Wants to be my ''friend''.

Do you know what "giving all the wrong signals" means?

I'm facing a bit of a dilemna and I was hoping for a little advice.

I'm currently single and I'm not looking to start a relationship with anyone. I like it being single but there's a guy who keeps approaching me. I told him I had a boyfriend, but he insists that we be friends then. (Just to make clear- I don't actually know him) He also happens to be an extremely nice person (friendly, polite etc)

I bumped into him last week and he said he had been looking out for me for three weeks and he asked me if I had been avoiding him, I quickly said, ''No'' because I felt bad but truthfully I actually have been avoiding ''this place'' because I frequently see him here. He said he wouldn't push the boundaries as he knew I had a boyfriend (I don't, I just lied) and he wouldn't come between us, he just wanted to be my friend. There was then this awkward silence and quickly I responded by asking for his number and telling him I would ring him within a week. It was stupid of me, I know. But I just wanted him to lay off.

It's been a week now, and he's waiting for me to ring him but I haven't. I know it sounds so pretty nasty of me but I just don't want to get to know him anymore. I don't want to have to deal with another person in my life.

If a lad or girl asks to be your ''friend'' would it be extremely rude to say you don't want to get to know them? because that's how I feel right now, I just feel bad all the time. Any advice would be appreciated, thanks.

I considered phoning him, arranging to meet up, going out and talking etc and then not calling him back again. I know it sounds harsh but isn't it a tad bit better then telling him I would call him but not doing it? At least then I've called him and gone out. What do you think?

He sounds weird. Be harsh. You have no connection to this person and quite frankly asking someone to be their friend is very strange. My friends became friends over a long period of time, due to common interests etc, not because we asked each other randomly 'Can we be friends?' when we first met. It's just an excuse to get you into his life and it's very clear that's not something you want.

Anjurd, thanks. He also wrote down his e-mail ad on the same paper that had his number on, so I also have the option of sending him an e-mail, although what I could say in it I really don't know.

I think I might call him tommorow, arrange to meet up and not call again. I feel bad but I made my feelings extremely clear to him several times. Whenever he asked to go out I shrugged and said I had a boyfriend and then he would say, ''It doesn't matter we can go out as friends, there's no harm in having male friends is there?'' he usually had a response like that which made it hard for me to say no. He just doesn't seem to get it, maybe he will if I do this.

Charlee, you're sooo right. The friends I've made in the past were made over a very long period of time and through shared interests. I never asked to be their friend it just happened. There are people who I meet on a regular basis but because we're so different we just don't click and I haven't befriended them in the same way.