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Reply 20
My sister is, or claims to be asexual. I haven't really ever had the chance to talk to her about it though, because she's a little sensitive about it. She's 18 this month, but she hasn't ever dated anyone (although of course this is not uncommon in non-asexual people of that age) and she doesn't ever say: "Ooh x is good looking". It's hard to describe, because written down it just sounds pretty normal, and just like how you might also behave if you just normally keep quiet about these kind of things; but I'm not sure how to describe it.. she just doesn't really think of others as potential partners at all, in any situation.
When I was at school I used to think I might be asexual as I was not at all attracted to the boys there. However when I left school I realized that that was because most of the boys at my school were pervy mingers. I think in a lot of cases its a phase.
Reply 22
Don't know any, no.
In school, I thought it was someone who could just make a baby by themselves.
Reply 23
generalebriety
I've seen a lot of people in H&R trying to cause trouble, but you're not even good at it. Please leave quietly. :rolleyes:



O I'm terribly sorry for questioning the Catholic Church, I really deserve to be burnt at the stake like all variants would be if the PanzerPope and politically correct fetishists like you were actually considered relevant to society. The reason we have the luxury of being polictically correctness is because of radicals and polemiscists from the Enlightenment onwards who haven't kept their opinions within closely defined norms and haven't listened to small minded non-thinkers such as yourself. Keep you pathetic emoticon laced put downs to yourself.
I have a close friend who was sexually abused, and, understandably, has since ceased to have even the slightest intrest in boys, sex e.t.c - not sure if that counts though
Reply 25
Yeah - me.
No but there's this snail down the road...
Yes I know.
Morrissey

Before all the explosive kegs anyway...
Reply 28
i watched jeremy kyle over the summer.. i know that's bad enough.. but there was a guy on there who met up with a prostitute/escort who would do bondage stuff etc.. with him but they never performed sexual acts.. they later got married and still have never done these kind of things.. he's just happy to get turned on by PVC.. hmm..

but i guess it's a perfectly normal thing.. you don't need to have sex.. though as humans were kind of 'programmed' to have sex and babies.. but then evolution has probably ahd a lot to do with the increase in those who claim to be asexual..
Reply 29
I dont know anyone although I went through a phase of questioning if I was. I think more people are than claim to be. If you are gay or bi you have 'a label'. If you are Asexual most people cant associate their feelings with a label. In years to come I bet to be asexual will be just as common as being gay.
Reply 30
http://www.asexuality.org/
This website is normally great if you want to find something, anything out about asexuality. It seems to have been a bit obliterated now... But you never know, it might come up again. And they still have a little bit about it.
I knew someone who used to think he was asexual but he turned out to be gay a few years down the line.
Reply 32
I had two friends who were asexual, one of them was a complete psycho but the other one wasn't particularly strange.

I get the feeling that being asexual is more common than we'd think, because if you say that you don't want sex, people tend to just say "oh, just wait until you find the right partner!", so people don't talk about it or just say they haven't found the right person yet. If they're in a relationship (for those who have romantic attraction but no desire for sex), they just wouldn't talk about their sex lives.
Reply 33
I consider myself largely asexual. I can't remember the last time I had a crush on anyone. Last year, I decided to stop masterbating to see if I had the willpower. I had intended it to only go on for a few weeks, but it was 13 months before I knew it and the urge to masterbate died after a month or two. I only started masterbating again recently because I see no reason not to, although I do it roughly 4 or 5 times a month at most. I have my fair share of sexual fantasies, although I have no desire to actually act them out.
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Reply 35
Yes I do know an asexual woman. She had a hysterectomy at 14 which I think is partly why. She lives with another woman. They're not in a relationship but it must be a long term companionship thing because they're moved house twice together.
I used to think I was asexual, but I'm pretty sure it's the case that I have repressed my sexuality since I do feel attraction to women occasionally. However, I could never imagine having sex with anyone and only find women "pretty" rather than "hot", as it were.
Reply 37
sure - ive had no sex drive for about 18 months now. I find girls nice to look at, but just like lots of other things. Guys can be just as pleasant to see, too. Theres no sexual feelings there at all. It's a gift, in my opinion. So many guys are out of control fools for their tools. I just worry what it means for my hormones and the other noticeable consequences it has on my life.
I used to think I was strange because I never fancied anyone until I was 13. All my friends would be talking about who they found attractive and I wouldn't because I didn't have those feelings.

I used to have a friend who claimed to be asexual (lost contact with her when I came to uni, so don't know if shes changed). She was 18 last time I saw her and used to say the thought of having a boyfriend made her sick. The whole idea of sex made her feel dirty and she said she'd never have it. She wasn't interested in girls either.

Anyway I've lost my sex drive completely at the moment which is quite good because I'm single and I'm not one that goes out looking for sex. I still find I'm attracted to guys but just don't want sex at the moment.

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