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    I am seeing a guy have been for around a year. Within the first two weeks of us getting together he cheated on me. I know I maybe should have ended it there but I didn't.

    I have a serious problem with the girl he cheated on me with. I honestly despise her. Everytime I see her it makes my pish boil, I feel raging, like a psychopath or something?. I just absolutely hate her. Honestly if she was on fire and I had a glass of water I would honestly drink it, that's how much I dislike her.

    I don't know if this is normal? or how can I work on my hate towards her? She knew I was with him when she had sex with him.

    I'm starting to learn it takes a lot more energy to hate someone than it does to just not let them bother you. I can't help it.

    Do I have issues? Helpppppppp
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    I have to see her a lot because we do some of the same classes unfortunately.
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    He cheated on you as in... he cheated in an exam or some sort of competition or...? I don't understand.

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    I think it could be considered normal? It's probably important to remember that he's more than likely just as in the wrong as her, and if you can forgive him you could forgive her too? If you want to go down the route of forgiveness, just remember you don't know everything about her, and maybe she's suffered a lot to reach that point of hurting others. This doesn't excuse what she did, of course, but maybe could provide an explanation? Maybe she actually is a kind person who made a terrible mistake?

    If you don't want to forgive her, but don't want to hate her, then maybe just consider yourself above her? It sounds pretty mean, and personally I'd rather let go of hate through accepting what happened and getting over it, but if you don't really care then maybe just decide she's not worth your time at all. Once you see someone as less than dirt, you shouldn't really need to think about them a lot.

    I always think you should just learn to live with what happens. Who knows, maybe something way worse will happen tomorrow?

    (Sorry if any of this sounds rude or stupid. I'm a 15 year old girl with literally no relationship experience haha)
 
 
 
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