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Cant stop thinking about her!!! argghhh
I have never had a girlfriend before, but there is this girl that i really like in school. She's got a lot of friends and probably a boyfriend whereas i dont have friends. I do look at her in class after about every 5 mins or so (not lust) but i dont think she notices. Do i stand a chance or should I give up 
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I havnt spoken to her before and have not even tried to, i just dont get the chance too or is it that i dont try
Sorry if similar threads have been done before, i tried searching but it wasnt working.
.I havnt spoken to her before and have not even tried to, i just dont get the chance too or is it that i dont try
Sorry if similar threads have been done before, i tried searching but it wasnt working.
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Reply 1
Well this is it, you don't know until you try, just say hi to her.
you need to build up your own personality before you do anything. follow carl's advice, but start working on yourself the same time. if she's so popular then you stand lesser chance than other guys. you might even end up in a relationship with her but it wont be a happy one.
you need to build up a lot of confidence and expand your social circle, start making friends etc, and also spend less time on TSR and your computer overall
you need to build up a lot of confidence and expand your social circle, start making friends etc, and also spend less time on TSR and your computer overall
Reply 3
She is really popular but ive seen other guys checkin her out (i dont look at her in that way) and guys do flirt with her but she seems to avoid flirting. I hardly know her just saw her first time few months ago.
Reply 4
anjurdsg
you need to build up your own personality before you do anything. follow carl's advice, but start working on yourself the same time. if she's so popular then you stand lesser chance than other guys. you might even end up in a relationship with her but it wont be a happy one.
you need to build up a lot of confidence and expand your social circle, start making friends etc, and also spend less time on TSR and your computer overall
you need to build up a lot of confidence and expand your social circle, start making friends etc, and also spend less time on TSR and your computer overall
I dont know hwo to make friends
and i dont really want to be popular... So if she is really popular and im not its not going to be a good relationship? 
Who's carl?
Anonymous
She is really popular but ive seen other guys checkin her out (i dont look at her in that way) and guys do flirt with her but she seems to avoid flirting. I hardly know her just saw her first time few months ago.
you need to do what i said. make friends. expand your social circle. if its already been a few months that you know her, a few more months wont hurt.
you need to work on your personality before you attract *any* girl at all. you need confidence. i suggest you go around the nearest mall, and start talking to random people. it will do for a start.
good luck
Anonymous
I dont know hwo to make friends and i dont really want to be popular... So if she is really popular and im not its not going to be a good relationship?
Who's carl?
and i dont really want to be popular... So if she is really popular and im not its not going to be a good relationship? Who's carl?
And yes, it means it wont be a good relationship. Think about it. I'm just giving you a scenario. You're out together and other guys keep staring at her, whistling, saying something to her about you etc. And you will be pissed at them, wanting to throw a few good punches at them. But you cant. Why? You got no mates to help you out.
And why cant you make friends? Its really easy. "Hey can I borrow that <insert random item here>?"
"Well thanks... By the way my name is <insert name here>, whats yours?"
blah blah blah
By the way, are you in high school/middle school/university?
Reply 7
anjurdsg
Carl = Carl1982, the guy who posted in this thread first.
And yes, it means it wont be a good relationship. Think about it. I'm just giving you a scenario. You're out together and other guys keep staring at her, whistling, saying something to her about you etc. And you will be pissed at them, wanting to throw a few good punches at them. But you cant. Why? You got no mates to help you out.
And why cant you make friends? Its really easy. "Hey can I borrow that <insert random item here>?"
"Well thanks... By the way my name is <insert name here>, whats yours?"
blah blah blah
By the way, are you in high school/middle school/university?
And yes, it means it wont be a good relationship. Think about it. I'm just giving you a scenario. You're out together and other guys keep staring at her, whistling, saying something to her about you etc. And you will be pissed at them, wanting to throw a few good punches at them. But you cant. Why? You got no mates to help you out.
And why cant you make friends? Its really easy. "Hey can I borrow that <insert random item here>?"
"Well thanks... By the way my name is <insert name here>, whats yours?"
blah blah blah
By the way, are you in high school/middle school/university?
Thanks anjurdsg
im in secondary school and im 16 years old. So how do i change my personality to make me a better person? I will try to make more friends but what else can i do?
Thanks again
Reply 8
ah , romantic false hope, i remember that
Reply 9
You're not going to get anywhere with just sitting around looking at her. Even if you do that you have to do it in a proper way to show you're interested. By this I mean smile in an 'I want to know you way'.
The best way to meet a girl is to first: Go up to her and touch her shoulder for a brief moment when greeting her (This is called 'kino' and is a very important thing to a girl and makes her feel comfortable). Make sure you dont appear creepy or intimidating while you do this. Then ask her if you can sit down next to her. This is where your personality comes into play, The body of the approach; conversation. Talk to her in a way and about things which interest her. At the end comes the closing, Talk to her as much as possible and then ask her 'If you have a phone can I have your number'? Smiling as you say this. After about 9-10 hours, text her for the first time. Then take it from there. Next time you talk to her you have to throw in an SOI (Which is basically an indication that you want to be more than friends with her, which you can do by using the word 'sexy' in DIRECT reference to her) For eg. I like your accent.. it's quite sexy. No use of cute, adorable etc. That indicates friendship and you'll be stuck in the friendzone forever. Good luck.
The best way to meet a girl is to first: Go up to her and touch her shoulder for a brief moment when greeting her (This is called 'kino' and is a very important thing to a girl and makes her feel comfortable). Make sure you dont appear creepy or intimidating while you do this. Then ask her if you can sit down next to her. This is where your personality comes into play, The body of the approach; conversation. Talk to her in a way and about things which interest her. At the end comes the closing, Talk to her as much as possible and then ask her 'If you have a phone can I have your number'? Smiling as you say this. After about 9-10 hours, text her for the first time. Then take it from there. Next time you talk to her you have to throw in an SOI (Which is basically an indication that you want to be more than friends with her, which you can do by using the word 'sexy' in DIRECT reference to her) For eg. I like your accent.. it's quite sexy. No use of cute, adorable etc. That indicates friendship and you'll be stuck in the friendzone forever. Good luck.
Reply 10
^ sorry but thats crap advice. If he heasnt talked to her yet hes hardly going to be captain cool all of a sudden just cos he touched her shoulder, and when would the opportunity come up?
The girls who torment us like this in highschool are ALWAYS going to beout of our reach because they are cooler than us. We dont see them socially so we never get the chance to interact. Your best chance is to hope you both end up at the same party some time, cos in a relaxed social setting you MIGHT get the chance to talk to her but if shes like i think she is its unlikely youd get to do more than talk.......er i mean yeah man keep trying
The girls who torment us like this in highschool are ALWAYS going to beout of our reach because they are cooler than us. We dont see them socially so we never get the chance to interact. Your best chance is to hope you both end up at the same party some time, cos in a relaxed social setting you MIGHT get the chance to talk to her but if shes like i think she is its unlikely youd get to do more than talk.......er i mean yeah man keep trying
Reply 11
stevo23e
^ sorry but thats crap advice. If he heasnt talked to her yet hes hardly going to be captain cool all of a sudden just cos he touched her shoulder, and when would the opportunity come up?
The girls who torment us like this in highschool are ALWAYS going to beout of our reach because they are cooler than us. We dont see them socially so we never get the chance to interact. Your best chance is to hope you both end up at the same party some time, cos in a relaxed social setting you MIGHT get the chance to talk to her but if shes like i think she is its unlikely youd get to do more than talk.......er i mean yeah man keep trying
The girls who torment us like this in highschool are ALWAYS going to beout of our reach because they are cooler than us. We dont see them socially so we never get the chance to interact. Your best chance is to hope you both end up at the same party some time, cos in a relaxed social setting you MIGHT get the chance to talk to her but if shes like i think she is its unlikely youd get to do more than talk.......er i mean yeah man keep trying
That's why you're single. The thing is, touching her shoulder isnt really a major thing and it's just for a few seconds when you say hello or something similar. It's not like touching her shoulder with affection.
Reply 12
1. im not single
2. i stick by my assertions, this guys not in love he just fancys the really hot and popular girl in his school and theres usually no way to talk to people like that unless its in a social setting, not school
2. i stick by my assertions, this guys not in love he just fancys the really hot and popular girl in his school and theres usually no way to talk to people like that unless its in a social setting, not school
Reply 13
Thanks for the advice
But to be honest i dont think i should touch her shoulder, yet. I hardly havnt spoken to her or so think i should just say hi. But i dont know when to say hi, when would be the ideal time and place (at school) to say hi? in a lesson, break etc.???
But to be honest i dont think i should touch her shoulder, yet. I hardly havnt spoken to her or so think i should just say hi. But i dont know when to say hi, when would be the ideal time and place (at school) to say hi? in a lesson, break etc.???
Reply 14
I can SO see touching the shoulder going wrong.
The whole scream and "GET OFF MY SHOULDER YOU CREEP" scenario comes to mind.
Depends what type of popular she is.
The whole scream and "GET OFF MY SHOULDER YOU CREEP" scenario comes to mind.
Depends what type of popular she is.
Reply 15
stevo23e
usually no way to talk to people like that unless its in a social setting, not school
What sort of social setting? Could you give an example, I dont think i will see her outside school. Im personally not an outgoing person and it seems to be highly unlikely seeing her outside school...
Reply 16
xatm092
Depends what type of popular she is.
Shes not popular in the whole school, I dont know about outside school though. She does talk to a lot of people during break and shes always in a group of people. From what i have seen shes the typical 'cool' girl
lol, but not popular in the whole school as i havnt seen her talk with student from other year groups other than our own.Reply 17
You never know till you try.
Reply 18
still sounds popular then if shes got her cool clique in her year, by social setting i do really mean parties. If you have any friends that are friends with her friends that helps, cos then they get invited to the party and you can come along. it is tough if your not outgoing but i know the advice "be more outgoing" is pretty much useless, and people who say "just talk to her" dont understand why this is difficult. really you want to try and find out what she does do when not in school, not saying this will help , and not saying give up on talking to her in school, but for people like yourself one on one chat is the only time you get to work your charm
Reply 19
The shoulder thing could go wrong, That's why I said try not to be creepy or intimidating. If you're not confident dont do it.
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