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Do girls like subtle displays of wealth?

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Original post by Reue
I would expect most girls to appreciate at least some wealth. However it would of course depend upon how it was presented.


What would you consider a good way of presenting it?
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Original post by SquareBrackets
What would you consider a good way of presenting it?


Picking her up in a decent car but not talking about it

Offering to buy her small gifts when she takes an interest in them in a shop

Owning your own house instead of renting
Original post by SquareBrackets
No way its an awesome car! Its good-looking, reliable, comfortable, fast...



Any 18-25 year old with any expensive car looks like a ****ing knob wasting his daddy's money. Save up for a £500 piece of crap like everyone else.
Original post by cole-slaw
Any 18-25 year old with any expensive car looks like a ****ing knob wasting his daddy's money. Save up for a £500 piece of crap like everyone else.


Its not always daddy's money though, sometimes people towards the end of that bracket can afford it themselves. But I do agree with you in principle.
Original post by SquareBrackets
Its not always daddy's money though, sometimes people towards the end of that bracket can afford it themselves. But I do agree with you in principle.



so then they look like bloodsucking investment bank scum. Get a proper ****ing job.
I could care less, and the fact that he thought he should communicate this (whatever the way) would make me regard him in a somewhat lesser light- although there's no way for me to know if he communicates it as subtly as you say. Why would you even feel the need to show someone that you're well-off? To get her to like you more? This doesn't sound good.

Original post by queen-bee
Of course. Wealth,power and status are always things I look for in a guy

Typical Arab mentality :rolleyes: I've had so many arguments about this with girls here! It's like it runs with the Arab X chromosome! I can't believe this! :tongue: Sorry, queen-bee, bs ma habbet :frown:
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Original post by cole-slaw
Any 18-25 year old with any expensive car looks like wasting his daddy's money. Save up for a £500 piece of crap like everyone else.


Company cars?
Read & learn children, file pad and paper at the ready... Offer her a lift home, she's probably been swooned by your cultured accent and fine assortment of Valentino and Jaeger attire... Walking over to the car park, tell her that she needs to hold on to the passenger door as it occasionally drops off the hinge during travel at high speeds... Oh... And the leaky roof. Watch her face drop as you walk over to the worst car in the car park. take your keys out and look for the flashing lights... Of your range rover... You'll be like as smooth as Harvey Specter and as desperate as Russell Brand!
Class dismissed!... :tongue:
Nope, not a turn on for me at all.
If a guy is wealthy chances are we have completely different lifestyles. I'm not at all a material person, I couldn't care less about money so long as I can afford: rent, food, enough new clothes so I'm not wearing holy clothes and I can afford to socialise once a week. Past that I don't care. I've also never been comfortable with having anyone pay for things for me, so having a wealthy boyfriend wouldn't be of any use to me as I wouldn't accept extravagant gifts and expensive meals anyway.
A few years ago, a girl who i liked was one day out of the blue being super nice and friendly towards me. I thought i was on to a winner until i found out she had seen my younger sister wearing designer clothing so she figured i was rich and tried to 'gold dig'. I guess that is an example of subtly showing off wealth be it unintended. However, the experience made me lose interest in her because i didn't want a relationship that was from me to her and her to my money. I felt so embarrassed and foolish i had actually thought she liked me for who i was and those feelings have actually kind of scarred me. Every time a girl shows any interest in me and even when i like her a lot i automatically think back to my embarrassment and I try to avoid any possibility of relationship. So basically **** you girl who did this to me
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Original post by SquareBrackets
If a guy managed to communicate thats he's wealthy without being a dick about it, is that a good thing?


I imagine it differs depending on the girl but personally it would be a huge turn off for me. I'm much more attracted to looks, intelligence, moral standing, humour, personality etc than money. If someone does have a lot of money I much prefer it to be kept a personal thing - if you can see signs of wealth I think that's basically showing off and arrogance is not attractive.

By the way, my opinion obviously depends on how you define 'wealth'. If I went on a date with a guy who had a car, for example, that wouldn't be a problem despite the fact that cars are expensive. If I went on a date with a guy who had a ferrari I might be a bit put off.
Original post by klipsan
A man's wealth to a girl is like what a girl's good looks is to a man...

It's appealing and attractive when done right, but it should never be the only thing to look for.

If a guy picks me up in a sports car, awesome. If all he talks about on a date night is his sports car, not awesome.


Excellent analogy this
Original post by queen-bee
Of course. Wealth,power and status are always things I look for in a guy


Original post by queen-bee
I'm being serious. Both my parents were physicians,we are from a middle class background so it's unlikely i would ever date someone who is working class.


I saw your username, these posts, your bio "I'm part of the FBI: I'm fabulous,beautiful and intelligent..." and some thread about rejecting guys and just figured this was a troll account but on further inspection it seems legit. :s-smilie:

Not trying to antagonize you but honestly, how is life as a narcissist?
Original post by SquareBrackets
If a guy managed to communicate thats he's wealthy without being a dick about it, is that a good thing?

Of course it is as long as you say he is not a dick about it. I would love to go for a wealthy man!
Original post by SophieSmall
Nope, not a turn on for me at all.
If a guy is wealthy chances are we have completely different lifestyles. I'm not at all a material person, I couldn't care less about money so long as I can afford: rent, food, enough new clothes so I'm not wearing holy clothes and I can afford to socialise once a week. Past that I don't care. I've also never been comfortable with having anyone pay for things for me, so having a wealthy boyfriend wouldn't be of any use to me as I wouldn't accept extravagant gifts and expensive meals anyway.


I hope you are not an outlier :s-smilie:

Otherwise I'm stuffed.
Original post by ChaoticButterfly
I hope you are not an outlier :s-smilie:

Otherwise I'm stuffed.

She's definitely not an outlier :smile: Had my parents not held this mentality, I wouldn't have been born :tongue: I also despise materialism/all forms of classism with a passion! People are beyond what is in their pocket or what they own; you just can't put a price tag on your boyfriend/girlfriend. How disgusting.
There's a proverb (in both my countries, basically the same one) that says something along the lines of "the money goes and the monkey remains as is") ; money doesn't make you a man.
For the people saying that women naturally seek security, security comes with a person's integrity of character rather than his/her wealth.
I like a guy to have some money. I'm not a snob but I do appreciate a guy who dresses well, has a nice car, drives a nice car and whatever. I wouldn't want him to flaunt it and brag, but there's security in a guy with money and I like that. There's also a different kind of confidence, and its not him being a jerk, its subtle. I mean, I grew up in a relatively well off family, and I think I'd want someone who had that experience as well. Not that I would disregard anyone because of financial status, but it's definitely a bonus. I dunno though, but I know i'm definitely not the only person who feels that way.
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Original post by queen-bee
I'm being serious. Both my parents were physicians,we are from a middle class background so it's unlikely i would ever date someone who is working class.


As a country, we've really not moved on much from our feudal days, have we? I'm genuinely surprised to find someone our age who still gives a **** about the class system.
Original post by ChaoticButterfly
I hope you are not an outlier :s-smilie:

Otherwise I'm stuffed.


I don't think I am. I know many people with similar views and quite a few others on here have said similar things. People only cling to the answers that make them angry or "prove their point that women are evil materialistic bitches. When in reality the majority of us aren't that fussed so long as we can have a few luxuries here and there and don't worry to much about bills and the likes.
Original post by SophieSmall
I don't think I am. I know many people with similar views and quite a few others on here have said similar things. People only cling to the answers that make them angry or "prove their point that women are evil materialistic bitches. When in reality the majority of us aren't that fussed so long as we can have a few luxuries here and there and don't worry to much about bills and the likes.


So you'd reject a wealthy guy even if he had a great personality, was loving, had integrity, wasn't overly materialistic etc..?
From my experience, I think it's more common than not that wealth is actually a turn off, regardless. Girls see a guy has wealth or is perceived to have wealth and they immediately associate it with a huge array of negative characteristics even if this isn't the case.

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