Feeling pathetic..flatmate probs

Yesterday my mate broke into the shower whilst I was taking a shower. Basically he came in, chucked all of the towels out and just started taking snaps with his camera phone and digital camera. My other flatmates thought it was all jokes, whilst I just stood there in a state fo confusion for 20 minutes, naked holding my crouch. Anyway, eventually one of my mates, got a sock and gave it to me, I had to then leg it out of the shower, stalk naked with a sock covering my dick.

It was all jokes. Anyway, I was like to my flat-mate to not post pictures of me naked on the internet (in particular MSN). So what does he do, he changes his display picture on MSN to a picture of me naked and looking quite vulnerable (I wonder why he chose that picture); anyway he did that so he could show a female mate that I go uni with and he sent my sister it too. God knows what both these girls are thinking. Anyway my mate at uni, messaged me to tell me what he did as he stuck the MSN picture up, saying things like "I gotta tell him off, someone has too etc etc...". I appreicated her consideration, but to be honest I suppose any manly pride I had has just vanished since this incident. Like I just feel very vulnerable, because with this flat mate I can't exactly beat him up as he is twice my size. I am 10 stones 7 pounds, he is 17.1 stones. I am a hardgainer.

It doesn't help that today whilst I was speaking to my sister, she was like condemining me. Yeah "X showed me the photos of you in the shower, what an ugly body you have. I am not the one to judge though."

My greatest fear is that I don't want the picture to spread to my other mates 9especially female mates), and I just have a feeling that my flatmate will for "jokes" - just so he could get an ego boost. Which is why I know he did it. I just feel so powerless due to my size :frown:

Reply 1

squigaletta

What a cock. I'm really sorry for what he's done to you it's harsh and illegal. I would suggest suing him or something, but I know it wouldn't really help. I guess you just have to try not to think about it, and remember that while he may be bigger than you he is quite clearly an absolute knobber and can't be too somfortable in himself or he wouldn't have felt the need to make someone else feel bad.

Reply 2

xChellex

Aww, I'm sorry that you're having trouble.
Are you in university accomodation? If so, is there nobody that you could report him to?
Beyond that, there isn't much really you can do:

squigaletta

I guess you just have to try not to think about it, and remember that while he may be bigger than you he is quite clearly an absolute knobber and can't be too somfortable in himself or he wouldn't have felt the need to make someone else feel bad.

It's true - this guy must have some issues with himself to do this to somebody else. Just try to ignore it, be comfortable with yourself and take comfort in the fact that this guy is insecure and needs to make others feel bad to make himself feel better.

Reply 3

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OP

squigaletta

What a cock. I'm really sorry for what he's done to you it's harsh and illegal. I would suggest suing him or something, but I know it wouldn't really help. I guess you just have to try not to think about it, and remember that while he may be bigger than you he is quite clearly an absolute knobber and can't be too somfortable in himself or he wouldn't have felt the need to make someone else feel bad.

Yeah, I am trying not to think about it at all. Just that I am constantly being reminded about it, so its a bit hard. For sure he is using is size to an advantage, and it is really starting to become a pain in the arse. Plus I am very very unhappy because I am starting to hear rumours from my other mates on how he is telling them how he spiking my protein powders with laxatives.

I don't know why, but I just have this really dodgy feeling that he does not want me to make self-improvements for whatever reasons. My other flat-mate is a complete stick; he is nine stones , yet he is not getting any of this bs.

Reply 4

tomHHHH

jesus christ stand up for your self you dont have to beat him up to get him to stop it

Reply 5

username47781

20

Surely you can report him for that?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Serenity87

:9 Aww, I'm sorry that you're having trouble.
Are you in university accomodation? If so, is there nobody that you could report him to?
Beyond that, there isn't much really you can do:

:ottid:

It's true - this guy must have some issues with himself to do this to somebody else. Just try to ignore it, be comfortable with yourself and take comfort in the fact that this guy is insecure and needs to make others feel bad to make himself feel better.

Private Accomadation. He was OK in campus last year, just this year (now that I am living with him) I am starting to see this other side to him that one of my mates complained about.

I don't want to move out, because I am settled here, plus the accomadation (given how much I pay for it) is of very good quality.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

tomHHHH

jesus christ stand up for your self you dont have to beat him up to get him to stop it

I did, I said "don't ****ing go around showing me naked in the shower to anonymous people, otherwise I won't talk to you."

He just did it. He knows physically I can't do anything to stop him, so why would he listen to me verbly?

Reply 8

tomHHHH

if thats what you actually said i feel kind of sorry for you

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

tomHHHH

if thats what you actually said i feel kind of sorry for you

Hence, the reason why I am feeling pathetic mate. Being unable to defend myself is very demoralising in this situation.

On the bright side, it has given me more of an incentive to go to the gym.

Reply 10

squigaletta

Hmmm, after your follow up post this guy quite clearly ses you as a threat or at the very least a potential threat. He's probably used to being the big man and being able to use his size to get his way, and now that your trying t better yourself its like you are encroaching on his territory, making him worried. One idea, though its only a very slim possibility, could you get him onboard with your self imporvement. maybe if you made him think that you look to him for inspiration or even as your mentor for gaining weight, he would want to help you and forget about his worry that you will be better than him...its a thought...?

Reply 11

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squigaletta

Hmmm, after your follow up post this guy quite clearly ses you as a threat or at the very least a potential threat. He's probably used to being the big man and being able to use his size to get his way, and now that your trying t better yourself its like you are encroaching on his territory, making him worried. One idea, though its only a very slim possibility, could you get him onboard with your self imporvement. maybe if you made him think that you look to him for inspiration or even as your mentor for gaining weight, he would want to help you and forget about his worry that you will be better than him...its a thought...?

Yeah one of the reasons why I moved in with him was because for a very long time we were gym buddies. I gained 2 and a half stones with his help, I guess your right he may now see me as a threat. As I do now since gaining just a little amount of weight get a lot more attention from girls because I am now looking much healthier and bigger then before.

That could be a theory, but I just don't want to believe it. As it makes him look so shallow.

Reply 12

Altocirrus

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Crikey, that really sucks. I don't think there's anyone you can go to on this one, you'll have to deal with it yourself. I'd say your best option is to get as many people as possible on your side. Let those who thought it was all jokes see it from your point of view. Make him as unpopular as possible. And never forget what an utter (expletive) he is.

Did he really take pictures of you for 20 minutes?

Reply 13

cheekynibbler

Cant you just laugh it off? Its not like hes putting up posters of you about your university!

If you just show your not bothered any more he'll lose interest. I know i would, since ive been in the same place as him.

Ask for copies of the photos because you now see the funny side or some crap like that. Or when he tried to show people, tell him to show the worst one and just laugh with them.

Reply 14

squigaletta

That's so sad :frown:

, like you said, you have an incentive to get to the gym even more. Until then it's **** but you have to just ride it out really, it's a shame when people show you a side of them you didn't want to see, good luck, and don't let him knock you down, remind yourself that he's ony doing it because you worry him...and if you worry him you must be doing something right :smile:

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Reply 15

abc137

Oh my gosh that is SUCH a horrible, malicious thing to do to somebody! I feel really sorry for you!! I think you should definately have some serious words with him, more than you have already and make it very clear that what he has done is unacceptable! Also, can you report him to the University for that saying he is bullying you and get him kicked out?? I think you should!! Or at least get him a warning or something so that it doesn't go any further, that is so mean and very immature at his age!! Good luck whatever you do x

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

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Altocirrus

Crikey, that really sucks. I don't think there's anyone you can go to on this one, you'll have to deal with it yourself. I'd say your best option is to get as many people as possible on your side. Let those who thought it was all jokes see it from your point of view. Make him as unpopular as possible. And never forget what an utter (expletive) he is.

Did he really take pictures of you for 20 minutes?

Yes he did, stayed in bathroom for 20 minutes. I was like "wtf is this bull****!!!"

At the time, I was like "ok, jokes", but then when he started spreading it over MSN, and started sending it to my sister, I just thought, "what a complete joke", as I told him not to do it. He couldn't resist.

I am very very popular at university, to the point that a lot of my mates are like "x your such a top guy, he is such a cock. Why didn't you stay with us?"

i am probably going to turn this into a joke, because I dont want to show people it is bothering me. Other then that, I am not really talking about it much.

Reply 17

20083

2

Erm... is there no lock on the shower?

Reply 18

Mr. Fox

11

Cut one of his ears off with a pair of tailor's scissors when he's sleeping.

Reply 19

cheekynibbler

im amazed at some of the responces to this! It was a prank, surely to god you people have ever played one on a mate? Taking pics of someone in the shower is pretty tame compared to some of the stuff me and my mates did to each other.

just class it as harmless fun and move on! Its only people that know you that have seen it. At least he didnt try to sell a friend on ebay.

Feeling pathetic..flatmate probs

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