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love trouble =[

Ok so basicly this is my problem. I am going out with an amazing guy (i'm 16 btw) and i have been out with him for 3 months. Lately I have been wondering if we are a bit too different. You see i am quite shy and he is anything but. I'm not as comfortable with him as i like, but i think it is because we were like best friends for 2 years. Don't get me wrong i love him sooo much and the very idea of him being out with someone else upsets me. However... my x just asked me out. He said "I know you are not single but if u were again at some point would you go back out with me?" Normally I would would just say yea why not and just be friendly again but I have liked him ever since we broke up. I'm so confused. I love my bf sooo mcuh and do not think i should jeperdise it but am I being unfair to him by liking my x?

=[ plz help.

Reply 1

Sithius

16

=[

Reply 2

ßlαcksωαn

17

uh-oh it's the whole double doozie. Just because you and your current bf are 'different' doesn't mean your relationship is doomed. But on the other hand if you have more in common with your ex, maybe things would be more smooth. But just ask yourself, why did you split with your ex in the first place?

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

he dumped me coz he thought he didnt love me in that way anymore but realised he did soon after but then i wasnt single =[

Reply 4

ßlαcksωαn

17

Anonymous

he dumped me coz he thought he didnt love me in that way anymore but realised he did soon after but then i wasnt single =[

Don't you think there's a little chance of that happening again?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Thats a good point. You see, wewere out for 7 months then i thought he just got fed up of me and i was very upset. I foundout shortly after taht he still loved me.. That was 4 months ago and he still feels the same. Apparently while he was out with this other girl he still had feelings for me too. I don't know what to think.

Reply 6

aleathiel

16

I think you should stay with the guy you're with if you love him as you say you do. Your x could possibly be messing you around and there's a chance he'll dump you for the same reason again.. Whatever you do, don't cheat on the guy you're with and don't mess him around

Reply 7

The Guru

aleathiel

I think you should stay with the guy you're with if you love him as you say you do. Your x could possibly be messing you around and there's a chance he'll dump you for the same reason again.. Whatever you do, don't cheat on the guy you're with and don't mess him around

Sounds like your ex doesn't know what he wants, and when he's got it, he doesn't want it.

I agree, he sounds like he might be messing you around, causing a rift between you and your current b/f. But if you're not happy with your current b/f either then there's no point going out with him for the sake of going out with someone!

Tough love, love is tough. :frown:

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for your comments :smile:

I need time to think...
I jut don't want to have false feelings for my x because he likes me again. I know my bf cares about me, its just difficult because we haven't seen each other lately and stuff... although i do feel more confortable around ym x because we have more in common but... i thnk my hearts in the right place with my bf.

Reply 9

The Guru

Anonymous

Thanks for your comments :smile:

I need time to think...
I jut don't want to have false feelings for my x because he likes me again. I know my bf cares about me, its just difficult because we haven't seen each other lately and stuff... although i do feel more confortable around ym x because we have more in common but... i thnk my hearts in the right place with my bf.

ah bless I'm so glad. Just remember this thread the next time it happens.

:rolleyes:

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

will do

Reply 11

*Claire*

1

Maybe your ex just doesnt like the idea of you being with someone else. People often want what they cant have. You run the risk of breaking up with your bf for your ex, then once he has you he realises he doesnt want you anymore.

Reply 12

username47781

20

Well your ex had his chance so i would just ignore him, stay with your current guy.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Omg i just found out that the reason my x dumped me in the first place wasn't because he didn't like me in that way anymore... one of my mates texted him saying that i was going to dump him :angry:

grr! And thats why he hasn't stopped having feelings for me... because he just didn't want to be broken up with. I'm so confused. I have some feelings for him... but at the same time i love my bf but i havent been able to see him much and he keeps acting stupid and getting grounded when he knows it means we can't see each other and i can't imagine him with some1 else i mean it would hurt... :frown:

but i would see my x more and i do have some feelings for him...

Reply 14

The Guru

Stop acting like a little monkey and grow up. Up can't keep swinging from one branch to another when you feel like it! Things have happened that you can't help and now you're with someone else. If you say you love your b/f then you wouldn't be thinking about going back with your ex. Regardless of who's fault it is!

You're thinking about dumping a guy because he keeps geting grounded, hey maybe he can't help it and his parents are total ________ers!

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

You don't understand though I would'nt have even considered going back out with my x unless i was having problems with my bf. When i say he gets grounded i mean he made the english teacher cry, he goes out without telling his mum n dad n doesn't come back till the next day, he walks out of random classes, gets caught smoking (he told me he didn't smoke anymore) and stuff. I am grown up i just hate the fact that i haven't seen him like 4 times in the past 3 months and he goes to the same school as me.

Reply 16

The Guru

hmmn sounds like he's being a bit immature to be with you then. Is he one of the boring hard kids at school who think's he can do what he likes kind of kid?

Seems like he's more interested in making an impression to everyone else rather than concentrating making an impression on you.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

The thing is i know he loves me because hes told me, he has this really sensitive side and he loves kids and can be really grown up but he does show off a lot i think its when hes with his mates.

Reply 18

The Guru

Well only you know that if he loves you or not.

When someones says it, they don't always mean it. Some people prefer to have their partners show them they love them, and this works in various ways too. Oh ain't love all foobar! lol

Why can't we get the love we want by going up to a kiosk and choosing what things you want and the things you don't via multiple choice. :biggrin:

There's a thought circle in your head at the moment and it's going around and around and around.

1. My guess is you're going to keep running your ex through your head with all the what ifs.
2. Runing all the bad points from you b/f in your head
3. then run all the goood things about your b/f in your head.

Which leads you back to numnber one.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

Your right. I have to slow things down... talk to my bf say i want to be able to see him more. Tell my x im not breaking up with my bf for him. If i do its for my own reasons. Stay with my bf and see how things go.

Thankyew xxx

love trouble =[

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