Relationship Apathy

Rather than bore my friends I will bore people who have the choice not to read! But if you fancy giving any thoughts or advice it'd be appreciated - I'll try to be brief.

I am 21 (almost) and feel a total apathy in terms of meeting girls in any romantic sense. I have a friends who are girls but nothing more than that. Anyway, from about the age of 14-19 I would be friends with girls but at the same time I would constantly meet girls I liked in a different way and had about 5 gfs in that time. I enjoyed being with them and never felt the stereotypical commitment-phobia so many guys seem to have. Then I met another girl and I felt more for her than any of the others. The r'ship was difficult due to external factors and eventually we ended it. Neither of us wanted to, but she seemed to get over it much faster than me (she's had a couple of bfs since). I'm not still in love with her, but now I have an overwhelming apathy when it comes to relationship related issues. I see girls who are pretty and think "wow, she's hot" and have kissed the odd girl in clubs and whatnot. But now I have this simultaneous desire to be with a girl properly (bf/gf, relationship, sex, winter walks through town etc) and yet a lack of desire to put in any effort. There have been a few (really sweet, pretty) girls who have apparently been interested in me but I just can't be bothered to do anything about it. Anyway, hopefully you're got the idea. Apathy combined with a really strong desire to be with someone.

What's wrong with me?

Reply 1

fairycakes

ure just lazy! everything that is worth having comes from hard work. maybe u haven't met the right person yet, who will make u want to put the effort in.

xxxxx

Reply 2

History_is...

There is nothing wrong with not wanting a relationship - if you have other stuff going on in your life, it's not always the right time for the commitment side of things. Thing is you're not going to get all the cute stuff without the effort, so you have to weigh up your priorities and see how important that is to you. Maybe like the last person said, when you meet someone you actually really care about you will want to put the effort in rather then at the moment when there is nobody in particular.