meeting someone from net....not sure

I met a guy on the internet and started talking to him last week. He is 23 (just graduated from Uni) and I am 19 (in my 2nd year of Uni). However, he wants to meet up with me already but I think its too soon. I've seen him on webcam and he seems ok. I told him I need to talk to him longer and get to know him before and if we meet up. Thing is I'm not really someone for meeting people off the internet. It's not something I generally do. You hear all these horror stories about meeting people which are quite scary. What should I do?

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Reply 1

Feefifofum

Don't go. Talk to him for a lot longer, before you even think about meetin him, particularly if you're not sure about him. If in time you still like him and feel comfortable about meeting him, then do so. It'd be foolish to go and see him if you're not happy with it.

Reply 2

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

Seems to me you've already made your feelings clear. It's too soon. If you keep talking to him and you like him then you can meet up with him whenever. It's not like there's a time limit.

Reply 3

-TMG-

If after only a few days he's asking to meet up, he only wants sex. I wait longer :p:

Hehe.

Reply 4

username47781

I would wait a little longer and get to know more about him first.

Reply 5

white_haired_wizard

maybe to avert the safety issue, go with a friend/s??

Reply 6

hannah_dru

If you're having doubts then don't go.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Its probably a good idea not to go. I'll tell him I'm busy all week.

Reply 8

joker_900

Ur doing the right thing. If he;s normal he'll understand. If he flips out then it probably means he's a psycho. If u ever do meet up with him, do it in a public place, don't even consider going to his place.

Reply 9

white_haired_wizard

Anonymous

Its probably a good idea not to go. I'll tell him I'm busy all week.

and keep using the same lame excuse week after week? It`ll wear thin with him, the deceit that is. Just be honest with him, he should understand, afterall, it is quite a big deal to be meeting someone you`ve `met` on online. You`ll know whether he`s a cock or not, in how he treats you and the concerns you harbour, and concerns you naturally and expectedly harbour.

Reply 10

Badassbabe

I agree with everyone else about waiting longer. If you do eventually meet him, make sure you tell AT least one other person, and tell them WHEN and WHERE you're going. Just thinking of your safety!

Reply 11

Azzle

if you're not comfortable, then you really shouldnt meet him. it's like sex, if you're not comfortable with it then you shouldn't do it.

i met my ex on the interweb and met him a few weeks later. we just "happened" to be out in the same place on a fri night, a year ago this friday actually!

Reply 12

lil one

def don't unless your comfortable with it, a week seems way to soon. Don't make up silly excuses, just tell him straight out.
Goodluck x

Reply 13

-TMG-

Azzle

Congratulations! :cool:

Reply 14

apricot

if he likes you and wants to met up thn he should wait for you like my ex did wen i met him from the net. i didn't want to meet him at first then we talked for hours everyday (sad i know) just get to know him then make up your mind again and if you do decide to meet thn meet up in a public place (i met at a train station then we went to the cinema) apparently u shoukd avoid the cinema but its up 2 u

Reply 15

Singh_87

Definitely wait alot longer. When you yourself have a feeling inside of wanting to meet him, then I think you should meet him. And even then, make sure you take a friend with you, in a public place, daylight (all that stuff you already know) :smile:

Reply 16

LoveMusic

I would wait, his reaction will be a good indicator anyway.

Reply 17

Carreh

Wait. If you aren't comfortable then tell him. As someone said earlier if he a decent (normal :wink:

) bloke he will understand.
I met my best friend after 4 days of talking to him on the net, but it felt right from the very beginning and I'm glad I did but there is no way I would have met up with him so soon if I even had the smallest of doubts.

Reply 18

ßlαcksωαn

I've met people off the net before and it wasn't that scary. (Mind you they were all friends of friends). But yeah just meet up with him in a public place. Don't tell him your address, just incase he turns out to be some fruit cake. And just remember that alot of people are alot different in 'real life' than on the net.