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I have never been able to meet someone who will just always be around...

My first relationship, the longest, started when I met my ex boyfriend in Italy on an exchange. We were together for 5 years, the last of which we lived together in the UK.

The next was an 8 month relationship, we met in France and had 2 months together before being in a long distance relationship...

In both relationships we did find time to meet every month or two flying to one another's country of residence and/or travelling together, spending Christmas together etc, but it was seldom permanent.

I told myself I wouldn't get back into this kind of relationship, as whilst it can be romantic, it can also be extremely sad saying goodbye and spending most of your time alone. I think on the other hand part of me likes the independence it offers-you only have to be in relationship mode for some of the time and can continue to live like a single human being for the rest of the time. I am not sure whether this is healthy or not though?

Anyhow, just met someone whislt couchsurfing and he has invited me back. I am going back at the end of the month and part of me is all excited and the other half dreads what is coming next...
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All of my previous relationships were long distance, and not by choice. If you find that you are deliberately finding someone to be in a long distance relationship with, you may need to take a step back and evaluate your intentions.

A healthy relationship, long or no distance, will never make you feel like you can't be independent. If you do the things that being a single person entails while in your long distance relationship, then you are definitely not cut out for relationships at the moment and should just take a breather.
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(Original post by strawberry)
All of my previous relationships were long distance, and not by choice. If you find that you are deliberately finding someone to be in a long distance relationship with, you may need to take a step back and evaluate your intentions.

A healthy relationship, long or no distance, will never make you feel like you can't be independent. If you do the things that being a single person entails while in your long distance relationship, then you are definitely not cut out for relationships at the moment and should just take a breather.
It doesn't seem to be a conscious choice, it just happens and I am wondering whether my subconscious wants it.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
It doesn't seem to be a conscious choice, it just happens and I am wondering whether my subconscious wants it.
Possibly. You're only going to know if you take a step back. I understand though, that the freedom is nice, but being in a relationship has its boundaries as well, so if you rather just be single and act single, stay single.
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