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ARGH!!! I'm in the worst situation ever. Basically, left my bf for uni in sept and things went ok until i started growing apart from him. I tried to work at it but ended up spending way too much time with another guy and cheating. Now my bf is coming to see me and I don't know what to do - should I tell him not to or risk it? I really want to make it work between us and I'm really stuck. I don't wanna tell him because it would end our relationship....ARGH! Any advice much appreciated, although there's no point telling me what a b**** I am because I already know.

Thanks x

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Reply 1

matt@internet

So you feel bad about it? Well if you want a clear concious I'd admit it too him and see how he feels. If you can deal with it on your concious then don't tell him and either hope he doesn't ever find out or end up feeling so guilty that you explode in a few months and admit tht you've been hiding it from him for all that time.

Reply 2

The Guru

Ok I won't call you a b**** lol But I will call you a selfish one. :rolleyes:

The best thing you can do is end it and stop stringing him along under false love pretenses, and if you have the guts you can tell him the real reason why. He can only take it 2 ways. If he's daft enough to forgive, then lucky you to go and do it to him all over again.

Reply 3

Harv616

If you care about him you will tell him

Reply 4

matt@internet

You don't have to end it with him OP, find out how he feels first. Let him decide whether to end it or not. Unless you really want to then by all mean go ahead.

Reply 5

username47781

You did something very stupid, you should have talked to your boyfriend and worked out where it was all going wrong.

Reply 6

matt@internet

Carl1982

You did something very stupid, you should have talked to your boyfriend and worked out where it was all going wrong.

Have you ever ignored a problem and hope it goes away. It's a natural human reaction, which I confess to submitting to.

Reply 7

JKing84

Do what my mate is doing and leading two lives.

1) The long term girlfriend
2) The uni student working his way through as many girls as possible

It works for him and as long as your careful you can keep it quiet and no one gets hurt. I call this the Ostrich approach.

Reply 8

username47781

matt@internet

Have you ever ignored a problem and hope it goes away. It's a natural human reaction, which I confess to submitting to.

I been guilty of it in the past thats why i am saying talk about it.

Reply 9

matt@internet

Carl1982

I been guilty of it in the past thats why i am saying talk about it.

Ok, I'm just wondering.

Reply 10

Claire_Elizabeth

If you wanted to make it work you would have been spending time with your bf and not growing apart from him, rather than cheating on him with somone else.
Harsh as it sounds i think you should tell him, its not fair on him.

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

i recon you should end it between you two, because i recon he could do better! i mean how fair would it be if he found out you were cheating, and i tell you you won;t be able to keep things under wraps because what kind of relationship would that be?

Reply 12

WokSz

I would tell him. Imagine if he had done the same thing - how angry would you have been if he didn't tell you?

Reply 13

username47781

JKing84

Someone always does find out in the end

Reply 14

anjurdsg

Carl1982

Someone always does find out in the end

cant stress on it enough

Reply 15

mr_person

I would say break up with him. The relationship can't have been that awesome if you were prepared to cheat.

Reply 16

username47781

matt@internet

Ok, I'm just wondering.

No worries, wasn't having go but i was stressing the point cheating solves nothing but causes more problems, at the end of the day if she tells him it may ruin the trust forever.

Reply 17

anjurdsg

I'd forgive a girl if she confessed to me first time. If she does it second time, she's out.

But if she does it first time, and I dont find out from her, she's out.

Reply 18

barry_4_england

Sometimes things just happen, doesn't mean there was anything at fault in the relationship, although in this case there obviously was as she said so...

Reply 19

JKing84

Carl1982

Someone always does find out in the end

True, I told him, but if he wants to do it I aint going to tell him how to live his life so he'll find out for himself and after all it isnt me whos going to have to live with the consquences. I wouldnt be able to do it but then again ive never cheated on anyone, it was meant as a bit of humour but maybe it wasnt clear enough. :wink: