if you had a choice...

...would you:

1. follow your heart and go on a trip you'll probably never forget before you go to uni (2007), at the cost of spending money that could be saved for uni, and also risking your parents being pissed off

2. be rational and decide to not go and save the money but potentially miss out on the opportunity of a lifetime and regret it forever and ever

coz im at a loss at the mo

(this comes under health and relationships coz im considering going to visit my boyfriend in the summer, but it's gunna cost quite a bit and stuff...)

(and another edit...i'll still have some money left over, but just not as much...)

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Reply 1

Danny the Geezer

Id travel the world without a shadow of a doubt. You'll get life experiences galore.

Reply 2

tbm

Personally I'd save the money and not go, just because I know how hard going it is at uni not having much money. You'll probably be thankful that you saved up when you get there and are skint!

You can always go on this trip another time, like after you graduate, so its not like you're missing out on anything.

Obviously its up to you, do whatever feels right.

Reply 3

egg_soup

id probably say save your money - only because i didnt save that much before i came to uni and now i have a fiver to last me to january. Its not a good feeling :frown:

Reply 4

Zerforax

Just because you feel you wont forget it.. doesnt mean you wont forget it for all the right reasons :p:

could become a really bad trip and then you may just regret it!

Reply 5

Zatty

I say save the money for uni. Otherwise you may suffer financially..and this could eventually lead to more problems i.e. no money to go out (which affects your social life), limited books (which affects your studies), unable to attend trips abroad or study abroad (which affects your education experience), owing money etc etc etc . That's very stressful! lol. Well I hope you make the right decision :wink:

Reply 6

Danny the Geezer

Couldn't you go half way and have a little trip, but put money aside for uni too?

Reply 7

HeStoleMyCrayon

i'm not talking a round the world trip or anything, just 7 or 10 days somewhere. i'm thinking it'll make me feel more independant and confident before uni (going on my own) and i'll still have at least £500 left, plus a uni fund...i've just concentrated so much on studies and always thought stuff through, so i feel like i wanna just go out and do something that i want to do and deal with the consequences later. hmmmm

Reply 8

Danny the Geezer

I went to university very naive, I wish I took a gap year before it.

Reply 9

ciara

I wouldn't say visiting your boyfriend is the same thing as the trip of a lifetime that will make you feel more confident. I'd say save your money, but try to do something spontaneous/rebellious that's a bit cheaper before you go to uni. Road trips - they're always fun.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Go on the trip!! I went on travelling for a month before uni, and I am *so* glad I did! It made me much more confident, I had the time of my life (literally, the only bad thing is that uni seems slightly dull in comparison!) and came back with a boyfriend! It definitely changed me and toughened me up a bit before uni! Obviously if your trip is just visiting your boyfriend it will be slightly different, but for me I am so glad i decided not to back out of travelling before uni!
Yes, it was very expensive, but it was so worth it that I don't mind being slightly skint at uni, and as I don't drink I don't spend as much on nights out as a lot of people so I still have plenty of money to socialise.
With my trip, I always realised it would probably be an amazing experience, but I had no idea it was going to be *so* perfect, and it could have turned out badly too.
So in case you hadn't gathered - go on the trip! Though make sure it's something you really want to do first cos it's a bit of a commitment using a lot of money that could be used for uni! Good luck! :smile:

Reply 11

HeStoleMyCrayon

hmm fair enough. thanks, i probably wont go. now ive just gotta find the right time to break up with him...

Reply 12

HeStoleMyCrayon

the trip wouldnt just be to visit him, it'd be a proper holiday and ive never been abroad before

Reply 13

Environmentalist

HeStoleMyCrayon

hmm fair enough. thanks, i probably wont go. now ive just gotta find the right time to break up with him...

Why are you going on an expensive trip to see him if you want to break up with him?! :confused:

Reply 14

HeStoleMyCrayon

i dont want to at all, i reeeeally wanna stay with him and go see him. but if i dont go then, it'd be another year before i get to see him probably...so the relationship will probably deteriorate

Reply 15

Fleffzilla

I'd go, without a doubt.

But that's because I knew I had a student loan coming through - if you don't, then consider how much money you'll have left, and ask if it'd be enough.

Reply 16

Lofty

Would definately definately go. Once in a lifetime thing.

In fact, i have pretty much done that, travelled to a lot of places over the past 3-4 years...

Reply 17

Wangers

travel the world and the seven seas......

more seriously - go = because you'll mature and learn things about yourself that are priceless. You can always think about money later and get a job at uni,

have fun - and dont regret whatever you do

Wangers

Reply 18

xChellex

Everyone's choices are part chance, you've just got to take the risk and do what you want to do. :smile:

If you feel that you'll have enough money left over afterwards, then go for it. I know saving money is sensible, but missing out on travel is something to regret.
My boyfriend once asked me to go to Greece with him and his family for two weeks. I didn't go because I thought my parents would be mad at me if I went. Looking at the photos of that trip, and hearing what a wonderful time they all had made me regret my decision not to go. :frown:

So if there's any chance its a viable option go for travel or a new experience, then don't be afraid to take it.

Reply 19

Ron Stoppable

Important questions for the OP:

1a - Have you met him in person?
1b - How many days have you spent together?
1c - Have you always been a long-distance couple?

2a - How far have you gone, emotionally and physically?
2b - Is there more potential pleasure for you to gain than the potential pain of not seeing him ASAP?