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accidentally asked the wrong girl out by text

ahh this one would make me laugh if it was someone else, but I feel really embarrassed as its me.

Basically, there's two girls, both called Kate. Kate M I used to live with in my flat in halls in first year, nice enough girl, she had a boyfriend at the time, we always got on well but she's a bit "too much" for me in terms of being interested in her, she's quite loud and a big party girl and likes to be the centre of attention.

Other girl = Kate S, more my type, quieter more intellectual girl, from my course. So I figured I'd see if she wanted to come out: I texted "hey up Kate, what u up to tonite? u fancy doing somethin with me? xx"

I was very pleased when I got a reply saying "yup yup yup, name da time and da place an i'll be there x" only to then see it's from Kate M...I must have texted her by mistake.

Now I'm in a dilemma, because I wanted to ask Kate S out, but Kate M thinks that we've got a date

Reply 1

c@luvr

Ah sucky...tbh just go with the girl you asked, and then ask the other kate another night :smile:

Reply 2

matt@internet

12

Just go out as friends.

Reply 3

michaelnicholson88

No big deal- you can just make it into a 'hey it's so good to see you, I can't believe how long it's been! kind of thing. Just make it clear it's a friend thing and nothing more.

Besides, she might already think it's just a friend thing anyway- it's what I would have thought when an ex flatmate asked to meet up.

Reply 4

trina

1

Doesn't sound to me like you definately did ask her out- depending on the relationship you have with her she might just think you wanted to go out for a drink as friends, especially if you haven't seen eachother for a while.

In any event you have to come clean. Say that you would still love to go out for a drink/meal with her and catch up but that you in fact intended to ask somebody else out on a date (I'm assuming you don't want to tell her who...). Perhaps it would be worth giving her a call straight away in order to clear it up asap but go through with your offer to go out for a drink as friends with her anyway- t'would be rude not to especially if she didnt think of it as a date!

Reply 5

wackysparkle

14

yah - she may think its just as friends - bring other ppl too with u - then tell her yah - we wil be at this place at this time, she will get the message that its not a date

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

thats frustrating though, because I had geared up in my mind for asking Kate S out this weekend! I think I'm a bit bothered because of the emphatic nature of the reply, I'm starting to think Kate M will think its a lead-on

Realistically I'm going to have to go out with her now but its frustrating as I'd been building myself up to ask the other one out, and now I've got to "go through the motions" and not lead Kate M on!

Reply 7

c@luvr

I thought it WAS a friends thing...that's how I took it

Reply 8

matt@internet

12

Why does he have to come clean with her? As long as he makes it clear it's just a 'going out with a mate' thing, then he doesn't have to tell her anything.

Reply 9

wackysparkle

14

nah - dont tell her nuthing! - keep it a friends thin g--- she probably already thinks it is judging from her text, otherwise there would have been a hint there.

Reply 10

Anarchy Everywhere

2

What's the problem here? Go medieval on Kate M and save some for Kate S :biggrin:

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

why?? how are you supposed to ask someone out if its a more than friends thing? are you supposed to say "do u wanna come out tonight then back to mine for some sex?"

Reply 12

matt@internet

12

No of course not. It's just her reply makes it sound like it's just a friends thing.

Reply 13

WorkHouse

12

well, so as not to offend this loud chick, go anyway but try to rope more people into cming so she knows that its not a date thing. then when you invite the kate you're interested in out - make sure its just the 2 of you... make sense?

Reply 14

wackysparkle

14

yah it does like she thought u were asking as a friend

i mean - if u were to ask someone out - firstly it should be in person :rolleyes:

next the text should be like: so what you doing friday nite? or u free friday nite? at least there is some inuendo there

Reply 15

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

ahh this one would make me laugh if it was someone else, but I feel really embarrassed as its me.

Basically, there's two girls, both called Kate. Kate M I used to live with in my flat in halls in first year, nice enough girl, she had a boyfriend at the time, we always got on well but she's a bit "too much" for me in terms of being interested in her, she's quite loud and a big party girl and likes to be the centre of attention.

Other girl = Kate S, more my type, quieter more intellectual girl, from my course. So I figured I'd see if she wanted to come out: I texted "hey up Kate, what u up to tonite? u fancy doing somethin with me? xx"

I was very pleased when I got a reply saying "yup yup yup, name da time and da place an i'll be there x" only to then see it's from Kate M...I must have texted her by mistake.

Now I'm in a dilemma, because I wanted to ask Kate S out, but Kate M thinks that we've got a date

you didnt ask her out ask her out as in DATE wise...

If kate M gets the wrong idea tell her u hadnt seen her for a while and thought it'd be cool to catch up.

Reply 16

Stone

2

Just go out with her buddy, would be funny if you made a new thread tomorrow saying, oh oh, I had sex last night but it was with the girl I wanted it to be with in the first place.

Reply 17

*Katie*

1

The way you asked her out didn't seem to suggest anything romantic - a text like "I really want to get to know you a lot better...perhaps we could have dinner tonight? x" Would imply something more :confused:

Sorry if that makes no sense, but I don't think you have anything to worry about.
And STOP ASKING PEOPLE OUT BY TEXT! Call the girl; stops misunderstandings - MSN/Texting so ambiguous.

Reply 18

slackerbeeatch

2

Trust in fate...

Take it as a sign you should be with Kate M instead of Kate S. Go out with her, get married, have lots of children...

It'll be great

Reply 19

alio~

9

Anonymous

ahh this one would make me laugh if it was someone else, but I feel really embarrassed as its me.

Basically, there's two girls, both called Kate. Kate M I used to live with in my flat in halls in first year, nice enough girl, she had a boyfriend at the time, we always got on well but she's a bit "too much" for me in terms of being interested in her, she's quite loud and a big party girl and likes to be the centre of attention.

Other girl = Kate S, more my type, quieter more intellectual girl, from my course. So I figured I'd see if she wanted to come out: I texted "hey up Kate, what u up to tonite? u fancy doing somethin with me? xx"

I was very pleased when I got a reply saying "yup yup yup, name da time and da place an i'll be there x" only to then see it's from Kate M...I must have texted her by mistake.

Now I'm in a dilemma, because I wanted to ask Kate S out, but Kate M thinks that we've got a date

Just say that some of your mates (who the girl doesn't know) found your phone and for a laugh they sent the text. Just so she doesn't feel insulted or bad, just casually tell her in a joking way that she is a very nice girl and you will go out with her anyway if she wants.

accidentally asked the wrong girl out by text

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