I honestly dont know how to act anymore.

My bf was out this week with his course mates and he told some biatch that he thought she was really fit when he was really drunk. He cant remember doing it, but he told me anyways

i cant get it out my head. After he told me he said he doesnt know how he feels anymore about me or her and everytime i asked him how does he feel about her he wouldnt reply.

He says hes realised he wants to be with me (after i was on the phone in hysterics to him for an hour) and hes guna come and see me tomorrow.

He almost cheated on me before with a mate, and i knew something would happen again. I really dont know how to act or feel about anyone anymore - it seems everyone i get close ****s on me. its not fair.

i feel so low i cant stop crying cos all i did was show him how much he means to me and it obv aint enough. what can i do to stop this crying and boat of depression. i dont want to lose him, i never did anything to make him not want me :frown:

Reply 1

xatm092

So you think screaming at him for an hour was a good decision?

He obviously just has problems only when he is drunk, just calm down and talk it over in a rational manner, be the bigger person and just say you want to be with him but you can't handle him being so flirtatious.

If he can't stop, then you will just have to leve him. Tell him that.

Reply 2

MissHero

"he told some biatch that he thought she was really fit when he was really drunk"

Screaming and doubts over a relationship because of this?!

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

it wasnt screaming i was crying. i cant stand the thought of losing him though. i dont want to let him go because i know what we have is so special. :frown:

Reply 4

xatm092

You are getting much too hyped over this stupid thing. Let it go!!!

Just one thing is not going to ruin your relationship unless you let it.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

he just told me that when he was sober he told her that he fancied her and she rejected him. I feel so bad. Wer meeting up tomorrow to try sort things out, he says he wants to be with me but im not becoming second best. hes my fiance for ****s sakes.

Reply 6

scribble_girl

Everyone has little 'hmm, what if's' about other people when they're going out with people - but telling him he fancied her whilst SOBER was a little bit over the line I think.

Just try to be a little more rational, he needs to hear how you feel in clear terms, instead of just mentally going through things talking to him. Have you tried talking to your friends who know him? What do they think? Often friends can spot potential cheaters long before you can.

Best of luck x

Reply 7

andy_cole2

you should have come on here and explained the situation before shouting at him. i think you just needed to tell someone how you felt and he was the one you told and then cos you were telling him you got more annoyed. share your thoughts with people that aren't hurt/ related to the thoughts is always best.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

Prepare yourself for the worst...I'm sorry darl, looks like he's having a change of heart.
Actually he already did, just he's trying to hang onto you just as backup, until he can find a girl who won't reject him...
He might even be going through a phase where he feels the need to experiment & explore the fields...

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

i completely agree with you anon. Iv realised i cant live like this anymore. Im not being second best to anyone not even him.

i didnt shout i was in tears cos i was in shock. i didnt once raise my voice.