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okay - this isn't easy, hence the anon.

Basically, I am now at uni, but when I was at home I had a lot of problems with my family, particularly with my dad. basically, me and him used to argue horribly, and sometimes it would end with him just hitting me until I just shut up. This didn't happen every day, or every week, but just every now and again... I was never was badly hurt, just nastily bruised. Even as I write this it sounds bad, but I've always thought he's ultimately a nice guy - he has many friends, makes good money etc - and I am not always a pleasant daughter...

The thing is, I have never ever spoken to anyone about this. my mum and my sisters know what's happened, but I am the oldest, and the least likeable. But more and more what's happened on my mind and I need to talk sometimes... otherwise I feel I'll just go mad. The thing is tho, even one who knows my family thinks we're the ****ing waltons but really we're not. I can't talk to my friends - they'll prob meet my dad sometime and I just couldn't stand it...

has anyone else been in this situation? who did you talk to - and how did you move on?

Reply 1

did he ever regret his actions, maybe feel ashamed of what he's done previously?...

Reply 2

Anonymous
okay - this isn't easy, hence the anon.

Basically, I am now at uni, but when I was at home I had a lot of problems with my family, particularly with my dad. basically, me and him used to argue horribly, and sometimes it would end with him just hitting me until I just shut up. This didn't happen every day, or every week, but just every now and again... I was never was badly hurt, just nastily bruised. Even as I write this it sounds bad, but I've always thought he's ultimately a nice guy - he has many friends, makes good money etc - and I am not always a pleasant daughter...

The thing is, I have never ever spoken to anyone about this. my mum and my sisters know what's happened, but I am the oldest, and the least likeable. But more and more what's happened on my mind and I need to talk sometimes... otherwise I feel I'll just go mad. The thing is tho, even one who knows my family thinks we're the ****ing waltons but really we're not. I can't talk to my friends - they'll prob meet my dad sometime and I just couldn't stand it...

has anyone else been in this situation? who did you talk to - and how did you move on?

I know how you feel :hugs:
pm me if you want to talk x x

Reply 3

I guess he regretted it... we never spoke about what had happened. ever. but he always did it again.....

Reply 4

Never do

Reply 5

Never do what?

Reply 6

Tell him not to, and ask him why and what is his intention?