21 and not getting any...

I'm a 22 year old gal nearing the end of uni and I have been single for about 3 and a half years. I went to uni with a boyfriend and then we spilt up when I got there and I haven't had a b/f since. And its not as if Ive had lots of dates with guys or non serious relationships either. I don't what it is, I join loads of clubs to meet ppl and generally have a wide circle of friends and meet new people quite a lot but to no avail. It's not as if i'm always on the lookout but there don't to seem to be potentials.
I get really annoyed because I'm past the fling stage as I always get hurt and want a relationship but I feel most guys i meet are just out for fun. I'm getting a bit down about it now as I think i'm weird or my appearance isn't brill or whatever fat etc.
Generally just need ideas or does anyone else feel like this. All my friends are attached, I just want to meet someone like me, a meeting of minds and soul so to speak - don't puke lol

Reply 1

username47781

20

Get a job maybe? but seriously there are alot of 22 year olds who are still single.

Reply 2

nmt_oli

1

Kinda know how your feeling, I've been single for nearly 2 years now, after a very long a good relationship. had a couple of brief encoutners shall i say, but didnt amount to anything.
Im at 1st year of uni, but 2nd time around (changed uni, dropped out of first year) so had a fair opportunity. maybe its that im not quite confident enough (improving), maybe its cause im not majorly into going out, and if i do a lot of the girls are not my cup of tea.
Maybe im just too much the nice friendly guy and all.

Hey ho, il be patient and keep waiting. Im sure theres someone there for me.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

relationships suck. I'm in the middle of the ****test argument ever with my bf.

Reply 4

nmt_oli

1

Theres pros and cons of both singledom and a relationship. right now im getting quite tired of the cons, so wouldnt mind a change!

Reply 5

Princess_Peach

Anonymous

relationships suck. I'm in the middle of the ****test argument ever with my bf.

ouch. What's the deal?

Reply 6

Fleece

15

21 or 22?

Ah we all have lulls. Can't really comment on what it is about you having never met you though.

Reply 7

FrenchGal

14

I'm 22, I've been single for 4 years. I'm getting pretty fed up at times, right, but well, I wouldn't do half the things I do just now if I were in a relationship.
At least, that's what I keep saying not to get to depressed about it :p:

Reply 8

kemiandtheboy

1

i have the opposite problem... i only want nooky, but all the dates i've had this year have been with guys who wanted "more"

grass is always greener, what can i say!!!!

Reply 9

RL99

1

Anonymous

I'm a 22 year old gal nearing the end of uni and I have been single for about 3 and a half years. I went to uni with a boyfriend and then we spilt up when I got there and I haven't had a b/f since. And its not as if Ive had lots of dates with guys or non serious relationships either. I don't what it is, I join loads of clubs to meet ppl and generally have a wide circle of friends and meet new people quite a lot but to no avail. It's not as if i'm always on the lookout but there don't to seem to be potentials.
I get really annoyed because I'm past the fling stage as I always get hurt and want a relationship but I feel most guys i meet are just out for fun. I'm getting a bit down about it now as I think i'm weird or my appearance isn't brill or whatever fat etc.
Generally just need ideas or does anyone else feel like this. All my friends are attached, I just want to meet someone like me, a meeting of minds and soul so to speak - don't puke lol

Well I think this is one of those where you aren't doing anything wrong and nor is there anything wrong with you, but yet you still question whether there is or not. I know how frustrating being single for a long time can be.
This may well go for blokes too, but the girls I met in my first 1.5 years at Uni were either:

1) Very shy/timid and spend all their time working, so getting to know them well proves difficult.
2) Outgoing but only after casual sex/flings.
3) Somewhere in between, but taken. :frown:

Then for the next 1.5 years, due to a combination of circumstances (mainly a demanding course with 95% men) I've hardly even met any girls. So three years at uni and I haven't found anyone, or even come close if I'm honest.
Personally I've jacked it in for a year to go travelling. Though it may be small consolation, it's probably not a bad thing that you're able to focus on your course during your final year.
Still, I guess posts like yours show there are people out there after the same thing as me (and vice-versa hopefully). Now, where to find them... :confused:

Reply 10

Sephrenia

16

Hang on 21=22 now? is that something like 1=0?

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

22 sorry typo

So there are some ppl out there that think the same as me

Reply 12

FoeGeddaBowDeet

post a pic.

Reply 13

RL99

1

Anonymous

So there are some ppl out there that think the same as me

Very much so. Personally I've found very few women who are single, not after something casual but not looking to force a relationship to happen with just anyone (which seems common, amongst men too), and not recently out of a relationship or in some way having a problem relating to an ex.
Some people would probably consider that picky enough without then considering the fact I want a girl who's intelligent, interesting, ambitious etc...but then I am a picky b*stard...I'm prepared to wait though...

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