Hurt before

i started seeing this girl a month or so ago but this week she said that she'd been hurt before and was worried about an other relationship. how can i show that she can trust me and that i'm not going to hurt. :confused:

Reply 1

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

Um, you can't, because you might hurt her. Nobody can predict the future. I suggest you just take things slow and don't push.

Reply 2

slupanter

so you think she will learn in time to trust me. so should i try being very supportive and understanding :smile:

Reply 3

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

In time, probably.

For now I wouldn't push the issue. Women tend to not be able to avoid falling for guys when they're seeing them for a while anyway, no matter how much emotional distance they try to keep.

Reply 4

slupanter

thank you for your help :smile:

Reply 5

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Ha, that sounds so much like a situation I was in. I've been hurt before, this guy knew that, he kept promising me he would never hurt me and that I could trust him. I believe he did mean it but it didnt stop him sleeping with someone else....

You might think you'll never hurt her but you can't predict the future.

Reply 7

slupanter

i know what its like to be hurt too so i never want to hurt her

Reply 8

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

People almost never enter into situations where they hurt someone they're involved with with the deliberate intention of doing so, it's almost always an unfortunate consequence of weakness or boredom or some other unforeseen factor.

Reply 9

Welshdude

Just will take time dude, be patient she probably already knows deep down ure a genuine guy

Reply 10

Nalced

Don't go fast.

Give her some chocolate and tell her, nice and quiet, close to her ear
"I'll always be here for you"
and hug her at the same time.
Or, just throw my idea out the window.