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    i never start a conversation with the opposite sex unless they speak to me. i don't even look in their direction. i thought this would show that i'm not desperate to know them, and thus make me look cool.

    whilst i haven't got anywhere with doing this, does it make me look cool regardless?
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    No.
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    It makes you look shy or timid or aloof.

    Sorry.
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    Who cares if it makes you look cool, haha, get over it.
    It's better than staring across the room like a creep.
    Are you a guy or girl? If you're a guy you're not having any success clearly try talking to a girl.
    If you're a girl there's a higher chance of a guy coming up to you, but they probably only want to have sex with you.
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    i just thought it would be better to do this, than appearing desperate, like some other men do. i'm a guy btw.
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    No, it comes across as socially awkward ... which is the logical opposite of being "cool". To be cool you really have to speak to people, make eye contact and say it with a certain confidence.
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    If you're a guy not really. Because you're always expected to make the first move.
    If you're a girl then yes. It shows you're not desperate.

    I know the double standards are sad.
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    HAHAHA

    That's not how it works. If not being interested, or pretending to be, was the way of initiating courtship (yeah courtship, cause I'm an oldskool knight ) we wouldn't be able to make it down the street without all sorts of problems.

    'walking down the street'
    "there's sexy lady on the bus, and she didn't notice me".
    'Drops bags of shopping and runs after bus'
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    keep doing what you're doing and you will quickly climb up the social ladder and everyone will accept you.
 
 
 
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