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Guys prepared to cheat with me but they won't commit!

fettucini

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Reply 1

Profesh

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Never make the mistake of thinking that anyone is 'different': they're not.

Reply 2

LadyEnglish

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Perhaps don't jump into bed with the first 'single' guy who hits on you, perhaps if you took more time to get to know them, you'd find out they're not as single as they make out to be...x

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fettucini

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Reply 4

Flukey

Domestic relationships are so much easier(and better) then ones that aren't. 'nuff said.

Reply 5

Profesh

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lucydeeeee

I don't just jump into bed with them actually, I get to know them a bit and decide I like them and they say they like me too but after a few weeks they're all like 'sorry, I've already got a girlfriend.' They often tell me sad stories about how they've just broken up with their girlfriend when they first meet me, and I feel all sorry for them and I fancy them anyway so I think 'hey, let's give it a go.'

Don't waste precious time with being sympathetic to their plight. More often than not any such sentiment is simply construed as weakness, i.e. their mandate to exploit you until such time as when they can cease self-mutilating/become reconciled with their estranged spouse/find someone sufficiently abusive to warrant their attention and respect.

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fettucini

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L i b

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lucydeeeee

Don't they respect my feelings? Do they cheat with me because they think I'm cheap, I always envisage girls that get cheated with as tarty, I don't think I am but I guess boys must think so... :confused:

Well they evidently don't respect you anyway.

I suppose you just need to be more discerning as to who you go for. I don't really know how to improve that though, it seems to come naturally to most people.

Reply 8

LadyEnglish

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lucydeeeee

I don't just jump into bed with them actually, I get to know them a bit and decide I like them and they say they like me too but after a few weeks they're all like 'sorry, I've already got a girlfriend.' They often tell me sad stories about how they've just broken up with their girlfriend when they first meet me, and I feel all sorry for them and I fancy them anyway so I think 'hey, let's give it a go.'

My apologies, you gave me the impression they were one night stands.

Reply 9

Logan

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yep... spend more time with the guy and learn more about him before you commit.. that case, youd save yourself from any problems later on

Reply 10

BlufferIronfist

Golden rule is never kiss a guy without having known him for at least a month and never have sex unless you've known him for at least 1-3 years.

Reply 11

mr_person

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Stop trying to hook up with guys in relationships if you consider it to have a negative impact on your life.

Golden rule is never kiss a guy without having known him for at least a month and never have sex unless you've known him for at least 1-3 years.

please be a joke.

Reply 12

BlufferIronfist

mr_person

Stop trying to hook up with guys in relationships if you consider it to have a negative impact on your life.

please be a joke.

It's not a joke. This way you'll find out if someone is only after sex or really wants to be with you. If they are genuinely looking for a stable long-term relationship then they will wait and get to know you more.

It's people who dumps you easily who after after sex only. They will dump you on the spot soon as they find someone more attractive.

Reply 13

mr_person

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BlufferIronfist

It's not a joke. This way you'll find out if someone is only after sex or really wants to be with you. If they are genuinely looking for a stable long-term relationship then they will wait and get to know you more.

It's people who dumps you easily who after after sex only. They will dump you on the spot soon as they find someone more attractive.

By putting such restrictive rules on potential partners you are greatly reducing the pool of potential girls/boys. Also, intelligent people can tell if somebody is only interested in sex. Believe it or not, for many people, the unlikelihood of the man/woman being marriage material isn't much an issue, particularly at this stage in our lives (assuming most people here are regular student ages)

Reply 14

BlufferIronfist

mr_person

By putting such restrictive rules on potential partners you are greatly reducing the pool of potential girls/boys. Also, intelligent people can tell if somebody is only interested in sex. Believe it or not, for many people, the unlikelihood of the man/woman being marriage material isn't much an issue, particularly at this stage in our lives (assuming most people here are regular student ages)

If will only filter out people only after sex. People are still able to form relationships with you without sex. Intelligent people are often unable to see trickery from men because most of them pretend they don't mind about sex and knows how to sweet talk you.

Reply 15

mr_person

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BlufferIronfist

If will only filter out people only after sex. People are still able to form relationships with you without sex. Intelligent people are often unable to see trickery from men because most of them pretend they don't mind about sex and knows how to sweet talk you.

So you think that a guy with a great personality/looks who wants to have sex before 12 months into a relationship is poor bf material? Is it not possible that you are slightly stereotyping guys here? Also what is so wrong with a guy admitting that sexual attraction is a major part of a relationship?

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Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

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lucydeeeee

why do boys treat me like this? Don't they respect my feelings? Do they cheat with me because they think I'm cheap, I always envisage girls that get cheated with as tarty, I don't think I am but I guess boys must think so... :confused:

It's because they think "Here is a girl stupid enough that I can get my end away with her without her me having to worry about a relationship with her."

If a relationship is what you're after then it might behoove you to make guys wait a little longer for sex.

Just a thought.

Reply 17

Meep!

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BlufferIronfist

Golden rule is never kiss a guy without having known him for at least a month and never have sex unless you've known him for at least 1-3 years.

Err... Have you ever actually been in a serious relationship?

Reply 18

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

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damnthelackofnames

Err... Have you ever actually been in a serious relationship?

Never marry a man unless you were in the same maternity ward with him after you were born!

Reply 19

Profesh

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BlufferIronfist

It's not a joke. This way you'll find out if someone is only after sex or really wants to be with you. If they are genuinely looking for a stable long-term relationship then they will wait and get to know you more.

It's people who dumps you easily who after after sex only. They will dump you on the spot soon as they find someone more attractive.

God forbid, then, that you should wait three years for crap sex.

Guys prepared to cheat with me but they won't commit!

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