Cocktease?

Why should I 'respect' them? If I disagree with what you say because I think it's nonsense then I shall do so without hesitation. What do you mean by 'forcing'? Am I not permitted to express my opinion?

You are but pay attention to what you said in your previous post. You said the OP's beliefs were absurd. If she doesnt think so who are you to intervene?.

You can express your opinion sure but before doing it say 'in my opinion' so it doesnt seem like you're speaking for the rest of the human race.

I am to intervene as somone concerned with truth. If a man believed in fairies and was going to jump off a cliff on the basis of his belief that the fairies would catch him, who would you be to intervene? It is only by disagreeing and questioning that we can hope to advance our views and beliefs. You are clearly anti-intellectualist.



That is completely pointless. I would only do so if I thought that my audience would be incapable of distinguishing between fact and opinion. In this case I think they can.

If that man believes that, let him believe. It's his issue not yours. Let him jump of his cliff.

Right, before everyone has a huge go at me telling me what an awful person I am, please just rad this and give me some advice.

I'm 18, and a virgin, and it's really beginning to bug me. I'm longing to just get the awkward 'first time' over and done with, and I've had quite a few opportunities over the summer, including one just last night (hence why I've surrendered my pride and written this). The problem is that I have got into the habit of freaking out at the last moment and deciding that I don't want to go through with it. I can't even say why it happens - I'm not worried about the pain, and I use contraceptives every time so it's not a fear of ending up pregnant. The only thing I can actually put it down to that I'm worried the guy will realise I haven't done the deed before and think that I'm really weird for waiting this long, or that I'll be crap in bed (I'm haunted by the memory of one of my friends complaining bitterly that he hated sleeping with virgins because it was really unsatisfying ). Obviously, its a wonderful vicious circle, made worse by the fact that I'm getting a serious reputation for being a cocktease - most guys seem to think that I get them all worked up then refuse to sleep with them just for the fun of it, and it's honestly not like that!

I guess what I'm really asking is has anyone else had this problem? Also, how easily can a guy realise it's your first time if you haven't told him? Obviously, I know there's the blood factor (sorry if this is getting graphic ) - but is it just a few drops, or a whole lot?

Somebody help me!