I only enjoy the chase!

Ok, here's my situation. I am always attracted to girls who are let's say, unattainable. Whether they have boyfriends or are "out of my league", whatever... The thing is, whenever I see a realistic chance to "get" the girl who i have for so long admired, I find that I completely lose attraction to her! This has happened three times, I'm not sure what to do... I think I'm just destined never to be in a relationship!! :frown:

Has anyone on here got the same problem?

Reply 1

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3

Therapy is your friend.

Reply 2

C00kies

Maybe you're scared that you won't be able to get the girl -so once you have a chance to -you immediately go off her to avoid disappointment.

Reply 3

*knowitall*

More like if you do succeed you don't know what to do next....be brave and put in a little practice

Reply 4

becky xxx

2

I know what your going through, I do exactly the same thing. Whenever I meet a guy i flirt, they like me, i get uninterested after a week. its an unintentional viscious circle!

Reply 5

dan

11

Sounds like JD in Scrubs! :p:

But seriously, you'll probably change your attitudes later in life :wink:

Reply 6

BJ-Dubois

Chase me.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

BJ-Dubois

Chase me.

Lol, erm ok...I am slightly concerned about this 17 warnings level you seem to have...

Reply 8

wackysparkle

14

too many expectations of her? u proabably have high ones, u know, the rush of adrenaline and all on the chase, then u get to her, and ur like "huh? this is it?" -- try attainable ones! :wink:

Reply 9

The Guru

Anonymous

Ok, here's my situation. I am always attracted to girls who are let's say, unattainable. Whether they have boyfriends or are "out of my league", whatever... The thing is, whenever I see a realistic chance to "get" the girl who i have for so long admired, I find that I completely lose attraction to her! This has happened three times, I'm not sure what to do... I think I'm just destined never to be in a relationship!! :frown:

Has anyone on here got the same problem?

Womaniser? You're in love with an ideal and now you're stuck in it, but fair play to you for trying so hard. Try not to hurt their feelings though when you've "lost" it. :s-smilie:

Reply 10

andy_cole2

14

Its that sense of satisfaction knowing you did what you aimed for, nothign else seems interesting after that. then when you lose it again it becomes interesting again. dam male competitiveness :p:

Reply 11

shrutikim

1

you must be gemini!!!!!

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

andy_cole2

Its that sense of satisfaction knowing you did what you aimed for, nothign else seems interesting after that. then when you lose it again it becomes interesting again. dam male competitiveness :p:

I don't get it, how can someone be turned on by a guy/girl just because they want the satisfaction of trying to get them? :confused:

Reply 13

The Guru

Anonymous

I don't get it, how can someone be turned on by a guy/girl just because they want the satisfaction of trying to get them? :confused:

The rush, the feeling of being in control. This guy will fancy, chase, get and then get bored. He's basically thinking with his knob of cheese and the only thing to stop him is if a woman went and sliced off another piece! :biggrin:

Reply 14

Sezkin

11

The chase is crap. I hate it. I've been in that situation where I was the ''victim'', he liked me then when I'm interested he goes off me... THEN when I'm not interested. He's desperate to be 'with' me.

When I found out he was playing mind games... it put me off him and also he played with my emotions. I don't ever want to be in that pathetic situation EVER.

The whole cycle is ****e.

Reply 15

rachelrainbow32

2

I have friends like that, the chase if fun for them but as soon as they actually get the guy they freak out and decide that they dont like them anymore, or like my other friend, she just enjoys flirting and accidently leads guys on. Its just somethink you have to live with.

Reply 16

andy_cole2

14

its not turned on lol you make out its some kindof fetish and why post taht anon? anyway its more of a bring it on thing, then when you get there its like oh well did it wahey its like you know when you make stuff with lego and its fun making it building it all up then once you made the castle or watever its no fun to play with

Reply 17

BJ-Dubois

Anonymous

Lol, erm ok...I am slightly concerned about this 17 warnings level you seem to have...

Doesn't it just add to the intense mystery for a strange gentleman such as yourself? You could wake up fulfilled or you could equally wake up stone cold dead (but still fulfilled because I might be into all that necrophilia ****).

Besides its down to 12 warnings now and only 6 years with good behaviour.

I only enjoy the chase!

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