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    So basically, I'm with a girl (let's call her Jane) who I've been with for almost a year now. She is friends with another girl (let's call her Alice) who has an on/off relationship with a guy (let's call him Derek). Basically, it's almost certain that Derek has feelings for my girlfriend. Every time he's with her (never alone, always with Alice as well) he always feels the need to compare me to him. It's only silly things like height and skin colour (even though I'm a fair bit taller and darker) and refers to me as riffraff (as if that's insulting to me). But whenever I see him, he stays quiet and acts like he respects me, even when I make no effort to speak to him. I've tried to keep things civil because of his relationship with my girlfriend's good friend, but recently he's been pissing me off. I got a UCAS track email about my York offer through when we were all together and I told Jane, and he said nothing and looked annoyed, and changed the subject almost immediately.

    He tries to insult me behind my back about my background (I live in a council house) but he's working full time at Tesco with no plans to do otherwise, which isn't a problem but I don't see his need to try and make me out to be a piece of ****.


    Basically what is his problem and how do I go about setting him straight without jeopardising Jane and Alice's friendship?


    Chur guys.
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    So basically, I'm with a girl (let's call her Jane) who I've been with for almost a year now. She is friends with another girl (let's call her Alice) who has an on/off relationship with a guy (let's call him Derek). Basically, it's almost certain that Derek has feelings for my girlfriend. Every time he's with her (never alone, always with Alice as well) he always feels the need to compare me to him. It's only silly things like height and skin colour (even though I'm a fair bit taller and darker) and refers to me as riffraff (as if that's insulting to me). But whenever I see him, he stays quiet and acts like he respects me, even when I make no effort to speak to him. I've tried to keep things civil because of his relationship with my girlfriend's good friend, but recently he's been pissing me off. I got a UCAS track email about my York offer through when we were all together and I told Jane, and he said nothing and looked annoyed, and changed the subject almost immediately.

    He tries to insult me behind my back about my background (I live in a council house) but he's working full time at Tesco with no plans to do otherwise, which isn't a problem but I don't see his need to try and make me out to be a piece of ****.


    Basically what is his problem and how do I go about setting him straight without jeopardising Jane and Alice's friendship?


    Chur guys.

    To me ,this guy doesn't sound like he is attracted to your girlfriend. It sounds as though he is asserting himself in front of the others, possibly because he sees you as a potential threat. By putting you down, he is attempting to regain status and authority.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So basically, I'm with a girl (let's call her Jane) who I've been with for almost a year now. She is friends with another girl (let's call her Alice) who has an on/off relationship with a guy (let's call him Derek). Basically, it's almost certain that Derek has feelings for my girlfriend. Every time he's with her (never alone, always with Alice as well) he always feels the need to compare me to him. It's only silly things like height and skin colour (even though I'm a fair bit taller and darker) and refers to me as riffraff (as if that's insulting to me). But whenever I see him, he stays quiet and acts like he respects me, even when I make no effort to speak to him. I've tried to keep things civil because of his relationship with my girlfriend's good friend, but recently he's been pissing me off. I got a UCAS track email about my York offer through when we were all together and I told Jane, and he said nothing and looked annoyed, and changed the subject almost immediately.

    He tries to insult me behind my back about my background (I live in a council house) but he's working full time at Tesco with no plans to do otherwise, which isn't a problem but I don't see his need to try and make me out to be a piece of ****.


    Basically what is his problem and how do I go about setting him straight without jeopardising Jane and Alice's friendship?


    Chur guys.
    He sounds insecure and jealous. Either try and befriend him (go grab lunch or something with him on your own) or ignore him.
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    The sad reality is people have nothing better to do than interfere with other people's relationships.
 
 
 
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