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    I was in a relatinship with a abusive personfrom 18-22 , would you say that this was okay to treat me horrible cause he wwas so young. He slept with other girls, he verbally abused me and on a couple of occasions physically abused me. Im wondering if I should forgive him because he was so young? O was missing him and wanted to messege him?
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    18 to 22 is not young. 1 to 4 is young, anything over that is old.

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    18 to 22 is not young. 1 to 4 is young, anything over that is old.

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    I meant, was he too immature to understand. Can his beahviour be forgiven? Shall I messege him?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was in a relatinship with a abusive personfrom 18-22 , would you say that this was okay to treat me horrible cause he wwas so young. He slept with other girls, he verbally abused me and on a couple of occasions physically abused me. Im wondering if I should forgive him because he was so young? O was missing him and wanted to messege him?
    no dont forgive him, find someone better who is nice to you all the time
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was in a relatinship with a abusive personfrom 18-22 , would you say that this was okay to treat me horrible cause he wwas so young. He slept with other girls, he verbally abused me and on a couple of occasions physically abused me. Im wondering if I should forgive him because he was so young? O was missing him and wanted to messege him?
    No, don't ever forgive someone like this. He is old enough to understand what is right and wrong.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was in a relatinship with a abusive personfrom 18-22 , would you say that this was okay to treat me horrible cause he wwas so young. He slept with other girls, he verbally abused me and on a couple of occasions physically abused me. Im wondering if I should forgive him because he was so young? O was missing him and wanted to messege him?
    Even children know it's not okay to hit somebody. There's no amount of immaturity in that, it's just abusive.
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    He's a fool. I wouldn't forgive him.
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    (Original post by AsandaLFC)
    Hey he was missing you. I am 19 if u get opportunities I too sleep with as many women as I can but I love my girlfriend. If she was to leave me i would be miserable. Immature is the wrong word.

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    You're joking right? :')
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    18 may be young but it's more than old enough to know right from wrong and what he did was disgusting. He's not worth any of your time and I don't think you should give it to him either, it'll only make him feel like he can get away with being a scumbag. Forget him and move on to people who will actually appreciate and do right by you
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    I feel like through the 4 years, I couldn't standup for myslef. I feel like this is haunting me. I never got a sorry, I got some explanantions but at the same time he tries to me, he said hes become a diff person. I feel like Im missin out on the love of my love. What should I do? We haventspoken in a month and I want to tell him how much he hurt me... shall I or not?
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    An 18 - 22 year old is old enough to know that being abusive is not okay. So, please don't make excuses for him. And please, value yourself higher than returning to someone who treated you like that. There are plenty of guys who will treat you with love and respect, and who you'll enjoy a happy, healthy relationship with. Once you find someone like that, you'll see exactly how messed up an abusive relationship really is, and you'll be glad that you didn't message your ex.
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    I feel like through the 4 years, I couldn't standup for myslef. I feel like this is haunting me. I never got a sorry, I got some explanantions but at the same time he tries to me, he said hes become a diff person. I feel like Im missin out on the love of my love. What should I do? We haventspoken in a month and I want to tell him how much he hurt me... shall I or not?
    Abusive people will always try to convince you that this time around, it will be different. Except, it won't be. You've seen what he's like. You've seen what kind of person he is inside. He didn't even say sorry, and that says a lot. But even if he did say sorry, it's meaningless. He abused you.

    I advice you to raise your chin and tell yourself that you deserve better. Getting on with your life is the best way to let go. A guy like that isn't the love of your life. You've yet to find him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I feel like through the 4 years, I couldn't standup for myslef. I feel like this is haunting me. I never got a sorry, I got some explanantions but at the same time he tries to me, he said hes become a diff person. I feel like Im missin out on the love of my love. What should I do? We haventspoken in a month and I want to tell him how much he hurt me... shall I or not?
    He is guilt tripping you, the chances are he is only saying that so you go back to him and he does the same thing all over again, I urge you not to fall for it. He is trying to make you feel guilty.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I meant, was he too immature to understand. Can his beahviour be forgiven? Shall I messege him?
    Don't contact him, he's no good for you. Try to resist the temptation. You're too good for that, you're worth more than that.

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    What the hell? An 8 year old should know that all of what he did was wrong. People are far too soft.
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    Even 12 year olds understand that physical abuse and cheating isn't good.

    Do not go there again.

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    NO!

    Don't even think of EVER going back to him, don't EVER forgive him. That scumbag is a full adult and he KNOWS oh so well exactly what is GOOD and BAD. His behaviour is utterly UNACCEPTABLE and you were partly at fault too for letting him treat you like this. You should have left him immediately after he raised his hand on you the very first time. Gosh, my blood boils mad when I think about domestic violence, be it male or female - NEVER LET THE ABUSE CONTINUE!!!

    You got into a very sad relationship/toxic love where one was a VICTIM and the other an ABUSER. Please forget about him, treat this as an experience and find some more self-respect and backbone.

    I cannot stress it enough but there are THOUSANDS of nice/good/decent guys out there, GO FIND ONE who will show you what real and healthy loving relationship should be like.
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    When I said physically abused it wasn't a slap as such , it was more a kick . Like a kick to push me away... Not a slap.
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    When you wrote "physically abused" it means all sort of physical abuse like hard slapping, beating, kicking etc, so was he violent towards you in a seriously dangerous way or it was 'just a light harmless kick'? There is big difference between these so next time choose your words better cause as you can see many people who read your first post got the impression that you were a victim of an abusive relationship...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    When I said physically abused it wasn't a slap as such , it was more a kick . Like a kick to push me away... Not a slap.
    Why is kicking less bad than if it was a slap?

    This guy clearly has no respect for you, and is trying to worm his way back into your affections because he enjoys the power he has over you. His age is no excuse - he is an adult and fully responsible for his actions. Please believe that not all men are like this, and you deserve to be treated better.
 
 
 
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