Trouble Moving on...

About less than a month ago, My Ex-Girlfriend and i broke up on good terms as i was leaving for a trip, adventure to South America for almost 5 months, and well not only that, Uni was straight afterwards. We were together for under a year, happily then things went its parted ways. Fair enough!

Now one of my close friends, has been seeing her for almost 2 weeks. Thats really not long after spliting up with me at all! Apparently he had faniced her ever since meeting her, he came into our lives 2 months into our relationship. But anyway, hes a great guy... I still want to be friends with him overall.

But still, i feel so awakard! Slightly Angry and hugely Jealous! After breaking up with my Girlfriend i always cringed at the idea of her seeing another man, it felt so werid when i heard the news of them being together, espcially when it was one of my friends. I dont think they were seeing each other behind my back, even if she did. It obviously wasn't meant to be. But obviously an unfaithful friend if he did.

But this relationship only ended a month ago, and she was the 1st girl for me ever to get a relationship into, at 17 she came into my life, changed me and enlightened me. I still have some feelings for her, still in the stages of getting over her. Now shes already with someone else?

This is the thing, Not only does it shoot down my confidence around other females now, but it makes me think, how can i promise the future to be happier than the past?

Becuase i can't remember ever being more happier in my life when i was with her.

I rambled a little :frown:

Reply 1

Badassbabe

I know it hurts, but you HAVE you move on. One day you will look back with fond memories, especially as it's your first love. For the moment, just concentrate on uni and your future. That's all I can say (but I know it hurts! :frown:

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Reply 2

Dragon24

Started dating your 'good friend' after 2 weeks - she got over it quick. Bit slack of him to jump right in. She is hurt and using him to get over you or wasn't that bothered in the first place. Tell her how you feel, after all you ended it even though you didn't want to. As for him you just don't do that to you friends so I would write him out of my life.

Reply 3

username47781

Yeah it is harsh when that happens but the problem is you two did decide to break up so really she is free to do what she wants i'm afraid :frown:

Reply 4

untill_it_sleeps

i know what your going through, my first 2nd gf the situation was similar. my 1st was easy to get past, attraction seemed physical only.. 2nd one i just adored, took me over a year to get over them but i did... i got a few gf's inbetween that lasted only a short while... the next girl i really liked i never went out with, but she freaked out and turned evil on me when she found out how i felt. that really hurt...

my last ex we broke up during exam time in late june. i couldnt cope with the relationship pressures and the exams. i was skipping college so often to be with her. then we never got back together, since after a month she got another partner... i didnt think she wanted me so looked past it the best i could, although i thought about her (and the girl before who freaked out)... later on i found out she wanted to be with me though. Our relationship always sat on a term that we probably couldnt make it last long... being as i was going uni. hence never getting back together as well. Then, about a month ago, (although we've been talking on the phone) shes got the internet back.

now im starting to remember alot more about our past and its coming back to me. I really do like her, maybe even love her... i dont know for sure, thats always a word ive struggled to use and only EVER used to two people in such a manner. but i never had said it to her yet, i'd said "luffs" which was a way of saying we cared...

nowadays, shes got a bf back home but claims if she could she'd have me. im trying to work out what to do here, she thinks it isnt possible, almost seems dismissive infact, but i dont know. I'm online on msn to her everynight, and hardly sleep now at all.

We tried blocking each other for a week which i suggested, and it lasted a few days before someone else interviened. for that week life was easier, and i had a load lifted i admit for that time. But, im caught in the same way i was before again now. :frown:

shes meant to come up here next month. But... is that too late?

what am i supposed to do here. im having ****in dreams about it now. Whenever i do sleep so often i wake up to them and have certian things stuck in my head. like one the other day, "I'm moving in with nathan" another one "nathan wants us to get engaged" URRRRGH its doing my bloody head in.

what shall i do here?!?! should i tell her i love her? i think i might do, but i dont know if this will cause more trouble than good. Or TRY and forget her... i mean she is a best mate as well. We get along better than ANYONE else ive ever known. leaving her forever in the past would be a great loss to us both i think.

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