what i want and when i want, without having to consult someone or make sure its alright.

at times though i wish i had someone, just because i've always wanted to have one person to turn to no matter what. i envy how in most relationships, even though they're very close, they're close. i've never had anyone i could rely on fully, turn to in the middle of the night and tell all to.

thats why i'd like to be in a relationship with someone, i know thats what friends are for, but even with friends you can only tell so much to.
i'm very close with my friends and my parents, but with them both theres only so much i can say. i've got a special friend though who i know i can tell everything to, i just wish we saw more of each other (eg like bf/gf do) so we could share some more.

Reply 18

fat_hobbit

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sexysax

I was just talking with a friend, and a few people we know seem to have a big problem with being single. They don't seem to care who they're with, they just don't want to be single. Is this quite common? I don't think it's great for the people they're with really, because they're quite blatantly being used, not in all cases but in a lot.

Just interested :smile:

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Nothing.

It's just that a man gets lonely sometimes.

Reply 19

Princess_Peach

I do find that being in a relationship is better than being single. Mostly due to the following reasons:

1. Sharing the good times (good grades, good news, general happy times)
2. Sharing the bad times (family berevement, bad grades, feeling depressed)
3. Snuggling up ^_^
4. Valentines Day, Christmas, etc
5. Planning the future with a compansion by your side
6. Having fun together.
7. Texts/phone calls/emails
8. Feeling special because someone loves you/has chosen you
9. Sex! =D
10. Someone to buy presents for
11. Someone whom buys presents for you
12. Seldom lonley
13, etc, etc, etc

That is not to say there are no positive points to being single. There are many.

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