moving WAY too fast

ok so i met a guy in a club a week or so ago and we've met up a couple of times since. however he basically asked me out earlier, to which my obvious response was along the lines of 'i like you but i hardly know you etc etc' then he text back saying he was sorry and that it was ok and i am worth the wait.
i'm really annoyed because up untill this i really liked the guy now i don't know what to do. should i just call the whole thing off or try and forget it happened?

Reply 1

Oh Dear...

12

No.

Reply 2

FoeGeddaBowDeet

if you really liked him how was he moving too fast? :s-smilie:

Reply 3

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

You really liked him and he asked you out, and that's moving too fast?

Sounds like he had a lucky escape.

Reply 4

shewantstobeme

10

depends how you see him. if you originally wanted to just be friends then it might be harder for you to try being mates.
but if you did fancy him a bit tell him you'd like to see where your friendship goes.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

guys i've only met him THREE TIMES. and when i say asked me out i mean 'boyfriend and girlfriend' style. how am i the only one who thinks that's a bit fast. i like him but i don't really KNOW him. how can we be in a relationship - it's ridiculous

Reply 6

The Guru

Anonymous

ok so i met a guy in a club a week or so ago and we've met up a couple of times since. however he basically asked me out earlier, to which my obvious response was along the lines of 'i like you but i hardly know you etc etc' then he text back saying he was sorry and that it was ok and i am worth the wait.
i'm really annoyed because up untill this i really liked the guy now i don't know what to do. should i just call the whole thing off or try and forget it happened?

Sorry dudess if you wanted to be friends with him first, you should have stopped him in his tracks when you first met him and told him that you wanted to be friends.

Now he's just being daft sending you a soppy txt and you don't want to be friends with him because he's after you.

Sheesh!

Reply 7

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

Anonymous

guys i've only met him THREE TIMES. and when i say asked me out i mean 'boyfriend and girlfriend' style. how am i the only one who thinks that's a bit fast. i like him but i don't really KNOW him. how can we be in a relationship - it's ridiculous

He asked you to be exclusive after you've only met him 3 times?

Sounds like you're the one who had the lucky escape!

Reply 8

chel

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

He asked you to be exclusive after you've only met him 3 times?

Sounds like you're the one who had the lucky escape!

THANKYOU. i'm really suprised how few people are on that wavelength.

it's not about being 'friends' first or whatever. it's about getting to know each other before taking such a massive leap. i'm 19 he's 20 it's not like we're young teenagers for who relationships are fairly unserious things. it's a big jump - you can't just go from virtual strangers to a couple.

but what i really want to know (from those people who see where i'm coming from) is if i should look past this and try and get to know him better or run for it?

Reply 9

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

chel

but what i really want to know (from those people who see where i'm coming from) is if i should look past this and try and get to know him better or run for it?

Has he given you any other signs of being a weirdo? Maybe he's just inexperienced and doesn't know how to handle the whole situation.

Reply 10

Misogynist

18

What exactly did he ask you to do? If it was something like a walk or going for a coffee you deserve a slap.

Reply 11

The Guru

I'd be flattered and get to know the person.

But knowing that he knows you just want to be friends would make it easier for you. But if he still thinks there's a chance because of this he might be blinded by it, so it's up to you.

Reply 12

Misogynist

18

It all depends on how he asked you out and what he asked you to do. In any case, he's not moving TOO fast, It'd just be quicker than usual.

Reply 13

ledge

chel

THANKYOU. i'm really suprised how few people are on that wavelength.

it's not about being 'friends' first or whatever. it's about getting to know each other before taking such a massive leap. i'm 19 he's 20 it's not like we're young teenagers for who relationships are fairly unserious things. it's a big jump - you can't just go from virtual strangers to a couple.

but what i really want to know (from those people who see where i'm coming from) is if i should look past this and try and get to know him better or run for it?

Why put limits on yourself?

Why try to restrain what you experience in life before you've even experienced it?

At the end of the day, if you don't like him or you're not right for each other, it'll never be the right time to "go out with him" (whatever that means - a drink? a meal? marriage?? :confused:

)

On the other hand, if you like him and he likes you and everythings good...why hang around?

Just cos he wants to take you out doesn't mean a lifelong relationship is on the cards. Don't be scared too easily

He sounds like a nice guy from everything you've said here.

moving WAY too fast

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