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    Fed up of being single
    Hi,
    Basically, I’m in my final year of uni and since I started I’ve had one really basic 4 month relationship where I couldn’t even call him my boyfriend and a boyfriend on my year abroad who treated me like **** and just used me for sex. Maybe this sounds naïve of me, but I always just kind of assumed that boys at uni would be more mature and there would be a lot more choice at uni. I was never particularly attractive at school but before coming to uni I lost a lot of weight and started taking care of myself so I’d say I’m actually pretty attractive now and I thought that uni would be a fresh start. I’m a nice person and funny etc (if a little shy), so I can’t really understand why I don’t have a boyfriend. This is made even more difficult by the fact that my one and only flatmate has a boyfriend of 4 years who she always invites round and I end up feeling like a gooseberry a lot of the time. Anyway, I tried to stop feeling sorry for myself and started using tinder a few weeks ago to “put myself out there” a bit more. So far I’ve been on dates with 3 guys but I don’t really “click” with any of them, despite the fact that I made an effort to talk to them and get to know them before the dates. One of the tinder guys even seemed quite nice until I discovered he had been lying about his age and was divorced with 2 kids! The second tinder guy… well, I ended up sleeping with him on the second date and I’m debating whether I want to see him again as I really don’t want just a sexual relationship. As for the third tinder guy, well we just didn’t click, simple as that. I don’t know… On the one hand maybe I should be more proactive and join societies to meet guys, but it’s very difficult when you’re in final year with a massive workload and now that I’m in final year I’m fed up of the whole “hi where do you live? What do you study” awkward conversations. yet I don’t understand how other people seem to just have found boyfriends without trying…. I think the whole thing is made more difficult by the fact that my younger sister seemed to have just stumbled across her boyfriend of over a year who she actually refers to as the “love of her life”. Of course I’m really happy for her but it can be difficult. Meh… I am honestly trying to be positive and I’m not actually as negative as I sound in this post, it’s just spending another Friday night alone whilst my flatmate visits her boyfriend is starting to take it’s toll.
    Does anyone have any advice? How did you any of you find your boyfriends? And please don’t tell me to stop looking, because nothing ever seems to happen whether I’m looking or not. Thank you!
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    Forget tinder. Dress in a feminine way, go to the pub, be friendly and flirty to guys you fancy and what you want will come. Unless you are above average attractiveness dating is hard word with lots of disappointments. And in truth, even if your very attractive it is often angsty too.
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    Where do you live? What do you study?
    haha very funny. :P
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    Fed up of being single
    Hi,
    Basically, I’m in my final year of uni and since I started I’ve had one really basic 4 month relationship where I couldn’t even call him my boyfriend and a boyfriend on my year abroad who treated me like **** and just used me for sex. Maybe this sounds naïve of me, but I always just kind of assumed that boys at uni would be more mature and there would be a lot more choice at uni. I was never particularly attractive at school but before coming to uni I lost a lot of weight and started taking care of myself so I’d say I’m actually pretty attractive now and I thought that uni would be a fresh start. I’m a nice person and funny etc (if a little shy), so I can’t really understand why I don’t have a boyfriend. This is made even more difficult by the fact that my one and only flatmate has a boyfriend of 4 years who she always invites round and I end up feeling like a gooseberry a lot of the time. Anyway, I tried to stop feeling sorry for myself and started using tinder a few weeks ago to “put myself out there” a bit more. So far I’ve been on dates with 3 guys but I don’t really “click” with any of them, despite the fact that I made an effort to talk to them and get to know them before the dates. One of the tinder guys even seemed quite nice until I discovered he had been lying about his age and was divorced with 2 kids! The second tinder guy… well, I ended up sleeping with him on the second date and I’m debating whether I want to see him again as I really don’t want just a sexual relationship. As for the third tinder guy, well we just didn’t click, simple as that. I don’t know… On the one hand maybe I should be more proactive and join societies to meet guys, but it’s very difficult when you’re in final year with a massive workload and now that I’m in final year I’m fed up of the whole “hi where do you live? What do you study” awkward conversations. yet I don’t understand how other people seem to just have found boyfriends without trying…. I think the whole thing is made more difficult by the fact that my younger sister seemed to have just stumbled across her boyfriend of over a year who she actually refers to as the “love of her life”. Of course I’m really happy for her but it can be difficult. Meh… I am honestly trying to be positive and I’m not actually as negative as I sound in this post, it’s just spending another Friday night alone whilst my flatmate visits her boyfriend is starting to take it’s toll.
    Does anyone have any advice? How did you any of you find your boyfriends? And please don’t tell me to stop looking, because nothing ever seems to happen whether I’m looking or not. Thank you!
    I feel like you're a female version of me! I'm in my second year and I've found that girls aren't as mature as I would like them to be. Every girl, I've asked out and liked, is only interested in fun, and Tinder. Well, that's extremely hit and miss to be honest. It's not that I'm horrendously ugly or not funny or easy to get along with, it's just that I've never been truly successful with that! I get it, when you have to spend the evening by yourself while your friends go and out with their girlfriend or boyfriend. It's demoralising to say the least, and I'm sort of stuck and not sure what to do! I think meeting guys can be fairly straight forward, it's picking the good ones which is the problem. I can't really say that it will get better, but you've had success in the past. I would suggest to go out to bars and talk to guys gain confidence and be yourself.
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