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I want to spend time with her, but how and where?

Hey,

Im currently dating this girl, but the problem is that she is going to go abroad for a couple of months. I really like this girl, shes really cool, hot, and we get along really well. We've now got literally 2 weeks before shes off, and I really want to spend time with her, doing nothing in particular, just being with each other.

The problem is that this isn't practically possible, as neither of our houses are ever free. I dont really want to go to the cinema or stuff like that... I'd rather it was stuff like just watching tv together/listening to music and just hanging out and chatting and stuff.

I was considering maybe getting a hotel room or something, but thats going to seem realllyyyyy seedy and as though I just want to get her into bed, and as though I am just after one thing - but I can assure you I'm not.

The thing with this is that we've actually not gone all the way due to various inconveniences of location/situation on the day just hasn't gone to plan - for eg, we were getting to that stage on one occasion, then having the phone ring for like ages... lets just say its a bit of a mood killer lol :rolleyes:

So how would you all go about this situation? Any recommendations? We couldn't hang around mates or whatever, because thats just plain weird...

I was planning on making a trip up north to see some unis (good excuse imo to go on a mini holiday) and just see the sights and stuff and was going to ask her to come - but shes not really gonna be free for a week. My parents are also really strict.

Yeah, so any suggestions would be great, thanks kindly guys :biggrin:

Reply 1

Take her ten pin bowling :p:

Reply 2

lmao "hotel room", because none of your parents would take an issue with that! Dunno what to suggest I'm afraid.

Reply 3

Ask her what she would like to do.
Get on a bus, or a train ( going where-ever you want) for hours, and you two can hang out and talk without beeing awkward and you're with her for hours.
Tell us what you decided to do!

Reply 4

Thanks for the replies.
Obviously, I want time with her, but privacy as well. There wouldn't be any awkwardness or anything like that - I'm sure we're beyond that.

Well my parents don't need to know about that - the problem is finding a suitable location to hang out. Also I work, so its not like I have to ask my parents for money to get a room or nothing lol.

I will ask her, but I know she also prefers to talk and hang out sometimes as opposed to doing stuff - something (talking) which we havn't done in ages. She also says this is something we should do sometime - so this seems like the perfect opportunity.

Any additional ideas would be fabulous :smile:

Reply 5

lol @ hotel room

I'm not sure how open she would be to that.

Reply 6

maybe a friend has a free house sometime and wouldn't mind letting you have some 'alone time'? worth a try.

Reply 7

I'm with the poster who had the bus/train idea - it's good for a number of reasons:

Firstly it evokes emotions of adventure and going somewhere... always a good idea.

Secondly there're really no distractions.

Finally, you can get your own little world going -- tell her you've got to whisper everything in her ear because there're shady looking people in the next seat, or whatever (invent an inventive reason!)... it'll make things quite intimate (throw in some kisses and playing with her hair when you move in close to talk) and allow you to talk privately.

- hope it helps,

- me.

Reply 8

last 4 days.... msn, starbucks, park bench by the lake, street corner, mums house...

Reply 9

kudos to samba.
anywhere can be 'your world'.
little bit cold for picnics, but I've had some of my best hours snuggled over a hot chocolate on comfy coffee shop chairs.

Reply 10

Anonymous
Hey,

Im currently dating this girl, but the problem is that she is going to go abroad for a couple of months. I really like this girl, shes really cool, hot, and we get along really well. We've now got literally 2 weeks before shes off, and I really want to spend time with her, doing nothing in particular, just being with each other.

The problem is that this isn't practically possible, as neither of our houses are ever free. I dont really want to go to the cinema or stuff like that... I'd rather it was stuff like just watching tv together/listening to music and just hanging out and chatting and stuff.

I was considering maybe getting a hotel room or something, but thats going to seem realllyyyyy seedy and as though I just want to get her into bed, and as though I am just after one thing - but I can assure you I'm not.

The thing with this is that we've actually not gone all the way due to various inconveniences of location/situation on the day just hasn't gone to plan - for eg, we were getting to that stage on one occasion, then having the phone ring for like ages... lets just say its a bit of a mood killer lol :rolleyes:

So how would you all go about this situation? Any recommendations? We couldn't hang around mates or whatever, because thats just plain weird...

I was planning on making a trip up north to see some unis (good excuse imo to go on a mini holiday) and just see the sights and stuff and was going to ask her to come - but shes not really gonna be free for a week. My parents are also really strict.

Yeah, so any suggestions would be great, thanks kindly guys :biggrin:



Well surely if your not planning to go all the way and just want to 'hang out' then it doesnt really mater who is in or not! Otherwise go for the train/bus idea and if your feeling like you need a room just go get one for the night and come back the next day!

Reply 11

Anonymous
Thanks for the replies.
Obviously, I want time with her, but privacy as well. There wouldn't be any awkwardness or anything like that - I'm sure we're beyond that.

Well my parents don't need to know about that - the problem is finding a suitable location to hang out. Also I work, so its not like I have to ask my parents for money to get a room or nothing lol.

I will ask her, but I know she also prefers to talk and hang out sometimes as opposed to doing stuff - something (talking) which we havn't done in ages. She also says this is something we should do sometime - so this seems like the perfect opportunity.

Any additional ideas would be fabulous :smile:


Hi m8, invite her out for a walk in the countryside. You can talk to eachother all you want and see things together that you'll decide that's special for you both.:smile:

Reply 12

i agree with samba