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To be the clown

Hello

Well I'm posting on behalf of my friend. The thing is that we are in first year uni now, and there's this guy in our friend group who is always made fun of.

But thats no big deal, because us guys all make fun of each other all the time.

The only problem is that this guy actually takes offense when people make fun of him. So people wanna do it more. (Dont ask me. Its just human nature. Dont tell me to stop my other friends from doing it, or changing friend groups, or something like that, cos i know this happens in any friend group, wherever you go).

Anyway, since this keeps happening in like an endless loop, people in friend group have made him the clown now. Like whatever he does, he is made fun of.

I make fun of him too sometimes, but when the rest of my friends sort of "team up" on him, I take his side. lol.

I wonder what peoples' thoughts are on this? Or if there's anything that can be done? Just telling them to stop being immature is stupidity, and its ironic because all my friends are way older than i am anyway.

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

PS: I used to be the "clown" back in high school once too. I know what it feels like. :frown:

Its not a nice feeling. So I am just asking.

Reply 2

kam

There's someone like that in my University friend group.
We gave him the name weaver because he looks like an A L I E N.
We don't take the pi$$ out of him that much, not once we realised he took it to heart.
I'd generally deflect any remarks made to him back to the person who did the insult, just change the topic back to them to put the joke on them/ease the air for 'weaver'.

I guess all you can do is tell your friend is not to take the jokes seriously and explain that they're only made more often if he shows he cares about them.
Tell him to laugh at himself with the others and shrug it off...help him out by joking about the jokers and then perhaps changing the topic to something you all agree with (e.g. "so, that lecturer...what a bar-steward..eh?").

Maybe just have a little word with your friends, tell them to ease off him a little...make up a story perhaps, that his mother is ill and he has to come to uni and put up with them.

:dontknow:

Reply 3

Dalimyr

I wonder what peoples' thoughts are on this?

My thoughts on this? You're an idiot and your friends are insensitive pricks :smile:

i know this happens in any friend group, wherever you go

Not true, guaranteed. Well, I suppose it could be true if you only hang around with *******s, but why would you do that? :rolleyes:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Dalimyr

My thoughts on this? You're an idiot and your friends are insensitive pricks :smile:

well that helps a lot.

Dalimyr

Not true, guaranteed. Well, I suppose it could be true if you only hang around with *******s, but why would you do that? :rolleyes:

this tells me you've never seen guy friend-groups before, which brings me back to point 1. And no, I'm not your typical shy type guy. I'm outgoing and I prefer being friends with people who are outgoing, or have the same interests as me (music, guitar etc).

Reply 5

jason01

You could just be nice to him and stop taking the pi1ss?

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

Fact: Most guys in their nature are immature pricks and won't start to properly mature and comprehend the feelings of others until their mid-twenties.

You get the odd sensitive bloke... who usually ends up being ridiculed for it in guy-groups. I don't get their sense of humour, but hey...

You could tell your mates to get a life and stop acting like pricks... but chances are that they'll just laugh.

So I guess your friend has to try and understand that they're harmless jokes... or find some new friends who have more than a few braincells to rub together (preferably female)

Reply 7

Dalimyr

well that helps a lot

Hey, you wanted my thoughts, I gave you my thoughts...

You could tell your mates to get a life and stop acting like pricks... but chances are that they'll just laugh

Agreed...and if that's what happens, you're better off giving them the finger and finding other friends.

this tells me you've never seen guy friend-groups before

Au contraire, mon ami...I'm a bit of a tomboy, but in the fairly large group of friends I made in halls, I was the only girl who liked football (and due to clashes with some other socs/clubs I'd joined, I couldn't join the university women's football club). I had to mix in with the lads in order to play :smile:

Reply 8

anjurdsg

Dalimyr

Agreed...and if that's what happens, you're better off giving them the finger and finding other friends.

talk about insensitive warts :rolleyes:

BTW, i am the OP, and i already said dont tell me to find new friends. seriously. they're the same everywhere. and dont tell me to hang out with an all-girls group either, whoever that was. i dont mind girls joining our group, but not the other way round, please :rolleyes:

the only helpful post so far was Kam's

Reply 9

General Mullet

I always thought the clown was the one who dedicated his time trying to make everyone laugh. Anyways, it is immature but these 'clowns' are only made fun of because they take themselves so seriously. Banter is fun but some people think they're above it.

Reply 10

LadyEnglish

Why does it matter if this post is on behalf of your friend? You're anonymous anyway...
tell this guy to stick up for himself or how else does he expect some respect. And he's in his first year, there's better friends he can make. Maybe he should cut down on taking it from people and give a little back to them :rolleyes:

Reply 11

Dalimyr

the only helpful post so far was Kam's

I think you'll find that there have been other helpful posts - you've just opted to ignore them because they tell you something that you don't want to hear (i.e. get other ****ing friends)

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