there's loads of guys I know who look really good with facial hair. Depends on what type you're going for. Some beard thingies are really trendy and in now.
I hate those little fancy designs - i just think the guy has too much time on his hands. I personally haven't used a razor in months now. I just opt for using my hair clippers every few days (think it's been about 4 now ) I hate the baby-face look.
Short beard or stubble is good, not a full-on santa type though!
Agreed, the Captain Birds Eye look is not attractive!
It all depends on the shape of your face and how you trim it and so on. I know a few blokes who sport goatees, and one of them has long sideburns, which looks fab on him but would look really daft on the others. They're all suited to the facial hair they sport though.
And for the kissing, folks, here's a tip for kissing a bearded fella: Angle your face down, so you're going with the hair growth, rather than against it. That'll reduce your stubble rash! (Voice of experience, having gone out with a bearded bloke.)