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I'm a bisexual male, at college (not out yet), but really romantically attracted to this girl, and I'm still somewhat sexually attracted to women (not 100% how much yet, can't determine by watching straight porn, because a man is there, can't determine by lesbian porn, because lesbian porn is crap quality, although I have barely searched. Fanfiction isn't an accurate assessment either.) xD
I'm far more sexually attracted to men, but find less qualities that I like in men, so there's less men I'm romantically attracted to.
Is it wrong to enter a relationship with a women (there's a possibility I might ask her out) if I might not be fully attracted to their body? (I don't know how attracted I'm to females sexually - could be really low levels of attraction to her sexually).
I feel it might be morally wrong.
I'm far more sexually attracted to men, but find less qualities that I like in men, so there's less men I'm romantically attracted to.
Is it wrong to enter a relationship with a women (there's a possibility I might ask her out) if I might not be fully attracted to their body? (I don't know how attracted I'm to females sexually - could be really low levels of attraction to her sexually).
I feel it might be morally wrong.
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(Original post by XcitingStuart)
I'm a bisexual male, at college (not out yet), but really romantically attracted to this girl, and I'm still somewhat sexually attracted to women (not 100% how much yet, can't determine by watching straight porn, because a man is there, can't determine by lesbian porn, because lesbian porn is crap quality, although I have barely searched. Fanfiction isn't an accurate assessment either.) xD
I'm far more sexually attracted to men, but find less qualities that I like in men, so there's less men I'm romantically attracted to.
Is it wrong to enter a relationship with a women (there's a possibility I might ask her out) if I might not be fully attracted to their body? (I don't know how attracted I'm to females sexually - could be really low levels of attraction to her sexually).
I feel it might be morally wrong.
I'm a bisexual male, at college (not out yet), but really romantically attracted to this girl, and I'm still somewhat sexually attracted to women (not 100% how much yet, can't determine by watching straight porn, because a man is there, can't determine by lesbian porn, because lesbian porn is crap quality, although I have barely searched. Fanfiction isn't an accurate assessment either.) xD
I'm far more sexually attracted to men, but find less qualities that I like in men, so there's less men I'm romantically attracted to.
Is it wrong to enter a relationship with a women (there's a possibility I might ask her out) if I might not be fully attracted to their body? (I don't know how attracted I'm to females sexually - could be really low levels of attraction to her sexually).
I feel it might be morally wrong.
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Hmm I can see how difficult this might be for you, but I don't think you should consider a relationship with her just yet if this is how you truly feel because later on in the relationship she may want sex.. and how would tell her your not attracted to her physically? if this happened to me, personally I wouldn't feel great. Especially because us girls are very sensitive when it comes to our 'body image'. If I were you, I would figure out whether you are actually are gay or bisexual? and you never know, you could find a guy who is perfect for you! 
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(Original post by Tootles)
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Bumping also, any more opinions appreciated.
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You don't have to enter into a relationship with her straight away, you could try hanging out together more, maybe going on some dates etc. and seeing if the sexual attraction is there or not.
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I'm bisexual and I'm more sexually attracted to women than men but I'm still sexually attracted to men. In this situation, I think it's more about finding the person that is right for you. Like, you say that you're finding less and less desirable qualities in men than women however you might just not have found the right man? There's no right or wrong answer to your question though. Are you sexually attracted to the woman you might date? Dating someone who is unsure of their sexuality is difficult (personal experience) so if you were going to date this woman, just make sure you try and be honest with her about how you feel. It wouldn't be very nice for her to have expectations about your relationship and then find out that you're not sexually attracted to her so just be up front about things with her
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(Original post by Foo.mp3)
If you're into monogamy then yes, if you're not and mixing it with polygamous types, then no. Simples
If you're into monogamy then yes, if you're not and mixing it with polygamous types, then no. Simples
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you shouldn't feel wrong about the way you feel, i have learnt that no one can tell you wrong about the way you feel. i personally do not think that it is wrong. so i think you will be ok.
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1. Is the love for a girl in any way more than that for a friend?
2. Is the love for a guy in any way more than that for a **** buddy?
BTW, porn was never meant to be a test for sexual orientation, and it certainly ISN'T. Otherwise all straight men would be lesbians and all straight women would be lesbians and all gay men would be straight men and all lesbians would be gay men
I believe that if you ever did feel love, fell in love, with anyone, you would know it for sure as a separate feeling to that towards just a friend. You obviously can't have a relationship with a guy just based on sex, and it might be difficult to have a relationship with a girl without sex.
Forget about a relationship for the time being. You should base your sexual orientation label on your own experiences and not other people's. But you are right, if you're unsure, definitely do not drag a girl into this situation because it won't help her and it won't help you. Take your time, it's the best thing you can do.
2. Is the love for a guy in any way more than that for a **** buddy?
BTW, porn was never meant to be a test for sexual orientation, and it certainly ISN'T. Otherwise all straight men would be lesbians and all straight women would be lesbians and all gay men would be straight men and all lesbians would be gay men
I believe that if you ever did feel love, fell in love, with anyone, you would know it for sure as a separate feeling to that towards just a friend. You obviously can't have a relationship with a guy just based on sex, and it might be difficult to have a relationship with a girl without sex.
Forget about a relationship for the time being. You should base your sexual orientation label on your own experiences and not other people's. But you are right, if you're unsure, definitely do not drag a girl into this situation because it won't help her and it won't help you. Take your time, it's the best thing you can do.
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(Original post by XcitingStuart)
I'm a bisexual male, at college (not out yet), but really romantically attracted to this girl, and I'm still somewhat sexually attracted to women (not 100% how much yet, can't determine by watching straight porn, because a man is there, can't determine by lesbian porn, because lesbian porn is crap quality, although I have barely searched. Fanfiction isn't an accurate assessment either.) xD
I'm far more sexually attracted to men, but find less qualities that I like in men, so there's less men I'm romantically attracted to.
Is it wrong to enter a relationship with a women (there's a possibility I might ask her out) if I might not be fully attracted to their body? (I don't know how attracted I'm to females sexually - could be really low levels of attraction to her sexually).
I feel it might be morally wrong.
I'm a bisexual male, at college (not out yet), but really romantically attracted to this girl, and I'm still somewhat sexually attracted to women (not 100% how much yet, can't determine by watching straight porn, because a man is there, can't determine by lesbian porn, because lesbian porn is crap quality, although I have barely searched. Fanfiction isn't an accurate assessment either.) xD
I'm far more sexually attracted to men, but find less qualities that I like in men, so there's less men I'm romantically attracted to.
Is it wrong to enter a relationship with a women (there's a possibility I might ask her out) if I might not be fully attracted to their body? (I don't know how attracted I'm to females sexually - could be really low levels of attraction to her sexually).
I feel it might be morally wrong.
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Just to clarify in tl;dr format:
■ romantically attracted to women a lot
■ sexually attracted to women definitely a little, but the amount is not confirmed
■ romantically attracted to men less, because there's a lower frequency of the qualities I think are attractive in men
■ sexually attracted to men A LOT
Romantically attracted to a girl in college a lot, and I genuinely think she has some chemistry towards me, therefore if I persued a relationship will occur.
If I chose to (haven't chosen anything yet), how do I stop the chemistry then w/out seeming rude and w/ keeping strong friendship? :-P And I can see this tying me down until I make a decision. I do plan on coming out soon.
■ romantically attracted to women a lot
■ sexually attracted to women definitely a little, but the amount is not confirmed
■ romantically attracted to men less, because there's a lower frequency of the qualities I think are attractive in men
■ sexually attracted to men A LOT
Romantically attracted to a girl in college a lot, and I genuinely think she has some chemistry towards me, therefore if I persued a relationship will occur.
If I chose to (haven't chosen anything yet), how do I stop the chemistry then w/out seeming rude and w/ keeping strong friendship? :-P And I can see this tying me down until I make a decision. I do plan on coming out soon.
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Sorry people :-P
If I chose to (haven't chosen anything yet), how do I stop the chemistry then w/out seeming rude and w/ keeping strong friendship? :-P And I can see this tying me down until I make a decision. I do plan on coming out soon.
Sorry people :-P
If I chose to (haven't chosen anything yet), how do I stop the chemistry then w/out seeming rude and w/ keeping strong friendship? :-P And I can see this tying me down until I make a decision. I do plan on coming out soon.
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