hes gone.......

Ive known my best firend (who is a guy) for two years, and we have been goin out for the last 8 months. Its a long distance relationship but we are still madly in love with each other and talking to each on the phone constantly. we meet up every month.. You may think so whats the problem? But its huge... :frown:

Firstly, I am a muslim- so talking to guy is wrong and going out with him, is way out the league...!
Secondly, I originate from India and he originates from Pakistan. The older generation have this thing against Pakistanis; It's really annoying and ive had many arguments with them explaining how they scapegoat certain types of ppl...but because they are so narrowminded, they don't want to listen. :mad:

Also, my family found out about us 2 days ago....so I got into alot of trouble and was made to stop talking to him, which I have done today...buts its really hard...i cant stop crying..he's also left to become a muslim scholor type of thing- which last for 3 years.... so my mum said we may have a chance of being together if we both wait for each other- this way we can actually prove we do love each other.

but what am i going to do for these next 3 years?! The guy who I turn to for everything is suddenly gone...he knew when I was sad, he made sure I was always laughing...hes soo sweet i can't explain.. i really miss him.... anyone have any suggestions on how to cope?!?!?! :confused:

because it is painfulll. ;(

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

aati_x

Ive known my best firend (who is a guy) for two years, and we have been goin out for the last 8 months. Its a long distance relationship but we are still madly in love with each other and talking to each on the phone constantly. we meet up every month.. You may think so whats the problem? But its huge... :frown:

Firstly, I am a muslim- so talking to guy is wrong and going out with him, is way out the league...!
Secondly, I originate from India and he originates from Pakistan. The older generation have this thing against Pakistanis; It's really annoying and ive had many arguments with them explaining how they scapegoat certain types of ppl...but because they are so narrowminded, they don't want to listen. :mad:

Also, my family found out about us 2 days ago....so I got into alot of trouble and was made to stop talking to him, which I have done today...buts its really hard...i cant stop crying..he's also left to become a muslim scholor type of thing- which last for 3 years.... so my mum said we may have a chance of being together if we both wait for each other- this way we can actually prove we do love each other.

but what am i going to do for these next 3 years?! The guy who I turn to for everything is suddenly gone...he knew when I was sad, he made sure I was always laughing...hes soo sweet i can't explain.. i really miss him.... anyone have any suggestions on how to cope?!?!?! :confused:

because it is painfulll. ;(

Hi im asian aswell.(indian Hindu) So i know what your talking about, when you say asian parents being narrow-minded. Well this guys sounds liek a really nice guy. You seem really in love with him, which is really sweet. But if he really loved you, why ahs gone away for three years??? Shouldn't yopu come before anything else? Is he really into his religion???

Reply 2

Harv616

9

For crying out loud

I'm Asian, (Indian and sikh), why do you people insist on holding onto such old and useless beliefs?

Seriously the whole "OH NO! you cant go out with him! his family was raised 100 miles on the wrong side of a imaginary line someone decided to draw on a map!"

....and i'm not going to start on religion

Can't you still meet up with him even if he has moved away?
You could talk everyone on msn, phone etc etc....its not the same but it helped me

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

I know Asian parents are strict about culture etc. But your both muslim, so whats the problem??? i know Indian muslims can be more liberal than Pakistan's...but do your parents expect you to find a Indian muslim in this country....coz there isnt alot. I just think the fact that your both muslim should make it okay....so i dont see the problem?

Reply 4

aati_x

OP

Anonymous

Hi im asian aswell.(indian Hindu) So i know what your talking about, when you say asian parents being narrow-minded. Well this guys sounds liek a really nice guy. You seem really in love with him, which is really sweet. But if he really loved you, why ahs gone away for three years??? Shouldn't yopu come before anything else? Is he really into his religion???

he is really sweet..i have not met anyone like him....i am a very lucky person....he does really love me...but he went today to make his dad and granddad happy..we are still willing to wait for each other..but its a hell of a long time! and his sisters are going to inform me on how he is n stuff.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

aati_x

he is really sweet..i have not met anyone like him....i am a very lucky person....he does really love me...but he went today to make his dad and granddad happy..we are still willing to wait for each other..but its a hell of a long time! and his sisters are going to inform me on how he is n stuff.

Well if you both love each other then i think you should both wait for each other. See how it goes, three years is a long time, things might change. You might even meet someone who is better...who knows. But wait for awhile and see where things will lead. Life is so unpredictable, you just never know these days. But if you do end up together after those three years, then you know it was meant to be. :smile:

Reply 6

aati_x

OP

BhArJ

For crying out loud

I'm Asian, (Indian and sikh), why do you people insist on holding onto such old and useless beliefs?

Seriously the whole "OH NO! you cant go out with him! his family was raised 100 miles on the wrong side of a imaginary line someone decided to draw on a map!"

....and i'm not going to start on religion

Can't you still meet up with him even if he has moved away?
You could talk everyone on msn, phone etc etc....its not the same but it helped me

firstly i dont insist on holding onto such beliefs...its hard to have him, because at the end of the day i have to chose him or my family.and i aitn doign either! i love them all- so im going to try my utmost hardest to convince them of how nyc he is.. and i cant meet up with him anymore..! hes at a boarding mosq...and will be going home for about 3 days in an enitre month...and i cant talk to him on msn- he doesnt have access to it...he left his phones with his sistrs... -so the answer to ur q...is no...i cant

Reply 7

aati_x

OP

Anonymous

I know Asian parents are strict about culture etc. But your both muslim, so whats the problem??? i know Indian muslims can be more liberal than Pakistan's...but do your parents expect you to find a Indian muslim in this country....coz there isnt alot. I just think the fact that your both muslim should make it okay....so i dont see the problem?

i don't see any problem...they do- and its crap......

Reply 8

The Game

is ur turban dirty

Reply 9

Reue

20

Judging people by their race is wrong. Its what all the muslim leaders here in the Uk are trying to stop but here its exactly what your parents are doing. People need to stop being so hipocritical in this world. If YOU like him, thats YOUR decision, no-one elses'.
I particularly liked this part: "Firstly, I am a muslim- so talking to guy is wrong"

Its.. wrong? What? Im not religious, i dont understand why anyone would let religion rule what they wanted to do.. but how the hell is talking to a guy wrong?

Reply 10

region2

3

just be glad that people like your family is why people have such negative views about muslims

Reply 11

Reue

20

region2

just be glad that people like your family is why people have such negative views about muslims

Harsh, but sadly true.

Reply 12

Mush1

Reue

Judging people by their race is wrong. Its what all the muslim leaders here in the Uk are trying to stop but here its exactly what your parents are doing. People need to stop being so hipocritical in this world. If YOU like him, thats YOUR decision, no-one elses'.
I particularly liked this part: "Firstly, I am a muslim- so talking to guy is wrong"

Its.. wrong? What? Im not religious, i dont understand why anyone would let religion rule what they wanted to do.. but how the hell is talking to a guy wrong?

The entire Islamic perspective is viewed wrong by the majority of people who pretend to understand it. Islam isn't an universal religion thats the same in every country, infact it's far from it. And when you chuck India, Pakistan and any other country in the nearby area your asking for trouble. One example, My grandparents are Bangladeshi and they moved here during the 50's, for the first 30 years my Grandad only spoke to non-Bangladeshi people if he had to, religion didn't play a factor in that, my grandmother didn't even attempt to learn the language as she only spoke to Bangladeshi people. It's actually only very recently that they have let their traditional views go and started to be more liberal! (which is kind of rare for a couple in their 60's.!)

In no way am i agreeing with the seperation or the interference, but it is neccesserary for the op to have said she was a Muslim and she was from India and her bf was from Pakistan. It changed the entire situation from a simple family won't let me see bf to my entire culture won't let me see my bf. You then have to consider the conflict going on between these countries, my mother is directly influenced by this boundry so it has influenced my life.

There's no way to change these attitudes in these third world countries because of the way they grow up and the way they lead their life. I mean, the very fact the op said "Firstly, I am a muslim - so talking to guy is wrong" should show you that.

Reply 13

paul burton

The Game

is ur turban dirty

pmsl i love dat is ur chicken fresh? is ur turban dirty :tsr2:

hes gone.......

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