lost all my closest friends...

Hi, i could really do with some advice, i really dont know what to you.

Back in may split up from my first boyf, P. Ever since then i seem to have lost all of my closest friends, and im dont know what to do.

Id been going out with P, since the end of yr11 and we broke up at the end of yr12,basically because of another girl muscling in on him, and every other lad in my year. I have always been friends with the lads. eg, his mates and had been for years. it was all going well, everyone was getting on until we broke up for the summer hols. Ever since, i feel like i dont have any friends. The girl who split us has moved into the sixth form, and is one by one turning everyone against, because as you can guess i dont get on with her that well. I have tried talkin to them about it, and nothing happened, not even an apology. i dont know what to do, it is ruining my life, literally, my marks are slipping because of it, and i fear i wont get the place in the uni i want.

can anyone give me any advice on what do to? im not imagining it.
People have told me to ignore them, find new friends, you'l never have to see them again soon, but even thou they upset me, i dont want to have to move on, and find new friends, why should i? until this other girl appeared everything was going great, i was a happy lively girl, now i cant go a day with out crying over the matter.

i had a fight with one of them a while back, he called me stupid, and ever since he has been ganging up with the girl (R) to turn the others against me. When they are in a group, i fear them, i dont know what to do, because it gets worse everyday, they make excuses not to stand in the dinner queue with me, leave a room if i enter. its gettin beyond a joke now, i dont know whether i should just quit college, it would mean i wont have put up with them...

please, i know this may have been long to read, and not make sense, but any advice would be muchly appreicated.

xx

Reply 1

dani_88

First of all..dont quit! Do you have any friends outside of school?? I don't know about your sixth form but if you only have to go in for classes then you could just do all of your work outside of school and start hanging around more with your friends outside of school just until the dust settles at least.. And i know you may not beleive me but trust me, give it a few weeks, and it'll all be old news and there will more than likely be something else / someone else that this girl is deciding to focus her attention on..

Reply 2

JimmyJ

Shouldn't really have focused your life revolving around a lad.

That said,

Don't worry about it. Try not act like you're bothered, people notice weakness and prey on it. Act aggressive towards the aggressor, play her at her own game.

If all else fails, find some more friends.

Don't quit.

Reply 3

kam

Just concentrate on getting to University, not what those low-lives do.

They're just petty and stupid...good that you're not friends with them, if they're capable of just acting like sheep.

Tell them to grow up...what a bunch of losers.

Reply 4

Louenn

They're the ones who will lose out with the silly vendetta.

Do your best to ignore them. If necessary, don't spend any time in common rooms, just spend all your time in the library studying, and get away from them.

If you do all your studing in school time, you'll be able to join some clubs or societies in the evening to get out and meet more people. If you sing, find a choir, it's always a good way of meeting people.

EDIT: And the people you meet outside of school are likely to be far more mature than these idiots.