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how to tell him it's over, when you are still loving him

Hey girls,what do u do when you feel he's not the right guy for you,he's making you suffer and overall not happy, but you are still in love with him?

Basically, how do you manage to break up with somebody you're still in love with?I hate getting stuck in a situation like that..

Reply 1

kam

10

Tell them that they're making you suffer and unhappy...so it's over.

Reply 2

Harv616

9

Either tell him and hope you work it out as friends
or
Break all contact and move on

I prefer the second option...

Another note, being friends with your ex while still liking them is NOT a good idea

Reply 3

andy_cole2

14

be grateful that your not watching a friend in that situation in which case you can't do anything about it. as your the person in the situation you can manage it as you want. i think the msot important thing to do is not to give him a backdoor, if you explain how your feeling he'l offer to change and you'l probs feel good about that but then you'l be back in this position again. why are you still in love, and if you are maybe you don't ultimately want to break up. but if you do i think jsut getting on with it is best, the longer you linger the more you'l have to consider reconsidering and that's no good for either of you.

Reply 4

ItalianSam

OP

I know it's terrible..I'm just in a very hard situation..it's been more than 3 years..breaking up and getting back with him..I even left for one year in United States, and even there and dating other people (we weren't a couple that year) we were still in love..He was at the airport, after my year abroad with roses..romantic..yeah..a nice couple of months..and than back to problems..but this time he left Rome for Sicily..because he had to think over about his own life..and he still thinks I'm his girlfriend..and will always be..i don't want to..everytime I end up suffering, but I love him..and breaking up won't give less pain..

and my best friend (who is as well one of his best men) told me he(this friend) is in love with me..i'm not..
and they will be together for the Iron Maiden concert in Milan in 16 days..

I don't even know where I can go to leave this situation?Plus..I'm moving..I want to move next year to England for college

guys..i know this seems like a soap opera..but i'm not making up this stuff..

what should i do?

Reply 5

hippieglitter

19

ItalianSam

Hey girls,what do u do when you feel he's not the right guy for you,he's making you suffer and overall not happy, but you are still in love with him?

Basically, how do you manage to break up with somebody you're still in love with?I hate getting stuck in a situation like that..

Write him a letter. You can spend time getting the wording just right so you get the message across, you won't have the awkward, 'if i see him, i'll melt and not be able to do it' and he won't have to see you cry. That's how i did it.

Reply 6

ItalianSam

OP

..this is incredible..i mean..he's back in town..today..o.o..after all these days..he's back..what is that so hard..a letter is a perfect idea..but..

Reply 7

Firestars

hippieglitter

Write him a letter. You can spend time getting the wording just right so you get the message across, you won't have the awkward, 'if i see him, i'll melt and not be able to do it' and he won't have to see you cry. That's how i did it.

Its the best option really in this case :smile:

Reply 8

anjali**

Wait a second. Why are you so stuck on this idea of him making you suffer? Why are you so unhappy? You might just be blaming him for your own problems. What has he done to you? Maybe you could sort it out. Maybe you should just step back and stop being such a drama queen. Maybe you're being oversensitive and your expectations are too high. I broke up with my boyfriend (wrote him a letter) because I was just so resentful, I thought he was making me suffer...I really regret it now. I love him, and I didn't have to do it, and maybe I shouldn't be giving advice at all when I need it myself. Feel independent, concentrate on your own life and what you want, start again. Pamper yourself and don't be dependent on him for your happiness. But if you're still in love with each other, you may as well still be together. I don't know. You're probably different from me. If you don't want a future for this relationship, you may as well break up with him. Sorry, this posting must be pretty confusing! The main message: Think.

Reply 9

username47781

20

Yeah i think you both need to actually talk and find out why there are so many problems first and why you are both feeling like this.

how to tell him it's over, when you are still loving him

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